Aa
I hate to say it ladies...but my little Chancellor Bear is a cry baby!
This little boy does nothing but CRY! I dont understand my other boys were not this fussy, but this little thing is a hand full and he's only 3wks old. If you're not laying right beside him, talking to him, breathing on him he thinks he shouldnt be left alone. As soon as I get good and comfortable and ready to call it a night he starts screaming and it sounds like 2 kittens fighting. I need some remedies on how to soothe him. Ive tried:
a warm bath
a little lite cereal at night (he sleeps a lil longer now)
lavander soap and lotion
baby massage
rocking....it all works for a lil while and as soon as I walk out the room to go wash clothes or do something for myself he starts cutting the fool. Help I feel like a brand new mother all over again.
a warm bath
a little lite cereal at night (he sleeps a lil longer now)
lavander soap and lotion
baby massage
rocking....it all works for a lil while and as soon as I walk out the room to go wash clothes or do something for myself he starts cutting the fool. Help I feel like a brand new mother all over again.
I am glad you got answers from your doc too.. I am pregnant with my first and I am like you. I am hoping I don't get a "crier." My friend used the contented little baby book by Gina Ford.. Have you heard of it? I will definitely be using this method. (At least trying) . According to this method, a large % of babies sleep through the night by 6-8 weeks, I can't wait 10-11 months for that. I have a job.. =)
Keep us posted! =)
Keep us posted! =)
I to believe in feeding them as much as they want. I had one lactation specialist tell me I was feeding my 9 lb 2 oz son too much. Well heck, he was hungry and so I fed him what he wanted. It's not like he was a tiny baby.
Glad to see you got some answers and do what your doc said. If the cereal works than do it. So you're breastfeeding and supplimenting? If you are giving a bottle can I recommend Dr. Brown bottles. They are a little costly but they saved my so much angst because it really reduced the amount of gas my ds was swallowing.
Good luck with your surgery and I'm sure your dh will do fine with Chancellor. We have to give our partners some credit. But I know how you feel, I don't think anyone can take care of our babies the way we can as their mommies.
Take care.
Glad to see you got some answers and do what your doc said. If the cereal works than do it. So you're breastfeeding and supplimenting? If you are giving a bottle can I recommend Dr. Brown bottles. They are a little costly but they saved my so much angst because it really reduced the amount of gas my ds was swallowing.
Good luck with your surgery and I'm sure your dh will do fine with Chancellor. We have to give our partners some credit. But I know how you feel, I don't think anyone can take care of our babies the way we can as their mommies.
Take care.
UPDATE:
Just came bk from Ped and he told me to go ahead and give him the cereal at night if it's not upsetting his tummy. He took a stool sample and actually sat there and went through it ( gotta love his job right?) and told me that it was the right substance and smelled the way it was suppose to and he didnt feel like he needed to change his milk at this time b/c he's gaining the proper amount of weight. He told me just give him Mylicon drops and burp him good and feed him as much as he wants to eat (old school doctor). So mommy just has to accept the fact that Chancellor loves her and doesnt want anybody but her...hopefully this wont last too much longer. Especially with my tubal surgery coming up I'll have to do an overnight stay in the hospital b/c of the scar tissue around my tubes from my endometriosis I dont think I'll trust anyone else to be as patient with him through out the night like I am. That's a lot to ask of someone else.
Thanks for all your help ladies.
Just came bk from Ped and he told me to go ahead and give him the cereal at night if it's not upsetting his tummy. He took a stool sample and actually sat there and went through it ( gotta love his job right?) and told me that it was the right substance and smelled the way it was suppose to and he didnt feel like he needed to change his milk at this time b/c he's gaining the proper amount of weight. He told me just give him Mylicon drops and burp him good and feed him as much as he wants to eat (old school doctor). So mommy just has to accept the fact that Chancellor loves her and doesnt want anybody but her...hopefully this wont last too much longer. Especially with my tubal surgery coming up I'll have to do an overnight stay in the hospital b/c of the scar tissue around my tubes from my endometriosis I dont think I'll trust anyone else to be as patient with him through out the night like I am. That's a lot to ask of someone else.
