circumsicion

[mommytobe97]

I'm not really sure where to put this, but wanted to get any help on this situation. My husband is uncircumcised and doesn't like it at all. We had both pretty much agreed that if we have a son he will be circumcised. Though I wonder about later on when our son is growing up and wonders/questions why he looks different than daddy, what do you tell him?? I'm not sure how to handle that conversation. Any ideas/suggestions?? thanks!

[rebekah385]

I would probably just explain that some boys look one way and some boys look another way and that it's ok either way, that either way can be normal just like all people don't look alike not all penises look alike. I have 2 boys and both are circumcised, but so is there dad, so it has made it a little easier. they do have a male cousin however that is inbetween the 2 in age and he did not have it done, it was'nt a big deal to the boys when they noticed, but that cousin ended up getting repeated infections (even though his mom kept him clean)  and he ended up in the hospital and had to have emergency surgery while it was infected to have it removed when he was 2 1/2 he's 5 now and doing just fine! I that unless people make a big deal out of it, it does'nt really matter to little kid's it more of a big deal when they are a little older like junior high age and they can better understand it more! Good luck and glad you and your husband agree on what you want for your son!

[ammanda]

Im sorry i hope u didnt take offense to that.  i know ur husband wasnt circumsized. and i didnt mean to be so harsh about it. its just my aunt and uncle dont believe in it and they gave me hell for doin it to my son, and it irritated te crap out of me. so when the topic comes up i get carried away.. once again sorry lol..  

[mommytobe97]

LOL, thanks for the thought. My husband is the first man I have ever been with who is uncircumcised. At first it was very weird, I was not used to it at all, but it doesn't bother me now. He's from another country, where it's pretty common to not be circumcised, though he still wishes that he were.

[mommytobe97]

Well I didn't ask if you thought circumcision was right or not, but thanks for the opinions. My husband and I have already made our choice, and you can make yours. I understand that men can be uncircumcised, like my husband, but he also hates it. The majority of boys are circumcised, as it is cleaner and I don't think it's going to change where a bunch of boys in the future will not be. It's easier to get it over with as a baby and we want to do this for our son. I can see more benefits of having it done then anything bad about it. People say it's been there for a long time, so if it wasn't meant to be there, then it wouldn't. But we also have an appendix and other organs that are useless in our body. That's not a reason to not have circumcision.  Just my thoughts on it..

I like the way you worded it Elixis, I think I'd say something to that effect! :)

[ammanda]

First of all, all i can say is gross!!! I just had a son 3 weeks ago and chose to get him circumsised.  Dont take this the wrong way cause its just my opinion ladies. but I think its gross to be uncircumsised. ive never met anyone thats not. prolly cause its not common around here.  but i have seen one on the internet and was disgusted. i could never be with anyone who wasnt. and i know alot of girls who feel that way around here. and i wouldnt want my son to be made fun of later on in life.  and i totaly disagree about the pain thing. my son cried for like 2 mintues and was over it. and it healed in 3 days.. wasnt a problem at all.  Even the paper they give you at my hospital about it, adivses you to do it, cause of hygenie and you can be as careful as heck and still have hygene problems. and it causes utis and can even cause rectum cancer and cervical cancer in woman if they sleep with someone uncircumsized.. i say you are def. making the right choice if you are to have a boy.  but next time i wouldnt suggest posting it on here, cause you'll get so many different answers and opinions.  Good luck

[Clysta]

I also think it's a personal choice. (Which is why I pray I never have boys because my fiance and I have different opinions) I myself think it's completely unnecessary. Like the above poster said, cleanliness isn't an issue with proper hygiene. I've been with people who've never been circumcised and they've never had issues with it, nor will ever bother to have it done. It can honestly go either way. There can be problems if you have it done, and there can be problems if you don't. The way I think about it is, men have gone hundreds of years without this being done, and been perfectly fine. If it wasn't meant to be on the body, it wouldn't be there.