Feeling a bit selfish....

[Mrsortega]

I asked my doctor if a scheduled c section is an option- it is- I have a huge fear of giving birth, and I keep having nightmares. I know there are pros and cons with which ever I choose, but I feel that I should do the c section. My fiancé supports me in every choice and just wants me to not worry or stress myself out about- but I feel like it might be a tad selfish- any advice?

[Mrsortega]

Thank you ladies- still terrified but got me thinking- but I still have plenty of time!

[kissingmoore]

This is the one thing your body is ment to do ! c sections run risk of infections this is my third kido an I'm only 21 .
having a surgery is hard on your body the recovery time will suck you'll have a hard time breast  feeding allot of women do considering baby will almost s always be touching the cut . its your choice if you want to have a scar or just get an epidural and let your body do its job .
the saying less is more definitely applies to this lol

[RazisMama]

Giving birth vaginally doesn't scare me but I've done it twice, I think c sections are a lot more scary.

[DelainaN]

Why not just get an epidural lol you won't feel it and you will be up and walking in like half hour, c-sections I hear are a thousand times more painful because of the healing process, it even hurts to hold your baby for like weeks till your healed. Your practically bed ridden, I understand your terrified tho, I don't think there's a pregnant woman out there that's not nervous, I might have to have a c section cuz if my baby stays in till he's due he will be too big for me to birth him vaginally and the thought of a c section scares the crap out of me.... Maybe further along in your pregnancy you will change your mind... You have plenty of time to decide

[Ashdub07]

I've had 2 natural deliveries no meds and I am terrified of a csection. My dr advised it with my second because of problems with my uterus but I am so terrified I would rather take my chances with my vagina.

[tomorrow264]

I would gladly trade with you. I've had two c-section and would never voluntarily have one. Everything went well with mine but I hated the recovery. I hated having to be so dependent on others. I couldn't drive for 3 weeks. I couldn't get in and out of bed by myself for the first week. I couldn't lift more than 8-9lbs for a couple weeks. I could hardly even have a bm. If you are really considering one do your research. As routine as they are it is major surgery.

[Mrsortega]

Mrscookii- heh I'm only 9weeks 5days, so silly to be thinking so far so early but I've always been uncomfortable with the idea and to make matters worse my dreams are extremely vivid and knowing my mom had complications with both my brothers with vaginal births also worries me because I've already had one miscarriage a year and a half ago- and it took us this long to get pregnant again so I'm just worried in a million different ways....

[MrsCookii]

I dont think you should give up on a vaginal birth it is an wonderful experience that you dont want to willingly give up but I do understand that your are affraid and you feel like it is the best option for you so I wouldnt say its selfish just think things over again and if thats what you still wanna do and your doctor gives you the okay they go ahead.. Good luck<3 How far along are you?