Thanks for all your help ladies.
Formulas with A.R. is really called added rice. this was what the doctor gave my baby for his constant spit up, and acid reflux. so if the formula has added rice in it then it perfectly fine to give it to newborn babies. He drank it at every feeding so if you're only doing it at night, go for it. You wont hurt your baby I promise. It didnt hurt my premmie and mind you the doc told me to give it to him. Good luck and hang tight, it'll get better soon.
He *May* grow out of that. I've been having similar problems. If you cover all the bases, and see if it's his formula [my guy is lactose intolerant and I couldn't have peanut butter while bf'ing] and all of those things, he might get over that with time, atleast a little bit. I'd let him cry for a little bit every now and then. Just a few minutes. I did that [more for my sanity than trying to solve the problem, lol] and he's a month and 4 days now and his crying has eased up. Then again, he might've started to get used to his formula... I can't say exactly what it was..
Anyways, if you are going breast milk and formula back and forth, try mixing them together instead. I found that going from one to the other was hard on Riley's tummy sometimes.
Joy may be right though. He might just be a touchy-feely kind of baby. I can't really be too much more help. Sorry.
Good luck.
Anyways, if you are going breast milk and formula back and forth, try mixing them together instead. I found that going from one to the other was hard on Riley's tummy sometimes.
Joy may be right though. He might just be a touchy-feely kind of baby. I can't really be too much more help. Sorry.
Good luck.
Yes he shuts right up. Thats how I know nothing is wrong with him. Is it possible to be a brat in under a month?
Ohhh, no I didn't mean the crying was part of the personality! Just wanting to be held and cuddled a lot. We all have a "love language" and for some children is it "words of affirmation" and others it is "physical touch" (I forgot the other love languages).
Anyway, physical touch is my daughter's love language. She's constantly climbing all over me for attention. She loves to be held and cuddled. Yesterday we left Walmart and I picked her up and said, "I'm gonna hold you like a baby!" and I cradled her big, lanky 3 year old body and she LOVED it. She pressed her face into my chest and grinned. She's so content and happy to be held close.
So what I meant is that maybe he just loves to be held a lot and his personality is physical touch. Does he stop crying when you hold him? Or does he just cry no matter what you do?!
Anyway, physical touch is my daughter's love language. She's constantly climbing all over me for attention. She loves to be held and cuddled. Yesterday we left Walmart and I picked her up and said, "I'm gonna hold you like a baby!" and I cradled her big, lanky 3 year old body and she LOVED it. She pressed her face into my chest and grinned. She's so content and happy to be held close.
So what I meant is that maybe he just loves to be held a lot and his personality is physical touch. Does he stop crying when you hold him? Or does he just cry no matter what you do?!
Oh Lord Joy dont say that, b/c if crying is apart of his personality then I'm going to have to re-negoiate his contract! This is new for me...My 1st 2kids were not cryers but they have a different dad. Since this is my husbands child I take it he just have my husbands defective genes!
My first daughter was like this and I believe it was just her personality. She was on soy formula, didn't have reflux or colic, and was actually VERY happy when being held constantly.
She refused to be put down. Not to nap, not to play, not to do anything. I couldn't pee, shower, cook, or even read because she had to be held constantly. My arms ached, I felt like I was going crazy, etc.
She slept in bed with us and just had to be held 24/7. And yet she was an early crawler (5 months old) and an early walker (11 months old). She was a very happy, sweet baby.
By the time she was 10-11 months old she started taking naps in her own crib (SCORE)! And then she moved to sleeping THROUGH THE NIGHT in her own crib (DOUBLE SCORE)!
