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depression and stress
I honestly dont know what to do anymore. Im so depressed and stressed. Im due in may and I don't think I will be prepared by the time the baby gets here. Even though im with my child's father I don't know where we are headed. I feel like he isn't even trying to find a way to support us even when im attending school full time as a college senior and carrying our child and having no luck finding a job because they can't seem to work around my school schedule. I just don't know what to do. I want to give up. I'm tired of crying and stressing.
Im trying to work things out. If I leave I will have to move back into my dads and there just isn't enough room to have a baby there. His papa pays the house bills, until april when we have to start paying them and me and my baby's father (who is actually my new husband) pay for all the food. And his cousin eats more than my man and I put together. I hate to keep pushing my hubby with jobs being so scarce but I just can't handle much more but dont really have many choices.
i knw how your feeling i live with my hubby n was having problems because all his money would go to groceries ..... until i told him to stop it.. we have no car n need to save he works but money was low ... we live with 3 of his cousings and a family friend there all under 23 i have to girls 3-4 im 22 his 21 n he was feeding everybody i had to clean after everyone make food it was making us have problems till one day he found me crying in my closet n asked wats wrong i told him that it was to much ... he either had to chosse between us or his family ... if he didnt noticed our relationship was ending n that he needed to decide so i kould do wat i had to do for my children... guess that made him react n now when we buy food we put it in our big walking closet .... sounds funny but his family just dosent buy food if they see we have some
Look I'm sorry about his nanny passing away. It must be really hard but you are putting all this stress on you and your baby. So you need to do what you think is the best for you and your baby. You are making everything too easy for them and I'm sorry if I'm being rude. If they don't appreciate you and everything you are doing them girl get out and if he really wants to be with you and the baby he will get his stuff together and if he's not well you are about to graduated you will support your baby. Good luck and I will be praying for both of you.
I do love him and want to make this work but since his nanny passed away in december things have gotten increasingly hard. Im the only girl in the house and everyone expects me to do everything. Not just him either but his papa and cousin too. Right now im just waiting for my spring break so I can rest- only 10 days to go then 4 weeks of class and im done with school. But we are in such financial stress I dont know if I will ever rest
You are on the right track with your job. If he can't man up to support you then sometimes you just got to cut your ties. Yes him being out of work he could help watch the baby but that's not gonna help after labor and Youre recovering. If you put your child first, then why shouldn't he?
With it being my last semester I really can't afford to change part time. I graduate in april so I am just toughing it out for now. As for my son's dad... when I try to talk to him about it it always turns into an argument. Even if I just ask him to put in job applications. Its so frustrating to feel like he expects me to do everything I'm doing already plus find a way to support us. I feel like he's not trying and it hurts and if I tell him that he gets mad. He does a few things around the house occasionally like he will switch over laundry or do dishes but its not enough. Especially when I help take care of his papa who is in his 70s and his cousin who is 18 and lives with us too. I dont understand how they expect me to handle all this....the house keeping, cooking, cleaning, school and homework, and the pregnancy all while still trying to find a job to help support us and with the migraines I've been getting that have been putting me in bed for hours I just can't handle it anymore. I can't.
I'm soo sorry for you! You should tell him your feelings! He will understand.
Hmmm maybe try a call center? Also I would talk to your baby's daddy about how you are feeling. Just be careful how you phrase it, men can get emotional when they feel attacked lol. You could also change to part time for this term, that is that I m doing and then taking the rest of the classes in the summer. It ***** but you have to do what you have to do. Keep me posted please.
Yes and I have tried applying for ir but they said I do not have enough financial need which makes no sense.
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