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should i forgive him...?
The bf has been talking to me an apologizing to me and i think has come to terms with maybe having another baby.... but after everything be said idk if i should forgive him.. any advice?
If you have a daughter and u heard a guy call and tell her things ur bf said to you, what would u do?
If u don't want her to be disrespected by anyone, why let it happen to you?
No women should ever be disrespected.
If u don't want her to be disrespected by anyone, why let it happen to you?
No women should ever be disrespected.
He freaked out when i told him i might be pregnant.. threatened to leave unless i got an abortion then said he hopes it dies... but now hes apologizing saying it just stressed him out cause he didnt wana leave me with a newborn while he joined the military..
Eh... you can find a better guy who would never say those things in the first place. That's sick and very wrong, apologies or not.
Just dont know what to do, he also suffers from bipolar so i know hes a little emotional. But that was overboard.. he wanted a baby then he just changed his mind freaked out and im not comfirmed yet! Just suspected to be cause i had really light bleeding(spotting) 21-23 and didnt think it was my period. So idk what to think right now.... he was saying hes just the donor doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby. But now hes apologizing saying he was just really stressed out by the news and doesnt want us to struggle with money or leave me with a newborn while hes in military.
I think you should listen to your heart. Everyone makes mistakes. He has 9 months to prove himself.
Yeah he said some really fxcked up things to you. He hopes his own child dies???? I mean come on. That's not okay by any means. But I know how it is when you're in love with someone and carrying their child, you're willing to do anything to make it work. If you really want to continue to be with him then make it clear that he really hurt you and there needs to be some serious changes starting now. If you can't seem to forgive him then don't. That's totally your choice but bipolar or not, he had no excuse to say those things to you. Instead of stepping up and taking responsibility for his actions, he said he hopes your baby dies. Personally I couldnt look past that but again that's your choice.
What he said was way out of line and i dont wanna seem rude at all its just curiosity. In uk no one can join the army with a mental health problem. So im just wondering how hes able to join the military when bipolar. Hes in no mental fit state to do so :/ itll worsen his mental health issues most lilely. Causing more problems for your relationship
as natfox said 9 month.. its a very long time to know some one... you ll know what he wants from you and what he is going to do for baby and you... :)
Thats really ****** up.no man or women shoukd ever take abt the death of unborn child. I remember one time me n my hubby had an argue ment. He thought I said I wouldnt bring his child into this world if he was acting like that. An he replyed go hav an aborsiob or punch urselv in the stomach hee if I care. The arguement go soo bad we were talkin abt divorce. To be honest it hurt me that he said that even if he mis heard me. He knew how much this pregnancy means to me. An he cone an apologized striaght away. Everbody knows their man an how they get when their angry we all say hurtful things we can never take back. You hav a kid together an the ladies are right 9month is a long time. Takecare of yourselv. We are all strangers to you bt your the one who has a lot invested in this relationship. An only you know whats right for you. Best wisha *HIG HUG*
my man freaked like that in the beginning of my pregnancy, he didn't wish for our baby to die but he said he wished I would die because it would make his life so much better, I was recording the conversation and replayed it to him in a voicemail the next day and he immediately apologized and has never said anything like it again, it came out of his mouth in the heat of the moment and he didn't even realize how truly hurtful it was, but after that he has NEVER disrespected me like that again and is so excited about baby Parker coming and has been a huge help with our 2 year old daughter and spoiling me like crazy with massages and foot rubs and talking to baby and feeling him kick, every one makes mistakes, I know I have made my fair share
My husband freaked out when I told him I was pregnant with our 2nd son (our 3rd child) cuz we had just had a miscarriage. We were going through some stuff and the worse thing he said was " well it better be mine" cuz I was working alot. He apologized right after. But no it does not excuse it. Everyone makes mistakes and I personally think you should forgive him. He said it in the moment and didnt mean it. Everyone can tell you to leave him but Im sure if theyre mates told them something to the same degree they would not leave them because of it. We all say things when were mad and yes it was mean to say but Im sure he didnt mean it. Do what your heart tells you and forget whateveryone else says. If you love him be with him and expect him to be different.
I think age has a lot to do with that as well, my son's father freaked out like that when I found out when I was 18 that we were going to have a baby and said all the same stuff. I was so upset crying for days and decided screw him I'll do it alone. It took him a month or two and then he told me exactly what yours did. He was stressed, worried, scared, and freaked! My son is now 6 and he is a great father :) do what you think is right for you and that baby and to hell with anyone else!
Hes almost 22 lol i just hope he stays how he is and doesnt go back to being a dink.
Yes you need to forgive him for YOUR sake. If you don't forgive others you can't be forgiven. This doesn't mean he has to be in your/babies life, but yes forgive him.
Well hopefully he smartens up and realizes everything will be fine just hoping it was a freak out and doesnt do it again..
Im in the same position right now. My bf/bd wasnt extremely happy when i found out i was pregnant but said hed be there for me no matter what i decided. Well things didnt go that way. He started disrespecting me, arguing, lieing, possibly cheating, to the point where i packed my things and left when i was about 20-23 weeks. He started seeing another girl & said ALOT of hurtful things to me, basically told me to just kill myself & dont call when shes born because he doesnt care. Well im now 38wks and now hes apologizing and telling me he was just scared to grow up and wants to be there for me and our daughter & be a family. Im scared to forgive him because i dont wanna be hurt again by him or let him hurt her, so i've got my guard up and told him if hes serious then to prove it. Theres nothing I want more than to be a happy family. Basically what im saying is dont listen to everyone else, you have to listen to your heart and do what you want and what makes you happy! Good luck momma!
Yeah.. im hoping he smartens up.. today he went boxing day shopping with me and rubbed my belly.. so im hoping he is calming down to the idea...
I agree. He has 9 months to prove himself. Every one says things they dont mean. Id forgive him :) but im a forgiving person.
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