Soon to be single mom

[happy2Bmama]

Im two and a half months pregnant.  Ive been wanting this for so long, but the situation is not ideal. On wednesday I will be filing for a divorce. I have only been married since july and have been 3 incidences of domestic violence with my angry ridden husband.  I know the right thing to do but it's also a very hard thing to do.    I guess im looking for support on my decision and what others think.  Thank you

[happy2Bmama]

Thank you so much for your kind words of support!  All of you have definitely lifted my spirits!  I am so thankful that you took the time to touch my life :)

You are all so wonderful!!!

[twilightfan01]

dont ever ever go back to him. you can not change a man. once a hitter, always a hitter. your doing the RIGHT THING!!!!! good job girl! most girls in your shoes would stay. JUST SHOWS HOW STRONG YOU ARE! GOOD JOB!!!!

[trying43]

I would say leaving for now is the right thing to do.  Unless while you two are apart and he gets some major therapy would be the only hope for change.  Its rare but can happen.  For your safety and the baby you r doing the right thing.  Good luck.

[Omgrachie]

The comment that they are more abusive when you are pregnant is correct. you're doing the right thing.  Dont sit around and wait for him to change. That's great that one person on here had a husband that just miraculously changed, but that is the exception, not the rule. That's not what typically happens. Youre saving yourself a lifetime of abuse, regret, and waiting around for him to change. You are taking away your permission for him to abuse you and alter the course of your childs life. I wish you the best and I hope you look to God for your strength.

[MamaBear0612]

Most men don't change that pattern, though, and with a baby I don't think I'd risk it. That pattern can be passed down to your child if they witness it, and it's possible the child could also become the victim of violence, so I think you did the right thing by walking away, not just for you but for your child.  You are a brave woman, and you love your child enough to sacrifice for it, which is what it takes to be a good single mom. I'm about to become one myself, my ex for the most part has been good to me and he's definitely not violent, but I'll be doing a lot of it alone.  It's a scary thought, but I think if you know you have all the love in you this child needs, the rest will work itself out...nd a beautiful, wonderful, happy child is your reward. In no other challenge in my life has the reward been so great. Anyway, if you need another single mom to talk to, feel free to "friend me" or send me a note. Take care.

[CR2010]

I'm not saying leaving him is wrong but some men do change. I left my husband And was going to divorce him and four day later I found out I was pregnant. I then decided that no I wouldn't go home but I wouldn't get a divorce. We lived separately and for awhile I didt see him without someone around. A few months into my pregnancy we saw each other alone and around 6 months he moved back in with me. He really stepped up. I think realizing that I loved my son more showed him I wouldn't put up with it. He never laid a hand on me again.. Our son was born and it was the best day of our life.. My husband passed four days later and I am so glad that I gave him the chance to be the man I knew he could be and the father he wanted to be..

But every person is different and it takes a lot of courage to walk away... And to stand your ground.

[worriedbabe]

I was in a domestic violent relationship on and off for eleven years. You're more likely to be assaulted during pregnancy than at any other time. You are absolutely doing the right thing. Run. Run, and don't look back x

[Ms_ro]

I been in same situation with my ex hubby & always forgave him it's normal when u r in that situation everybody can see it except u coz were blinded. But I'm so glad it's over now coz I met the love of my life who treat me so well & my daughter we're going on our baby #2 & still going strong!:). I'm glad u open up ur mind & u don't need someone like that in ur life u deserve better :) congrats on ur pregnancy & stay strong!!:)

[stacey10]

well good on you :) you should give yourself a huge pat on the back for being so stron, you do not deserve this and by doing this you are putting yourself and your baby first which is where you should be, youalso dont want your baby/child to be bought up in a house where this goes on as then they will think its normal and either end up by doing this to another or end up by accepting this to be done to them, you are making a fantastic decision for both you and your bub, gather a good support system around you and you will do well :) good luck!!

[amy8702]

I'm so proud of you for starters! It takes an extremely strong woman to get out of a situation like that! Even more so at a time like this, as your emotions can get the best of you. It shows right there you make the best choices in lifes curve balls and will make an amazing mommy. I'm sorry to hear you have to go through this at such a time but, sometimes its better for it to happen sooner than later. And congrats on the pregnancy. Keep you head up!