WTF?!?!?!?!

[Beaz95]

So, my husband just told me that since his mother can't be in the delivery room, HE refuses to be in there. Are you f*cking kidding me?!?! I'm so p*ssed right now. His mother understands that I don't want her in there, only because I'm not comfortable with her like that. Why can't he??? I've literally just narrowed it down to my husband and my own mother, but the  fact that he won't be in there no makes me want to reconsider a lot of things. Ex: my marital status. Am I wrong in not wanting her in there? Am I being selfish? Is this just my hormones or is this a serious issue. I don't want to fight for a cause that IS caused by pregnancy hormones. :'(

[hersheyma]

And i definitely agree with you on this last comment, everyone should do whats best for them, congrats ladies on all of your journies, have a good night everyone

[specialmom]

Very true.  It's really all about the poster and how she feels and I'm sorry that this turned into such a big fight.  I hope they work it out.  And all women should do what is best for them.  I found having a child a humbling experience.  My doctor never actually asked my husband to leave nor did the nurses.  They checked me and did all their 'things' right in front of him.  I just wouldn't want to go through the birth with hard feelings between myself and my husband.  That would take away from what we were doing together.  But the poster needs to work with her own comfort level and what works best for her.  peace

[hersheyma]

And your first sentence was very clear and yes we all have our own opinions  and i disagree but to the person who initiated the post i hope things work out for you

[hersheyma]

It should be important to him as well, but in my opinion it's not equally his experience , it's his baby not his body or privacy, usually when nurses or doctors come into the room to ask certain questions or sometimes check you that ask everyone else to step out, i would like to think reason being it's personal

[RockRose]

There are so many interesting conversations that happen here on MedHelp for the public.  

Prayers for you,  Beaz,  this has been an educational thread.  

[specialmom]

My first sentence wasn't super clear---  I am meaning to say that I do believe that the experience of birth is important to the male as well and about them too.  In my opinion any way.  After my husband's reaction to the birth of our children, I can't imagine it as being just 'my' experience.  It was so important to him as well.