bad doctors (long story)

[rainbowbb]

I have pcos but am not the typical patient. I'm thin, no excess hair, no bad acne. Normal essentially besides the fertility issues. Since mid 2012 my husband and I have been ttc and mid 2014 we got pregnant twice. Both ending in miscarriage before we ever saw them.
My first doctor made me wait an additional 6 months to see for herself if my body would work and then blew me off, to go out of town for a convention that she knew about for months and didn't tell me, on the day she was suppose to check know me and put me on fertility drugs. I called the hospital crying begging for any dr to take me on as a patient so I didn't miss my chance. That's how I got with dr#2. She wasn't a specialist and really didn't know what she was doing and constantly contact dr#1 for advice but since she took me on I respected her enough to try her out for awhile. After bc pills and met for min and clomid and ovulation shot we got pregnant twice. One we knew of, the other I bled for 2 months and she refused to see me saying it's normal and she didnt have availability,so after a month of bleeding I went to urgent care cause of the pain, she got me a next day appointment to which we found out about pregnancy you #2. I later found out after that treatment we ran my blood checking for pregnancy and she said it was negative, turns out it was positive but considered to low to be viable....and she chose not to tell me. So I complained to her boss about everything to include her nurses never EVER calling back. If I wanted results I had to call. Well, I got a letter in the mail saying they're sending me to a specialist in another town and I'm no longer allowed to see anyone at that hospital. Bs right?
The specialist was great, got me pregnant first try and put me on new fertility drugs and thyroid meds to insure nothing was wrong. Since she's out of town I had to go to another ob in town to "be her hand" at a different office. I met her once and then never saw her again until I was pregnant, her nurse even told me she basically puts fertility patients on the back burner cause she's so swamped with "real" patients. I was crushed and spoke with the manager at this office as well and she ensured me that's not how they do things there. Not because I complained the nurse never calls back and I've met the dr once for my 7wk appointment and she gave me the shortest answers she could to my list of questions and is already treating me like a "new mom". When in reality I'm asking for extra tests to be done regarding my androgen and progesterone levels because mine fluctuate because of the pcos. She refuses saying I'm normal. I'm afraid to ask them for anything because I'm afraid they'll dismiss me from their office like the first one did. All I'm asking for is for them to check everything that could end my pregnancy that we could prevent. I've been dealing with this for almost 3 years straight and I'm exhausted from it. I'm depressed and no anxiety ridden and scared to have another miscarriage. But I can't keep switching doctors can i? It'll be my 4th in total. But I just don't feel she cares. That I'm just another paycheck to them.  But this is my life and it's crumbling because of these drs. Idk what to do anymore.they make me feel like I'm being the unreasonable one, but we have insurance we pay for, not the state, I think if I want we try tests done they should be done! No questions asked. I'm very well informed and I'm not saying I'm smarter than the dr, but she has lied to me already so I can see she just thinks I'm being difficult. Idk what kind of response I'm expecting but I needed to get this off my chest. I have no knew except my amazing husband to lean on and we are both so tired of being treated this way. We are from a small town so resources are very limited. I don't wanna have to travel for every appointment cause winters are bad here. I'm so tired. Would it be wrong to switch drs again? I'm 10wks today and have NO symptoms. I had some earlier on but very subtle and went away fast. Please don't say I'm lucky because I really think somethings wrong with my hormones because of the pcos and they won't check.

[AshFirstTimeMammy]

I also have pcos also :( unfortunately I've got all symptoms of it I've gained so much weight :( I've got the hair that is so hard to keep at bay! Irregular periods more spots than usual but not enough to complain about! I found it so hard to conceive i sufered a miscarraige and when we finally gave up trying and relaxed it happened for us and now I am 22+1 weeks and found out yesterday it's a little boy! Specialists here were unnecessarily rude to me when I went for pcos appointment he looked down his nose at me telling me I should basicly be ashamed of myself that I was morbidly obese which by the way isn't true and he literally told me if I develop gestational diabetes I could only blame myself and he said he would be surprised if I didn't have it already well I got tested at 22 weeks and don't have it but the man doing the test couldn't understand why he did it because I had the routine gtt test booked for 14h April which is when they usual do it! Well after the way he treated me I left in tears and havn't been back to him since now I use my own gp and I wish I just stayed with going to her for my pcos she gave me more information about pcos than the specialist did... try not to worry and relax as much as possible because this could be your chance to have your baby I know it's hard to think of the worst all the time and any twinge or pain puts your mind into overdrive and you automatically think this is it its happening again I was the same when I found out I was pregnant his time I went to my gp near twice a week because I was so paranoid about everything she assured me no question was stupid that I could see her when I wanted that is what she is there for..  If you think these tests will make you feel better try just get your bloods taken and see are your hormone levels climbing and if so then I would try not to worry! Wishing you the best x

[livesimply2013]

I'm so lucky I have a great doctor who is truly concerned about me and my pregnancy. Every pregnant woman deserves that. Don't settle!!!

[livesimply2013]

I'm so lucky I have a great doctor who is truly concerned about me and my pregnancy. Every pregnant woman deserves that. Don't settle!!!

[rainbowbb]

Thank you both for responding, with a rant as long as mine I expected none! I have an appointment in a week with the same dr but I'm pretty positive I'll be leaving her and requesting a new dr. It just ***** cause just have to stay in that same office. I'm afraid to switch and be dismissed again. I'm trying so hard not to offend these people but I can't help but think I'm hiring them! They should do what I ask if we're paying for it. My pregnancy is not normal, this it's my 3rd in 6 months and pcos does effect miscarriages. Yet she wants to treat me like everyone else.

[rainbowbb]

We tried talking to dr#2 boss and then her boss and it got to the point after the letter was sent NO ONE would call us back or see us. Wed honestly have to get lawyers involved at this point I think if we wanted to be treated fairly. And this really isn't us being obnoxious because this happens to others who complain about services at the main hospital. Just the other day isn't went to a new seamstress and she told us she got dismissed for complaining as well. Its crazy they treat people the is way just cause they know they're the only actual hospital. The rest are just office extentions. I'm just concerned for this pregnancy and my hormones being out of wack because of the pcos and dr#3 refusing any additional testing. If I lose this third baby because she didn't teat for things I can supplement for I'm getting a lawyer. They're playing god with my life and our babies

[Tricia0818]

If you feel in your heart you need to switch doctors , I would switch! You need to be comfortable with your doctor and they need to be respectful of your requests instead of blowing it off like its nothing! I have a situation with doctors as well , my sister in law lost her baby last in July. She blames the doctor , though her baby had something wrong with her. This same doctor delivered my second son and was perfect! Now I have to either deal with driving an hour away for care or go back to this doctor & deal with family and their remarks. I know it's a different situation but I hope I could help !

[SuperMom1315]

Omg. I would say that its normal, but its not due to your health condition. And there is mo higher athourity you can contact?