Baby Shower or not?

[Toni100388]

Hi Ladies, lately Ive been debating on having a baby shower or not. This is me and my husbands first child but Ive been feeling so blahh and unmotivated that I feel like I really don't want a shower. And on top of that we have been going thru financial difficulties and I'm not interested in having a shower. As crazy as it may sound, Ide rather just start buying little things for the baby now (Im only 15w1d) and just stock up. I may not need a baby shower. I dont know Im just a ball of emotions and confusions. Whats your opinions?        

[Toni100388]

The good thing that I can honestly say is I know my friends will come and family and my extended family like all of my moms supprting friends, co-workers, and religious congregation friends, so Im excited now...

[prettyfacetee]

You don't have to do a huge shower, it could be at your house with only family &friends with mini snacks and music if you feel overwhelmed.

[AzucenaSuzy]

You should have one.
I just turned 32weeks and finally decided to have one. My mom told me when it comes to baby stuff you can never have too much or something to stupid or useless.

Im not gonna go wild with this though.. its gonna be just like a get together with friends.. yeah im getting a cake but most likely no games. Im scared no one will show up but whoever does Im sure we'll have a good time.

So go ahead it should help you out with some little but in the long run expensive stuff.

Its up to you though. Good luck :-D

[Toni100388]

Yea, Im going to do the shower but I am anticipating gttn things that may not neccessarily be of use. I do want to enjoy my family and friends. And I do want to play the cute lil games too. But I will start buying things that we will need. So Im going to optimistic and just welcome what people bring, even if its just their hungry selves lol.

[laceylace_2004]

I had to throw my own shower for my first son. I got some stuff I needed, but mostly clothes and 3 piggy banks. I did get diapers, wipes, and a bath tub. I have already said that this go around, there will be no baby shower for it to be thrown on me again. I kept 99% of the stuff from my son so when we welcome baby boy #2 in November, we will be set.

[Toni100388]

@Newmommy86 I understand what ur saying, after reading these posts I feel like I want to have a baby shower now but I can def understand what ur saying. I feel baby shower or not, if people care about u they will buy something. And that's expected that people aren't going to buy big stuff. When I bought gifts for my preggo friends I always bought diapers and wipes cuz I knew that was an essential necessity.

[Adjanaesmom]

I think a baby shower is a great idea because it really helps with the essential needs of the baby. I had one with my first 5 years ago and I'm having one this time only because it is a different gender and its something fun to look forward to. :-)

[Tencha91808]

Baby showers are alwayyss great! They makee you feel likee people care enough bout you to come to your baby shower plus the joy of sharing the pregnancy with everyone is just awesome.

[Newmommy86]

I felt just like you I decided not to have a baby shower because I wasn't comfortable wit the way I looked didnt wanna be bothered by people cuz I dont like any1 touching my belly i'm a Moody prego lol. And also I wasnt working and yes wen u have a party people buy you presents but they try to buy things that are not expensive unless they are ur mother or a very close family member. So not only you have to pay for the baby shower but you also have to  buy watever u didnt get from the shower and its the most expensive things like crib, crib set, swing etc. my bf and I brought everything little by little we started wen I was 20 weeks and thankfully my baby has everything. A few of my close friends took me out to a restaurant and had a small get together and they brought me a few things. But I am happy I chose not to have a  shower Good luck

[KWARE]

You can have a diaper shower...my frienda single mother of 2 spent less than $50 in the cakes, food, and drinks. Had family and friends over and Bam she had diapers,wipes, clothes, and small gifts. She did simple games but it was a blast. My mom is doing my baby shower its my first baby. But whatever you end up doing good luck

[Toni100388]

@mekamomoftwo yea, I can understand that. I may just change my mind. I guess I'm having a lot of fears of the unknown.

[mommyd2012]

I would sugguest you wait until you are farther along. Usually baby showers are giving when you are between 35 wks and 37 wks. You feel blah now with the pregnancy the feeling may not go away! It will give you some excitement to look forward to and pass the time!

I'm 34 wks and I can't have a baby shower! We moved to a different state and all my family is back where I grew up! I started to get that blah feeling around 30wks and it feels like the last stretch of the pregnancy is taking forever! With the move we have not been able to save or stock up on baby items....im stressing to the max over diapers and other stuff! I personally feel that a baby shower would take some of the burden off our shoulders!

Ultimately it's yours and your SO choice to have one or not! Hope you have a healthy smooth pregnancy dear!

[Toni100388]

@Ipewitt44 me too, low key I think that's a fear of mine also. I don't want no one to show up either and I would just love for someone to say ill plan and host your baby shower and I'll pay for it too.

[mariiberii]

I don't want one either.its. up to you. If you don't want it you don't want it.

[mekamomoftwo]

I agree with ktowne. due to ur financial difficulties a baby shower will be a great idea. I had a baby shower at 37wks im now 38w3d. I received big boxes of diapers n wipes, bottles, clothes that will last at least six mnths, socks, diaper bags, blankets, gift cards, n alot more. I mean it really took a load off me because prior to the baby shower I only had a bouncer n swing but u still early into ur pregnancy give urself time

[KTowne]

lpewitt, do you live near a family member or friend? they can throw them for you, if not invite all your family and friends, cake, decorations, and you're baby shower ready! :)

[lpewitt44]

Im also not sure if I wanna have a baby shower or not....i dont know how to organize them and dont wanna have one where nobody shows up !

[KTowne]

I'm only 10w1d and feeling the same as you right now, can't even be excited right now I feel sooo drained, emotionally and physically, hopefully it goes away soon! I'm not usually feeling this way!

[Toni100388]

Thanks KTowne, I appreciate that. I guess I shouldnt make decisions based on how Im feeling now.

[KTowne]

If you're having financial problems, a baby shower is  GREAT idea, it will be a long ways away from now, you never know how you'll be feeling then, and they're so fun. You're not crazy for buying stuff now, you're organizing and planning ahead, it's a good idea!