Young n confused

[Intheskyyy]

Im almost 20 years old and juss found out im pregnant... But I dont know how I feel about this. How did you feel about it when you first found out? Did you consider all your options... Im scared and confused about it all. Especially because theres not quite a relationship witg the father. Hes been good about it all, but I feel as if we bit off more than we could chew.

[babywhalen2]

I was 22 and married whrn i got pregnant with my son...he wasnt planned, and i was so so terrified. We were just starting out, didnt have much, and had planned on just being young together before kids. I kept thinking, im too young, im not ready for this. I had an early us, and it was just like those us pics u see online...i still was not thrilled. Then a couple weeks later i heard his heartbeat for the first time...and i knew...this child, is mine. I fell so hard in love with him. Life didnt get easier, we still were young with not much to offer a child, but i knew at that point that id do whatever it took. Make whatever sacrifice had to be made. He didnt ask to come when he did, but neither did he ask me to be a perfect mommy or have it all together. All he asks of me is to love him, and in return he gives me such joy and love like nothing ive ever known. My son is the greatest blessing and gift in my life. Looking back i know that the timing i thought sucked was perfect just the way it was...thats my story...i pray you will find the strength to make the right decision for you, and your baby. Whatever it may be. All the best girl, we re all here for ya if you need us.

[MableMouse]

I was 18 when I first found out I was pregnant. At first I was really scared, and me and my fiance actually planned to get an abortion. The more and more we thought about it, we changed our minds, and decided we really wanted the baby. Unfourtunatley I miscarried that baby, but my angel baby made me and my partner come to know, just how much we want to be parents, so we started trying. And when I saw that positive test for the second time, I was terrified, and happy. Now I'm 22+4 with this magical baby girl, and I could not be happier.

[Intheskyyy]

Thank you girl! You sound like a very strong women and a great soon to be mom or mommy lol the one thing im really worried about is the due date... The love of my life was killed 2 1/2 years ago on jan 3 2011 and my due date is jan 6 2014. Im so scared to have the baby early. On his day with someone elses baby :(

[Intheskyyy]

I am 6 weeks and 2 days. Im so worried about what my dad is going to say. He raised me and my brother all by himself and all he wants is the best for me. Which is to live with him in WA go to school and marry some guy he approves of.  He might sound like hes got the right thoughts but the way he does it is so harsh. I dont even want to tell him. Im so sorry about your sisters reaction, but do what makes you comfortable. Even if she wont be there for the process. If she wants to make it right she will. Like everyone tells me dont stress!!lol

[mizy_g]

I was the same way you were the only thing i said was i guess im pregnant with a blank expression. I did think of all the options except for adoption. but i dint believe it so i just waited to see if i did get my period. I waited for three months and obviously by then with out a period i knew i was pregnant. by then i was scared of my mothers reaction i wasn't even with my boyfriend we would just talk. but i did think about abortion but i always wanted a child im 18 which maybe young but i know i can do it you can to with or with out the bbys dad.

[Dustysgirl2012]

How far along are you

[BabyGirl7778]

I'm 20 as well but I look 17 so I get bad looks because I'm pregnant however I've wanted kids my entire life so for me the decision, my sister who is 3 years older then me and thinks she's better then everyone and queen of the world wants me to get rid of the baby she said Abortion I told her I didn't believe in that so she said adoption that I should give it to someone who can't have one of their own, I just wanted Family support and she was ridiculous about the situation and told me she doesn't support me but wishes me the best and that she wasn't mad at me as if she had any reason to be mad, needless to say I am no longer talking to her nor is she allowed to my baby shower or baby Birth, I'll decide later of she will be allowed to visit but for now I'm too hurt to consider it

[Intheskyyy]

Thank you so much girls. Talking to other young mothers has really helped me. Everytime I think about abortion it really does hurt my heart. I dont believe I can live with the regret of doing that to an unborn child. But than I dont know how I would feel going throu the entire pregnacy than giving it all away. Theres days I also believe theres no way I could be a mom. I have my own house a car an job all that, but should I bring a child into this world when me and the dad only know each other as long as ive been pregnant?! Hes been so good about it, hes been really supportive and trying to keep me at ease so I dont harm the baby. But im a natural born worrier. iv been taking prenatals and taking it easy. I want to go get an ultrasound to see how I feel about it all after. I have 2 weeks to make my decision. So far im leaning towards keeping it or adoption... Iv watched all my friends struggle throu motherhood but they would never take it back. Will I feel the same way.

[arlandonbloom]

I am currently going through my second pregnancy... My first one, I found out and I kid you not I passed out because I was so scared. I too am 20 years old but my husband was very excited. I kept telling myself that it was all fake until I actually went into a local clinic and the nurse told me those three words, "You are pregnant". I was just nervous, I wasn't sure how to feel. BUT I stressed myself so much over it and worrying so much about school, financial status, etc., that I ended up miscarrying and I will tell you that I still feel that it was my fault that it happened. I still find myself so upset and crying but I recently found out (today) that I am pregnant again. Still, it really wasn't planned as of right now but we are very excited. I am still nervous, my family had issues with me getting married young, now I am going to be a young mother too? And in college? I agree with shelleylatte that I have nothing against women who chose abortion (depending on the situation) but you really do need to think long and hard about this. And I don't mean to sound harsh when I say this but if you are old enough to have sex, then you should be able to deal with the consequences. And sure, I believe NO ONE is ever ready for a baby no matter how old or young you are but from what I see, everyone who has had their babies at ages 16-20 regret NOTHING of it. Sure, it is a huge responsibility but if you and the father are ready to put aside your differences and try it out, everything will be fine. Either way everything will be fine. I know single mothers who are in the same age range that are doing very well. It is your decision, DO NOT let anyone else influence your decision. If you need someone to talk to, I am here to listen and not judge whatever decision that you decide. I know it is a scary situation as I am going through the same thing right now (finding out I am pregnant). Good luck hun, keep your head up and just remember to let no one influence your decision.

[katiemarie123]

I'm 20 almost 21 and when I found out I felt the same way.. it takes time hun just let it sink in I know its such a huge thing but just take some time to think about what's best for you and your baby if you need some one to talk to you can message me if you want. Just wait till you have your first ultrasound that's when it set in for me. Just make sure your taking prenatals and taking care of your self. Good luck hun!

[harlichance]

I had my son at 18. My fiance had a son already. I was shocked and speechless. Im not gonna lie, i didnt want to go thro with the pregnancy. I didnt want kids, that responsibility terrified me. My first thought sadly was abortion but my fiance told me no that it was his child too and he refused to let that happen. As soon as he started.moving and i saw him at the first ultrasound i fell in love. I was lucky and all my motherly instincts kicked in when he was born. I feel blessed to be a mother. Im now 20 (21 in a week) and we are 26+2 with our second son. It can be hard when things are a mess between the parents, hopefully things will work out for you. Its not always easy but it is worth it

[ShellyLette]

I was extremely nervous! I even tried to tell myself the pregnancy test was false, but after researching I found out false positives are extremely rare.. I didn't consider abortion, I have nothing against women who do this but I just know I could not live with myself if I did. But I seriously thought about adoption for awhile there. I just felt like I wasn't ready to grow up, I'm only 18. I knew I had a lot of growing up to do. Financially I was worried because even though me and my boyfriend both work we didn't really know how to manage our money. But in the end.. I can't give away my child. I feel I was blessed with my lil angel for a reason. I prayed for change in my life prior to finding out and I feel like she is my answered prayers.. anyway I wish you the best of luck and congrats hun. Look over all your options and do what you feel is best.