Aa
MedHelp.org will cease operations on May 31, 2024. It has been our pleasure to join you on your health journey for the past 30 years. For more info, click here.
Aa
A
A
A
Close
889551 tn?1416184483

Starting to get stressed out...

I'm getting close to being 31 weeks, and I couldn't be any happier about it! It's such a big milestone to hit your third trimester, but now I'm finding it hard not to stress out. We've bought basically everything for Lexi except diapering/bathing items. The thing is, is that there's bag upon bags of baby stuff sitting in her room with piles of receipts. This is my first baby, so I don't know when I'm supposed to have everything organized and situated. I feel like on one hand I need to wash her clothes and her bedding and get it together. On the other hand, I feel like it's too early and that I'm being completely ridiculous feeling like I have to get her room together. But everytime I go in her room I'm overwhelmed with all of these bags and I just want to start organizing and I feel like I'm going crazy. DH says it's too early to start doing all of that, but if he had his way I would have to leave everything in boxes and clothes/linens unwashed until the day before I deliver. I just really don't know what I'm supposed to do.
18 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
461781 tn?1285609481
your body is starting to practice contractions, called braxton hicks. its normal unless they start becoming regular like every 10min or so
Helpful - 0
1287128 tn?1331134538
It gets harder on one side because a contraction is just like a big squeeze to the baby so whichever side shes on feels harder. Id recommend if they are coming frequent regular or not to still  call. Two in an hour isnt bad but like i said five in an hour is more serious just be sure your resting enough and water is a huge factor in avoiding pre term labor. Best of luck.
Helpful - 0
889551 tn?1416184483
It just feels like my whole belly gets a weird cramp. It's almost like i'm being squeezed in half. When I touch my belly its rock hard and tender.  She said if they get regular to call her but, so far it's just been random and so I'm not too worried about it. I just didn't know if it counted if it only got hard to one side almost. It was odd.
Helpful - 0
1287128 tn?1331134538
It could be the start of losing your mucus plug which cam start happening weeks before your close to delivery as it often regenerates itself. Painful or not if you feel a contraction count it as one. You shouldnt have more than five in an hour or that warrents a call to your doc. Be sure to drink lots of fluids and dont be afraid to put your feet up and take some time for yourself! Keep that lil lady in the oven a while longer:)
Helpful - 0
889551 tn?1416184483
This is another question, but I didn't feel like starting another thread. I've been noticing the last week an a half that I have this whitish looking ewcm and it stretches a good bit. I haven't really had much cm that's stretched since I got pregnant, it's been more pasty/creamy. I mentioned it to the midwife an she didn't say much. But it seems like it's just increasing. When it started it wasn't everyday that I would get it, and now it is. I'm sure it's normal and all, but I don't really know what it is and it makes me curious. It's not an infection because she checked after I bugged her about it.

Second, I've been having BH contractions and had two at dinner. Does it still count if they're  not so painful and my stomach gets hard on top or just on one side? Or is it just a cramp?
Helpful - 0
889551 tn?1416184483
Well he put up her crib the day we bought it. Same with the glider rocker. But then when it comes to little things its like we both freeze up. I know there's always going to be that chance that something will go wrong, and I can't let myself get so worked up over it. Every appt I have with the midwife she tells me how everything looks great and that her heartbeat is strong and she's healthy. I just have these new mommy jitters that are making me worry about her.

I tried to comment on your page and tell you how gorgeous Marley is, but it wouldn't let me. Weirdness.
Helpful - 0
796506 tn?1370188305
Aw honey! I am so sorry! I know that you have been struggling with this issue for a while. I am happy to hear that you do have everything (even if it isn't washed and organized). You know my situation and how I had to literally wait until the last minute to get everything ready for Marley and although the shopping trips were fun I am not the last minute kinda gal. I do think that if you start now you could very well feel better about the whole situation really.
I am sorry you and your hubby feel that something could go wrong but there is always that chance with any pregnancy but more than likely Lexi is going to be born healthy and happy (as will you both be =) and then a whole new set of fears start =) I am sure that you will get it all done well within the time and feel much better about it.
Helpful - 0
889551 tn?1416184483
Luckily my aunt has a little girl who was born in January almost 7 years ago, and she packed away all of the clothes in tote boxes. So at 23 weeks I went to her house an raided all of these boxes and took what DH and I liked. So we pretty much got all of her clothes for free! I'm so not against hand me downs! She and I are really close, being that  we're only 3-4 years apart. We bought cloth diapers/burp cloths and tons of receiving blankets. She has onesies galore and lots of sleepers. The only thing we haven't bought yet is diaper/bathing items. We're having our shower Nov 6th, and I mainly registered for that stuff, so I hope people actually buy off of our registry! lol.

