Advice.... MIL....

[Lyssa0607]

My husband and his mom are close even though she is very upset I am pregnant which doesnt make much sence bc he already has a three year old from a previous relationship I have been raising her since she was 2 so I am obviously a good parent we have been married for a year before we started trying we are military so we have a stable job and home for a child! Like she is so upset she hardly asks about the baby or me. Since she and my husband are so close he expects her to come when the baby is born (we live in a separate state then she does) she was there whenever his first daughter was born (Which was with a woman she hates even more then me) but I just found out tonight that she is going to be at a concert the night I am due she doesnt even plan to make a trip to see us when I give birth how do I break this to my husband this is going to really upset him......

[crstl11]

I would tell him he needs to talk to his mom...but that is pretty messed up of her.

[Lyssa0607]

mmkay thanks ladies

[windyMae]

I had a crazy mother in law situation.. Dealt with it for a decade.. My advice to you concerning this and all other things that will come up is stay out of it 'as hard as it may be at times' doesn't matter if you mean well or are trying to protect hubby or diffuse a situation and feel you need to say something it will always end up being a bigger issue than it was to begin with, so the best thing for your marriage really is just simply stay out of it and always be supportive of your husband..

[Lyssa0607]

But then he will know that I knew and will be mad I didnt tell him.... Its like a rock and a hard place....

[Flickan]

I think that if you break it to him, the potential for issues grows. I think its his mom's responsibility to tell her son. Because then she will have to explain why she won't be there. Just be there to support him.