missing mum

[rennyjen]

I sadly lost my mum very quickly to lung cancer in july, im currently 13+6 very hormonal, all i want is my mum back to tel me everything is going to be ok! I have constant arguements with my husband, i dnt think he appreciates how hard this is for me right now, does anyone have any advise as im at a complete loss, thankyou

[ashkevin13]

I am so sorry for your loss. Fortunately I don't have anyone close to me that passed away. I do live 4000 miles  away from my family and friends and they will not be able to be here to experience and share the pregnancy with me. Which is by far no where near what you have been through. But its been extremely emotional for me to be away from family and friends. I literately have no one but my husband. and its hard. Feel free to add me as a friend. I am a first time mom, and am willing to chat and talk anytime. " Another tip I have found out that works for me during my situations, is Cry, cry, cry then take a hot shower drink a nice warm drink and watch something that will make you laugh, or a favorite show."

[JessCar76]

I know exactly how you feel. My mother died suddenly, from one day to the next, with a kidney infection. We were inseparable and best friends. It has been almost 3 yrs. I am pregnant with my first child and want nothing more than to call her.

[Sasha80]

Sorry for your loss.  I lost my mom 14 years ago (when I was 18) from a heart attack and not a day goes by I don't think about her.  I am prego with #3 and I miss my mom.  I want her to be here to hold him and to help me.  I've been pretty emotional this pregnancy.  Doesn't help that my lil bro and his wife just had their first baby (my niece) too.  Take small steps each day.  Crying is part of the grieving process.  Be sure to talk about your feelings with others even if that means seeing a counselor for a couple of sessions.  I found the counselor really helped me to process the sudden death and what I needed to work on in order to make it through each day and help raise my siblings (my dad was an alcoholic).  Your mom will forever be with you!  Best of luck!

[elizabethhhkitty]

i am soo sorry your mom is in your heart though :)

[Babycoco2010]

I'm sorry for your loss love.. I miss people to and I don't care how silly this sounds but I chat to them all the time keeps me smiling when ever I need to vent or chat ill chat away and pretend like he is there and I no what he would say I no it sounds silly but I can't help it my hubby is always there for me and he leaves me to it when I start chatting way lol it helps me feel like he is there :-) message me if you want a chat about anything hugs x

[rennyjen]

I would like to think so, then at least i know, in my mind she knows im pregnant! Thankyou all for your kind words

[cindy82]

Maybe she did give you a hand :)

[makebaby]

Sorry for your loss everything is still fresh it does get a bit easier but its those moments like now that your pregnant it dawns on you more. My mum died 8 yrs now to cancer & I find myself thinking she will NEVER see this baby & it does make me sad too. When we moved house I thought of her, they never leave you! Husbands can be unsympathetic @ times but try & talk about her to friends/siblings, family etc that will listen & know how it feels to lose someone so close. Best wishes

[rennyjen]

Thankyou, one of the most painful things i find is that me and my husband were trying for another baby for 2 years, this baby was concieved a month after she passed, i cant help feeling she gave us an helping hand somehow. We used to phone each other every other day and i took her shopping every week, im 27 yet still need my mum

[cindy82]

I'm sorry hun, I lost my mom last year to kidney disease. I still to this day catch myself wanting to call her. She died June 29th 2011 and my baby due June 27 2013, those dates mess with my head bad, plus a baby I had lost in 07 was due June 26th 08. You have a great support system here and I'm sure most of us would be VERY happy to talk. My dh is a truck driver so he's not home much for now, till he finds something local. Wish u the best!!

[rennyjen]

Thankyou, i feel like i have to be happy infront of everyone, i tend to try and spend abit of time by myself but its not always easy with a 3 year old and husband wondering where i am. I do talk to mum when im alone but i just end up in floods of tears. I know she would have been soo happy

[Des92]

You can add me and I can talk to you anytime you need it.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my daddy 7 years ago to cancer and I know that sounds like a long time ago but it sure doesn't feel long at all.  My mom is currently in a nursing home with Alzheimers.. so I know what you mean by needing them to be there when you need them.  The best way I have dealt with that is I go be alone away from everyone and I talk to them.  You wont hear her talk back of course.. but it helps.  Just think about what she would want or say if she was here.