She is now 3 and she is the sweetest, most empathetic little girl you could know. She's incredibly intelligent as well. The reason I attribute this to being her personlity is because she's a highly sensitive child. That is probably what your baby is and there's nothing wrong with that. Yeah, it's stressful, and I understand! But you'll both be better off if you take your time and let him take his. He'll do what he needs to when he's ready. He's just the type of personality that has to do things in his own time.
He's still way too young to cry it out (though if you just can't handle it and want to chuck him, lay him down and walk out---better safe than sorry in that respect). And it will serve to confuse him and cause him fear. He needs to trust you and bond with you.
Okay, that was long-winded. So if you find out at the doc that he's completely healthy and all is well, he's probably just a sweet, sensitive baby who just loves cuddles and kisses. He won't be little forever, so take your time with him!
She refused to be put down. Not to nap, not to play, not to do anything. I couldn't pee, shower, cook, or even read because she had to be held constantly. My arms ached, I felt like I was going crazy, etc.
She slept in bed with us and just had to be held 24/7. And yet she was an early crawler (5 months old) and an early walker (11 months old). She was a very happy, sweet baby.
By the time she was 10-11 months old she started taking naps in her own crib (SCORE)! And then she moved to sleeping THROUGH THE NIGHT in her own crib (DOUBLE SCORE)!
She is now 3 and she is the sweetest, most empathetic little girl you could know. She's incredibly intelligent as well. The reason I attribute this to being her personlity is because she's a highly sensitive child. That is probably what your baby is and there's nothing wrong with that. Yeah, it's stressful, and I understand! But you'll both be better off if you take your time and let him take his. He'll do what he needs to when he's ready. He's just the type of personality that has to do things in his own time.
He's still way too young to cry it out (though if you just can't handle it and want to chuck him, lay him down and walk out---better safe than sorry in that respect). And it will serve to confuse him and cause him fear. He needs to trust you and bond with you.
Okay, that was long-winded. So if you find out at the doc that he's completely healthy and all is well, he's probably just a sweet, sensitive baby who just loves cuddles and kisses. He won't be little forever, so take your time with him!
If he has reflux then the cereal actually may help him. See what the doctor says, if that's helping him sleep better than keep doing it. I didn't know if he was crying with or without the cereal that's why I said to try and take it out. But docs do recommend using it if the baby has reflux. Keep us posted on what the doctor says.
Just got off the phone with the Doctors office and we have an appt for 8:45 in the morning to see if he needs to be switched to a soy based formula. His dad is extremely lactose intolorant so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it. I'm mixing breastmilk and formula together.
LosingMyMind:
Girl I'm a country girl and all my kids were the same way I had to start them out on cereal from the jump and they never had any issues with it. But I'm going to aire on the side of caution and see what the doctor says tomorrow, but one thing about it he doesnt sleep with us at night and if the cereal keeps him from yelling to the top of his lungs then cereal it is. He was crying and fussy before the cereal at least it gets me 3 striaght hours of sleep after that I'm on my own. I only give it to him once a night and its so thin I'm surprise it makes a difference but it does. Thanks
LosingMyMind:
Girl I'm a country girl and all my kids were the same way I had to start them out on cereal from the jump and they never had any issues with it. But I'm going to aire on the side of caution and see what the doctor says tomorrow, but one thing about it he doesnt sleep with us at night and if the cereal keeps him from yelling to the top of his lungs then cereal it is. He was crying and fussy before the cereal at least it gets me 3 striaght hours of sleep after that I'm on my own. I only give it to him once a night and its so thin I'm surprise it makes a difference but it does. Thanks
When my 2nd came along...I finally understand what a friend of mine meant when she told me that she wasn't having anymore kids becuase she couldn't help but wonder if the one she DID have would be the GOOD one. LOL My (now) middle child is pretty well like you described....she required constant attention...was never happy on her own...never slept through the nigth...always had to be in bed with me...just a REAL handful. I'm happy to say that she is now about to turn 5 and she has gotten so much better. It wasn't until this year that she started sleeping in her own bed without my assistance. She is learning to entertain herself. I tried everything I could think of and NOTHING worked with that child. Some babies are just extremely tempermental.
