what to do?

[breee437]

hey ladies. so i ended up getting my period. i was really sad bkuz i was looking forward to being a mom. soo do you guys think that my boyfriend and i should try for a baby? or let it be in god hands??

[gillianl]

Are you trying for a baby?  if so how long have you been trying?

[Crystalrt]

No i dnt think you should try and get pregnant. Your only 15 you have your whole life ahead of you. I fell pregnant when i was 15. being a mum def has its ups but there will be times trust me when you will feel like you made the wrong decision. Go out have fun get a career first there is plenty of time. Maybe the reason you aren't pregnant is bcoz god does nt want this to happen yet? i just dnt want u to regret it.

[breee437]

well at first we were but we decided to leave it up to god.

[breee437]

yeaa i see your point. but im not the type of person that likes to party and have too much fun. i guess you can say the most fun for me is going out to the park or something. but yea we are definitely going to wait and leave it up to god bkuz he's looking for a job and im too young to work and im just waiting to be old enough to work and graduate from school.

[KellyA74]

I'm not saying that you wouldn't be a good mother....however I have to be honest (and I'm sure I'll get spoken to over this), it gets frustrating to those of us who work to see young people such as yourself  intentionally getting pregnant.....and therefore our tax money (FROM WORKING) goes to support mothers and baby's.  In a nutshell, please know that state/federal assistance programs are great if absolutely needed....However, you clearly know how to prevent a pregnancy, you stated that your boyfriend doesn't have a job, and you can't even get one if you wanted to??????  Diapers are expensive.  Instead of leaving it in Gods hands, perhaps you and your boyfriend should take it into your own hands and figure out how you are going to come up with $40/week for diapers, $50/week for formula, $20/week when the baby starts eating food...etc.etc....the list goes on and on....I just hate to see you get yourself into something that you're not even close to ready for.....

[Crystalrt]

It is really hard and of course a baby is a blessing but it is something you should put of for a few years. When I was 15 I thought that it wouldnt matter and that i was really mature (im not saying your not) but every year i think back and say to myself wow i really wasnt that mature. I just think you should know it is really hard. A 30 year old woman with money could tell you that so imagine how hard it will be without money and stable living arrangements. I just dnt want you to choose to do this...im pregnant with my third and am only in stable housing now...i have moved six times in 2 and a half years and been homeless. I dnt wanna sound like a nag so i wont say anymore lol...

[Crystalrt]

Im frm Australia so our schooling systems are different...i still haven't finished my schooling...there is no way i can work until i get my School Certificate...just thought i'd let you know...i do kind of agree with KellyA74...i think alot of girls just jump straight into it thinking they have this money to back them up but it is no where near enough to give your child the life you want them to have...your prob sick of is lecturing you by now...soz