I need support , please hear me out :/

[prettyfacetee]

Im entirely too young to be going through this.[17 years old]  I know some ladies probably read my other post about my teenage boyfriend who wants to run the streets alot .well today he promised a all day with me and just up and left once his friends came. i tried everything to talk him out of it because i wanted a little hope. before he left he said he's gonna choose the streets over me & that he was going outside no matter what. So i just need support on being a single parent because obviously hes mature enough to have sex with me but not that mature to actually be a man of his word .. please help :/ i love him and  its hurting me really bad to know we're officially done because theres NOO way im going back . would it be harder being a single parent?

[arria23]

I'm a single mother I had my baby boy 3mos ago it gets hard sometimes but I have a great support system that helps me when I need it don't be afraid to ask for help. Being a single mother has its times when it overwhelming when it does look at ur baby and know that ur doing a great job being there for him/her trust me its very rewarding at the end I know because I was raised by a single mother

[lovemyzbabies]

I'm a single mother, i had my son at 18 with only help from my family. His dad still doesn't pay child support but i have to say with just the help of my family n working it has been pretty easy

[lovemyzbabies]

I'm a single mother, i had my son at 18 with only help from my family. His dad still doesn't pay child support but i have to say with just the help of my family n working it has been pretty easy

[shanesmommy05]

I've been a single parent for 7yrs and expecting baby #2. Single parenting is as hard as you make it. First step is realizing you don't need to chase or expect anything frm the father. Step 2 is accepting that you are going to have to make dramtic sacrifices for your child. That means diapers wipes and childcare are gonna come before hair nails and makeup. Don't let the father pick and choose when he wants to see the baby. Either he's going to be a vital part or not (no here one day gone the next). To be a successful single parent it takes a lot of sweat tears and lonliness but its worth it. Good luck honey. I know its scary but don't let love blind you from being the best parent you can be. If he can't sacrifce the street for you or his child then don't sacrifice mind body and soul for him. Invest that into your child.

[Bub02]

I was a single parent (back with baby daddy now) its not that difficult. Like above said its easier to do it alone than raising two kids by yrself. (meaning baby daddy) The hard part is the lonlyness but youl find sumone, yr young and can show a man you know how to be an awesome mum when that day comes.

[amira88lovesky]

When I was 18 I got married to a man who was almost double my age. I couldnt help that I feel in love with him at his age but I thought I was smart and making the right choice by being with an older man. Right?? Wrong!!! I got pregnant Six months later and he left me. I didnt get any support from him and he left me to be homeless. He didnt come for my delivery he wished both me and my daughter dead. I am now 24 and my daughter going on 5 she knows who her biological father is and she knows he made her but she calls my new husband her daddy. I dont get any child suppprt. Its going to be rough in life but you will be fine in the end.

[octoboy12]

I was a single parent with my first its hard but rewarding. He will soon realise wat hes lost ur kid is so precious and if he has to be forced to be interested or care then he simply isnt good enuf or worthy enuf to be in ur babys life. any man can make a kid...real men step up. his loss. stay strong cus ur wre one depends on your strength

[Viinnaa]

I know your goin thruba hard time but i was 16 when i had my now 2 1/2 year old i did it all alone you can do it you don't need a man jus to parent a child yes it is very hard but at the end of the day it is sooooo worth it.. Good luck

[roswangelina1125]

Just move on if he choose the street over u and your unborn child he not worth the time he not man enough to take care of u and a baby does he even have a job if not then its going to get harder dont worry to much there a lot better fishies out ther who well step up and remeber this age is nothing but a number

[Stashie23009]

you can apply for alot of help to make it a little easyer on your self, apply for food share and definatly wic they help pregnant moms and moms with children till ate 5 i belive, im 20 and my husband sometimes makes me feel like he would rather choose his xbox or computer over me and the baby, no matter wat he says just think to yr self ok once this baby is born and he leaves and comes back do i really want me child to be around that? im not saying never let him c his child or keep him out totaly, just think about yr child. also if hes mature enough to have sex hes mature enought once that baby is born to pay child suport in my eyes.

[Dani_Ziggy]

While I'm sure it will be difficult think of it this way, if you ditch the dodo you wont have to worry about him anymore...what he does is his problem and if he can't be a man and be there for you and baby....then your better off bandits his lose. I had a similar problem with an ex but we lost the baby due to...unintentional forced miscarriage so the issue took care of itself....but it will be hard but it will be worth it and will be easier and less stressful to a point.

[prettyfacetee]

Thannk you guyss so much :/

[alaysha]

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[alaysha]

Oh and I was 18 when I first found out I was pregnant. Not much older than you.

[Des92]

Dear in some cases being a single parent is better then having a problemed partner.  Honestly, I know I would rather be a sing parent then put up with that.  It made me sad just reading your post.  Think of it this way: your already going to have a baby to raise, do you really wanna raise your bf too?  I am 19, pregnant and married but I know that if my husband wasn't supportive and or acting like that I would get away from it.  There is a lot of help out there for teen mother or even just single mother.  You can go to college and have daycare and it all be paid for by the Gov.  You can make it, a lot of girls do.  You also don't need that stress or neg emotions.

[alaysha]

I was a single parent with my first. Her father was an alcoholic drug user who thought it was OK to physically and mentally abuse me. I ended up moving my daughter and myself back to my home state. I then proceeded to go to school full time and work at least part time (30+ hours). It was NOT easy. It was really hard! Even with all the support I had it was hard. There are a lot of government agencies that will help single moms with daycare and grants to go to school and work. When my first was 1 1/2 I ended up meeting my now husband. Let me just say that there really are some amazing men in the world and that you WILL find one. We ended up getting married and having our second. He adopted my first since her dad wanted nothing to do with her. Since then I have graduated with my bachelors degree in interior design (quite recently actually). My oldest is now 4 1/2, it was a long road and it is tough but things will get better if you try to better you life. :) Hang in there sweetie.

[prettyfacetee]

Thanks EeyoreMom but i doubt anyone would want a young girlfrind with a baby already :( i feel so stupid.

[prettyfacetee]

Yes I do .. but to know myself that he would do this just makes me mad. we been together for a year and a half ; i dont understand -_- ' but idk i guess ill file for child support when the baby comes.

[EeyoreMom2112]

Yeah being a single parent is going to be difficult but I have several friends who are doing it and it will be ok. Would you rather have someone in the baby's life who doesn't care at all?
This just means that there IS someone out there who is actually worth being your baby's daddy, you just have to find him!
I'm willing to listen and give advice if you need someone to talk to. :)

[Nina159]

I think yes but do you have some one who supports you and will be there by your side to help you

[Nina159]

I think yes but do you have some one who supports you and will be there by your side to help you

[Nina159]

I think yes but do you have some one who supports you and will be there by your side to help you

[JessicaRuiz72812]

It's going to be really hard.. I'm 16, still with my boyfriend/bd but I've watched my mom raise 3 children on her own and she struggled so much.. I feel bad because she never FULLY had my dad's support. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you can always get welfare and file for child support.