cocaine

[calimommy12]

I walked into my bf doing cocaine. i have a 15month baby n I'm 30weeks n had no idea. even though i noticed him being more impatient wit me n my son. i beat the **** outta him n since it was during a fam reunion i showed my dad wat he was doing. i spent nite atmy parents but my aon seemed to miss his dad n crib! By 4am my mom told me to call him so he could pik us up everyone was up wit my sons crying. he slept tru like nothing once in his crib.  I dnt wana be here I'm very hurt he things its no biggie. idk eat to do he obviously doesnt care about the kids. I dnt wana talk to him he lies to me about everything n is shady

[mrsh72911]

I told my husband I was leaving until he got his Crap together and got help. Nothing stop him for doing it until he ended up in a jail cell facing a decent amount of time. When we bailed him out he went to counseling etc and when he gets home he'll have to do rehab. It's def not fun to go through, if you ever wanna talk I'm here know all yo well what this all feels like.

[estela92]

Thanks (: regardless how bad i was on it i knew it wasnt worth my babys life. thankfully i was sent an angel if not id still be doing it now. but i really hope your bf realizes what hes doing is wrong and hopefully he doesn't lose his family over it

[katngary143]

Estela yup u r sooo dead on u cant make him.stop he has to stoo by himself ..I told my hubby if I saw u do that I woukd pack your stuff up by myself and tell u that u need to leave...estela thats amazing that u got clean for your baby I just hope calimomma that your bd gets clean also not only for himself but the kids...its going to be a long road but u can do it u have to stay strong for the lil ones

[estela92]

Hes not gona quit until he feels like it. If u give him a ultimatum maybe hel say hes gona give it up but hes probably gona be doing it behind ur back. before i got pregnant i was doing coke it got pretty bad but i never realized it till lately. and the only reason i stopped is cuz i found out i was pregnant. but if anybody tried to make me stop i would of laughed in there faces. he has to see it for himself. good luck

[katngary143]

Wow gurl if I walked into my hubby doing that he would be out kick status and wouldnt be able to come back that drug I dont stand by it at all !!

[mtasker]

I agree with these ladies. I usually am very against ultimatums just because they usually end very badly, but in this case, I think it is a must. NOT saying that he would ever hurt you or your kids, but when someone is on drugs it does change their chemistry and you can't put your kids are risk. I think telling him it's your or the drugs is necessary. I would go about it with love and try to explain that you want things to work (if you do) and that you are doing what is right for your family. I also agree with the family/couples counseling if he does decided to kick the habit. Good luck love, I hope everything works out ok!

[mamaof4410]

^ I agree. You can't force him to stop. You can give him an ultimatum but you can't make him stop. He will have to decide what's more important...his family or the drugs. It's as simple as that. And if he does decide to stop just be there for him and try getting him into counseling. It's hard but it can be done. I wish you the best. Hope it gets better.

[mrsh72911]

I'm.so sorry your going thru this. I know its not easy this time last year my husband was very into drugs but you honestly can't help them unless they want to get help. He thought he didn't have a problem ended up in trouble which was rock.bottom.for us. He just webt to jail in Feb but is eligible for parole soon luckily. Anyways we have a 10 month old and I'm 5 months pregnant with our 2nd. I really feel for you because before he got arrested it was a horrible time. I hope he realizes he needs help and gets it soon. Good luck. Hang in there and be strong for your babies.