birth??? im 13&pregnant

[nic435]

Hey, ive decided to keep my baby, no abortion or adoption but one thing thats already really worrying me is birth :L anyone with any info, or help/tips i would be so grateful...

[monasuarez]

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[nic435]

Thanks a lot xx

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

There are many, many, many, many more immediate things u need to prepare for at this point. Birth will be the least of ur concerns. Every single woman who has a child has to go through it and ts a natural process that u can do little to prepare for. Right now focus on medical prenatal care, providing food, shelter, and clothing, diapers and bottles and the list goes on, for ur baby. Finding a source of income, work or government programs, decide whether u want to continue an education, what u will do for daycare...etc...speak to your parents and fsnily now because at the age of 13, u will definitely be depending on them for a lot of help, financially and physically. Also find a councilor or teen group that will help u prepare for this lifelong change of becoming a mother at such a very, very young age. Best of luck to you.

[nic435]

Thank you x

[nic435]

Thank you x

[kouklaxo]

I was only a few inches taller than you and my son was the same size lol! Birth is no walk in the park, it does hurt a lot! Just breathe through it and think about holding that precious little one in your arms for the first time.

[nic435]

Thanks all, great help x

[specialmom]

Med help has a forum for teens under 18.  You can find that by going to the above tool bar and looking up forums.  Click on that and on the left side are communities.  Teen pregnancy is what you'll want to click on as it is for those under 18 years of age.  good luck

[proud_mommy96]

As you get far along you wont be focus  on the birth pain you'll be so ready to meet your bundle of joy you want be worried about the pain.

[babyberry000]

I posted this as a comment earlier and it seemed to help a few people so i want to post this to share with every one.

I read this on babycenter.com and it helped me a lot in the beginning when i felt like i wouldn't make it through labor when it came time

I am 5'2 with a small frame and had an 8lb 6 oz 23 inch baby with NO painkillers. I had a certified nurse midwife, a doula and gave birth in a hospital. Do not be afraid of childbirth. I was so upset at the thought of the pain of labor and delivery during my pregnancy that sometimes I would cry inconsolably. When you go into labor it starts out feeling like you are having diarrhea/menstrual cramps. All I could picture at the beginning was a triangle coming out of my stomach. The ache would start at my sides and come to an apex at the front. It gradually progresses to intense feelings in your uterus like something is being tightened around it mixed with severe diarrhea/menstrual cramp pain. Yes contractions get extremely uncomfortable, but if you can keep control of your breathing, let yourself make whatever sounds/exhalations feel natural to you and close your eyes and let yourself go into a very internal place you will be fine. I promise. The hard part for me was pushing, which lasted 3 hours and was very hard work and tiring. I had my baby after 18hours total of labor/pushing and made it to 9cm at home with nothing for pain relief and no painkillers/drugs at the hospital. It is so important to remember these things: 1. Breathe as best you can; do not allow yourself to get frantic. 2. The pain and uncomfortable-ness of labor stops as soon as your baby is out. 3. This is the only pain that I know of that has a positive outcome. Stay focused on the fact that in a matter of a few hours, you get to meet the beautiful child that you have had in you for the past 9 months. I was never a child person, I did not babysit or anything. As soon as I met my little girl, I was in love. And I was in complete shock that I had made it through everything alive, with no stitches or tears and no drugs. Childbirth is a total (pardon my language) mindf!!k but it is so real and so amazing that yes most women do forget after a couple of weeks the pains during the throes of labor and want to do it again. Women all over the world do this everyday in much less sterile places and with no support. Just remember, your body knows how to do this whether or not you think it does. It is such a primal thing and it happens to almost all of us. Remain positive and try to think about how every minute that passes is that much closer to your baby being in your arms.

posted 03/06/2007 by crashingforward