Advice please

[De3tiny]

so I told most of my family that I'm 8 weeks and 2 days pregnant and when I told my mother she disowned me. I understand I'm younger than some but I'm really having a hard time understanding why because she had 3 kids by the time she was 20 and I'm 20 going to be 21 when I have my baby. Now I don't know if that means I have to stay away from everyone on her side of the family or just her. I'm really not sure what to do in this situation. The baby's dad and I are doing fine and we're happy and can't wait for him/her to be here. I just feel like I'm never going to see anyone from my family again..

[klrapson1023]

Im 24 and my mother was upset when i first told her but after involving her in ultrasounds and her experiencing it with me and seeing how happy i am helped change her mind. Now she is excited to be a grandma and loves to show everyone that shes going to be having a grandbaby

[De3tiny]

Thank you all

[maimarty1114]

And im 21 bouta be 22 next month so i know the feeling, just keep your head up!

[maimarty1114]

My mother disowned me also, i keep my distance from her now. Not saying u should too, but whatever you feel is best. Goodluck girly, and congratulations!  

[Love35888]

I dont understand why parents react that way sometimes. Even if they wanted something different for you,  that doesn't make it okay to disown your daughter. Family is everything! By your mom saying that, it isnt going to change the fact that you are having a baby. She should support you. Im sorry this is going on. Be happy about your little one:)

Im sure she'll come around. .
Congrats on the baby hun :)♡

[EmaleeJoy]

Sometimes when families find out they're in a shock. Maybe still involve your mother and her side of the family and just ignore the fact that she's upset. Maybe seeing ultrasound pics or getting her a cute handwritten letter/poem, picture frame, baby onsie or something that says something about grandma. Don't do it to mock her or make her more mad but maybe just show her that you want her involved and that it'll turn out in the end may help. I went through that with my dad. My mom had her first child at 15 and put him up for adoption so she was there for support, but my dad ignored me and didn't talk/eat for weeks. At the time I was only 18 so I think he was just hurt that I wouldn't follow my dreams (which I still am) but now that my son is here he is so involved and loves his grandson. The last thing you should do is get mad and avoid the situation, it'll make everything harder and worse. Maybe once she realizes how real and serious it is, she'll come around. Not always, but just some ideas and advice.