As for the cereal thing. I know people have varying opinions on that. If it seems to be helping him sleep a little longer...go for it. All three of my kids had reflux and I had to use cereal in their formula practically from the start....non of them have had issues with it. Are you mixing the cereal with breastmilk or formula? If it's formula and you aren't already, try using a soy based one like Isomil.
You can also try having him sleep in a swing or bouncey seat beside your bed. It provides easier access for you and perhaps the inclined sleep position may be more comfortable for him. Do you have a fan or other object that makes "white noise" that you could turn on low and have NEAR but not too close to him? Walmart sells sound machines, that have all different nature sounds including a heartbeat. That may be soothing to him?
As for the cereal thing. I know people have varying opinions on that. If it seems to be helping him sleep a little longer...go for it. All three of my kids had reflux and I had to use cereal in their formula practically from the start....non of them have had issues with it. Are you mixing the cereal with breastmilk or formula? If it's formula and you aren't already, try using a soy based one like Isomil.
You can also try having him sleep in a swing or bouncey seat beside your bed. It provides easier access for you and perhaps the inclined sleep position may be more comfortable for him. Do you have a fan or other object that makes "white noise" that you could turn on low and have NEAR but not too close to him? Walmart sells sound machines, that have all different nature sounds including a heartbeat. That may be soothing to him?
I know you think that the cereal helps him sleep longer but it may be too much on his little belly. I would take that out. His digestive system is still so immature and it may be hard on him. That may be why he is uncomfortable. Do you swaddle him? Most babies that early on, only want to be by their mommy's side. Heck, they were inside us for 10 months, they want that warmth and comfort. It's completely normal. All babies are different, some can be put down and some like that closeness. He is just not as independent as the other ones were. I hate to say it, I know you're tired but at this stage in the game you have to go by what he needs. Buy a carrier if you don't have one already and this way you can just throw him in there and you can still go do laundry or wash dishes and even cook. He will be asleep and feel close to you. He will grow out of this, it's just a phase. Do you have a co-sleeper? It's a bassinet that hooks to your bed, they are in their own space but you can still be close to them. Sometimes all it takes is laying your hand on their body while they sleep.
the formula might be making him gassy or maybe he has colic you should call your pediatrician
Are you breast or bottle feeding?? If you are bottle feeding, maybe a change in forumla??
You may want to speak with your ped about this. With my youngest, she ended up having acid reflux and now takes Prevacid for it. I noticed a big difference in her when she did or didn't have her medicine. It is pretty common with infants from what my ped said. She just said that from what degree that they have it, varies from baby to baby. My youngest is the only 1 out of my 5 that have had to be medicated for it. Worth looking into......May want to google it and see what the symptoms are and if they fit your little guy.
I'm sorry......I think the first 3 months are probably the hardest.
You may want to speak with your ped about this. With my youngest, she ended up having acid reflux and now takes Prevacid for it. I noticed a big difference in her when she did or didn't have her medicine. It is pretty common with infants from what my ped said. She just said that from what degree that they have it, varies from baby to baby. My youngest is the only 1 out of my 5 that have had to be medicated for it. Worth looking into......May want to google it and see what the symptoms are and if they fit your little guy.
I'm sorry......I think the first 3 months are probably the hardest.
I give him the full run down making sure he's full and dry and for some strange reason he doesnt like all the little extras like the glidder and the swing maybe he's still a bit too young for it, but somethings going to have to give if I'm going to stay sane. I feel like Kirstie Ally on "Look Who's Talking" when she put the coffee in the baby bottle in the middle of the night! Too bad I dont drink coffee! LOL
If all else fails and nothing is wronge with him ( his diaper is dry , not hungry , not too warm/cold. You coul;d just let him cryy for awhile?? I know its easier said than done but it does help them learn a little independence. Good luck:)
Hugs***
Hugs***
does he like his swing or bouncy seat?? My kids loved them and it kept them quit for a while:)
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy Community
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.
