pregnant

[babaraW]

Okay I'm fourteen and I'm pregnant. This was a very bad choice for me. Now my cousin wants to get pregnant because I am. She two years younger than me. Can anyone give me advice on how to tell her not to get pregnant before it's too late? I don't want her to drop out of school or anything.

[loismwallace]

If you don't mind me asking, where do you find the time or place to make a baby? I have a 14 yr old boy and 12 yr old girl and I think my blood pressure just hit the roof. This is a life changing event that can rob you of your childhood and I want to do everything in my power to prevent it with my children. My heart aches for you. I pray you will be strong and that motherhood will bring you wisdom.

Here's to a healthy pregnancy....

[MOM23ANGELS25F]

I agree with JoyRenee... And honestly she can't get pregnant anyway unless she has started her period already....... It's ashame..... Yes, you are 14 and living with a child is a choice you are making.. But being 12 ? Women are the ones who are and need to be having babies, not children... I'm not sure what I would say if my 12 or 14 year old daughter ended up pregnant....... I am however, glad that you are taking responsability for your actions, and I hope that the baby's father will do the same....... Best of luck to you in your pregnancy.

[JoyRenee]

1). Her body is not ready

2). Babies cost a lot of money

3). She doesn't have the maturity to deal with a child, especially one you have to watch 24/7, when they are crying, pooping, sick, etc.

4). A 12 year old can't work legally, how on earth would she support herself and a child? Dump it on her parents?

5). Why don't YOU tell her you made bad choices and what you're going through.

I cannot tell you the depths of sadness I feel hearing about things like this. It is immature and silly. WOMEN should be having babies, not children. She's not even an adolescent.

[loismwallace]

She's only 12? I'd be trying to talk her out of having sex, let alone having a baby.....My daughter is 12 yr old...The thought scares me....When do the kids find the time or the place? Sometimes we make choices that may or may not be the best ones for us, but we should always try to keep our dear ones from making the same mistakes.

[KellyA74]

Try to make the whole experience sound really bad!  I wouldn't normally say to do that being I wouldn't want to scare her in the future.....And at 12 years old she has no right having sex anyway.....You may want to mention that to her.  Try what waitn said and let her babysit after you have yours.....ask her not to right not b/c you'll need her help throughout your pregnancy.

[waitn838]

you could ask her to wait until after you have yours and let her babysit your baby

that should give her a dose of reality