Yeah, DH really doesn't understand how it all works really. We had a chemical pregnancy in Sept of 09 and because of that, he and I both have been walking on egg shells and being terrified something bad will happen. It's hard trying to reassure him and myself both. So I know that's a major factor in him not wanting me to open things and start messing with him, and why he's a receipt freak! Part of me is hesitant to start opening things as well, and I know it's my own insecurities and fear. I know I need to get over it and get things done because I have no energy, and I've been so miserable this whole time. Between the constant morning sickness, fatigue, back pain, heartburn...it's just been a mess. But maybe washing and organizing everything will help me not feel so bad and down. It just stinks that I feel like I don't know anything about these things and I let it get to me. I guess that's just normal.
Helpful - 0
1194973 tn?1385503904
Id also recommend newborn diapers. I didn't have any because I was told by everyone I'd never use them. My baby just turned 5 weeks and she just switched to size 1, but could still fit in newborn. I also agree with the cloth diapers. They work wonderfully for everything. They're really absorbent and soft for baby. (I use em or burp clothes mostly)  
Helpful - 0
461781 tn?1285609481
Ok so you will need absolutely:

PJ's and at least 6 in the newborn size.  babies make lots of poopy messes the first few weeks/months and sometimes you will change her clothes 3 or 4 times a day.  
One pack of onesies
newborn socks
newborn caps
at least 4 receiving blankets
6 burp rags
6 cloth diapers (oh you will use these for everything!!!!)
Lots and lots of size 1 diapers, she will grow out of them quickly but she will also make tons of messes at first
3 crib sheets
2 mattress waterproof pads

You should start by washing these things that I guarantee that you will use these extensively the first month at least.  AND THE DAY BEFORE YOU GIVE BIRTH YOU WILL NOT BE DOING LAUNDRY, is your husband crazy!?!? Has he been pregnant? is he carrying a heavy belly that kicks and makes you pee on yourself?? Men sometimes are ridiculous.  Get the room ready when you can and feel up for it, the last thing you want is to be worrying about something you forgot before coming home from the hospital.  Also get stuff ready for you too, you will be surprised how little time you have to do anything for yourself and you will be soooooo tired!

good Luck!
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
If your really that anxious hon, get to it! It's called the "nesting" part of pregnancy and it's normal.... Do what you want.. organize, put things together..... :) And stop stressing so much! :D The more you stress, the more Lexi stresses.... Baby's feel thing's 10 times harder than you do.... So relax, enjoy  organizing! ;)
Helpful - 0
160254 tn?1270996478
I'm 31 weeks and have just a few things left to get done.  My goal is to have it all done before 36 weeks.  My thoughts have been do it when I have the energy, because I never know when it will be gone.
Helpful - 0
1186413 tn?1326730549
Well I am almost 36 weeks and my little girls room is not done yet.  The walls are painted and we have the crib and everything (still in boxes) but the new carpet is only getting installed Thursday....talk about a time line.  Not to mention the whole house is a mess because we repainted the whole upstairs and are putting new flooring down throughout the house!!!!!!  I would say if you have the stuff now just start getting it ready.  I would have if the carpet would have been put in sooner (we had to wait because of their schedule).  But I washed all her clothing at 34 weeks and hung it up and last night I sterilized her bottles and pacifiers.  I only had my baby shower at 34 weeks too so all that stuff is still in boxes and bags until all the flooring is done.  Good luck and get a head start!!!!
Helpful - 0
187316 tn?1386356682
I had my daughters room done before 30 weeks. My first pregnancy I kept putting it off and then I ended up delivering early and having nothing ready. Im so glad I did it early this time because it made it a lot less stressful.
Helpful - 0
1027094 tn?1327429732
It's NOT too early. It's normal for women to want to get everything done around this time. It's called nesting I think. I had everything done by Aug. I'd say and he wasn't born till Oct 15th. Girl just start! It will make you feel SO much better!!!!!
Helpful - 0
889551 tn?1416184483
Well my mom went into preterm labour with me at 35 weeks and this pregnancy has been nearly identical to her pregnancy with me. I really want to keep her in as long as I can, but I can't help this crazy urge to get her room done. She's been head down since 27 weeks and I'm carrying her low. I know those aren't good indicators as to when she's going to make her appearance, but it still makes me slightly nervous. DH doesn't understand my need to get everything ready for her. He gets agitated if I don't know where every single receipt is, an then is like "don't open it, you can't take it back." He's such a guy, and I'm a hormonal basket case trying to cope with my constant nausea and heartburn.
Helpful - 0
1194973 tn?1385503904
I had kylies stuff set up and done by the time I was 32 weeks. I was concerned about preterm labour (my family has a history of it except me apparently) and didn't want that to happen and have nothing set up. It's also nice to get it done early so your last few weeks you can just prepare for labour and rest. And trust me. After that baby comes you won't regret that rest.
Helpful - 0
1303813 tn?1303159362
Better late than never... I have NOOOOOO room for Harry yet (he will be in mine!) So I cant do all this stuff... Buut I know someone who is 34 weeks and well she has everything done! She has had it sorted since 26 weeks...
personallly, I would gradually un pack all her stuff and put it away, set up her cot and get everything sorted out, Because you never actually know when she is gonnna come! I would get everything sorted!! I wish I was able too right now!! But I cant and it upsets me!!


xx
Helpful - 0

You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy Community

Top Pregnancy Answerers
13167 tn?1327194124
Austin, TX
Learn About Top Answerers
Popular Resources
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.