advice please...

[cierra_k]

I'm 16 weeks pregnant and before I got pregnant me and my bf talked about getting married and now that I am pregnant he wants to do it before the baby gets here. Me and my dad haven't really been on good terms because he said some really mean things to me when I told him I was pregnant and got mad when I refused to get an abortion. I want to get eloped so I don't have to go through planning a wedding and avoid more drama with my dad. my bf told my mom without me knowing and she wont leave me alone about it and she wants me to tell my dad now but I want to tell him closer to when we are gonna go do it in the summer. Is it wrong of me to not wanna have a wedding with him in it and to wait to tell him I plan on getting eloped?


Sorry its so long..

[maybaby19]

And yea, i planned a wedding in 2 months because my family decided they all wanted to be there...it went from eloping to 80 people really fast lol good luck!

[maybaby19]

That all depends on your dad...i think mine would have killed my hubby if he was there...but if he hadnt been there when i told my step dad, my step dad wouldn't have had any respect for him.

[cierra_k]

Thanks:) I'll find out what I'm having in a couple weeks so I'll just tell him both of those at the same time. You think it would be better if I tell him by myself or should me and my bf do it together?

[Deanna11]

Its entirely up to you and your fiance! I know me and mine are getting married April 6 b/c he wants to be married before the baby comes. My relationship with my parents (mainly my mom) is not in the best shape either but luckily they're being supportive. Although it took a bit for them to come around after we broke the news.

If your dad chooses to not support you in your decisions then I personally think he loses his right to be present at your wedding and if you feel that eloping will save the harsh feelings then do it! And its definitely less stress than planning a wedding! We did it in about 4 months... thank god I never have to do it  again! Lol

Good luck!

[maybaby19]

My hubby and i were planning on doing the same thing...I'm 21 but still...you need to tell your dad soon. I know its scary and intimidating, but he's your dad and you might REALLY hurt his feelings by NOT giving him a choice in being there, especially if your mom already knows. I suggest telling him now and give him time to come around and accept the idea of his baby girl getting married/having a baby. Its a lot to digest for dads. Just try to be patient and understand his side