fckin mother-in-laws!!!!!

[Zombonnie]

I just need to vent but my mother in law is driving me up the freakin wall!!!!!!!! She has moved in with me and my bf because she couldn't afford to live on her own anymore.... but since she has moved in she tries to run the place as if it were her own!!!! She doesn't load the dishwasher right so the dishes don't get clean and I end up having to wash them by hand a second time!! I've asked her nicely and told her how it works and the woman just don't listen!!!!! We gave her our whole basement and she will still not leave us alone my bf smokes and she comes upstairs complaining about smoke!!! I don't even complain and I'm the pregnant one!!!! She constantly treats my bf like her husband not her son she wants him to do and be everything her mechanic, decorator, mover, PC tech, lawyer, therapist, friend, son, bank, errand runner, counselor, shoulder, doctor, nail tech, servant!!!! And I'm going bonkers!!!!! He's tried telling her but she just cries and cries and gives us the silent treatment for days I swear she is more moody then my prego butt I just don't know what to do anymore because if we go places for her and ask for gas money she freaks out and get super offended this is her 4th grandchild and my dads first and she is getting mad that my dad is buying the baby things first like his first Teddy bear and toy she has no right to get mad in my opinion!!! It's his grandbaby too!!! If she wants to by the baby things then she needs to stop wasting money on her stupid **** and spend it on real things!!!! Aaaaahhhhhhhh I just wanna scream!!!!!!!!!! And punch her in the mouth everytime I see her!!!!!!!ok phew end of vent thank u ladies for letting me share :-)

[Zombonnie]

Ya I try to ignore it and so far so good.. but cant promise it will be the same later in my pregnancy when the hormones are way outta wack Hahahaha!!! My bf is amazing tho and totally lets me vent and even joins in at times :-P she knows the smell of cheese makes me so sick so she'll even come up here to make grilled cheese sandwiches and she adds cheese to everything she makes I think so I can't eat it or maybe in hopes I get sick plus she has a kitchen downstairs y come up here and make me sick its weird because before I was pregnant she was so cool and I loved her but after she found out it all has changed its not her first grandbaby either its her 4th and its the second child my bf has but my first I think she mad I don't ask her questions or go to her for my pregnancy question's but there are just somethings I don't wanna talk to her about besides her oldest is 21 alot has changed since back then I have a sister that gave birth 2 days ago so naturally I go to her with my questions... I definitely don't wanna ask my mil if having rough sex during pregnancy is bad... she just doesn't get it

[Kendradawn88]

Zombiebonnie, I apologize. I just read your post where you said you've tried everything to talk with her and so has your hubby. I wish I could tell you what you could do:( She sounds awful and completely intolerable! I'd probably lose it, especially with pregnancy hormones. Like I said, hopefully it is definitely NOT permanent. Mamaof4410, It's wonderful isn't it? I have a 3 year old little girl too and I'm almost 28 weeks with a little boy:) I've had so many health problems with this pregnancy and she has been a Godsend. My ribs are separated now and it's hard for me to do some things but she helps so much. She helps with my little girl, she asks all the time if there's a certain food she can make me, she'll tell me to go get some rest when she knows how badly I'm hurting.. etc. I honestly feel so thankful. I know it may sound bad but she's been more of a mother to me then my own. She's the kind of momma that I want to be like;) I'm glad you get to experience that as well.

[kaykay19902009]

I am sooooo sorry!!!! Mother in laws sometimes can be a handful. Mine is the exact same except she is really really mean demanding spiteful rude and to top it all off LOUUDD.. I hand to learn how to ignore her n take small doses of her. I had to learn what to do to keep from arguments for the sake of her son (my fiance) and my nephews. It ***** I know trust me I truly feel for you.

[mamaof4410]

Kendradawn88- my mother in law and i are the same way. I call her mom also. My mom wasn't involved at all when i was a child and my MIL is so different.  She lives with us and we get along great. She helps me with the kids, and everything. She stays out of mine and hubby's relationship to. I couldn't imagine having an evil mil. I would dread all visits let alone live with her!

[Kendradawn88]

***sorry didn't mean to hit post*** Anyway, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I can't imagine how hard it must be..Hopefully it's just temporary and you won't have to deal with that forever. Like I said though, I would try to sit down and talk with her and let her know how you feel and how much stress its causing you. Then maybe you and your husband could try and set some boundaries with her to make life easier for everyone. Congrats on your pregnancy and I hope things get better for you:)

[Kendradawn88]

Oh I don't think I could handle that Zombonnie, Have you and your husband tried sitting down with her together to talk and set some boundaries? I hear a lot of people say it doesn't work living with your families.. etc, well me and my husband live with my MIL and I love her! We get along great and since I've been pregnant she's been so helpful. It may make a difference though that we basically have an apartment downstairs with our own living room and even a refrigerator, so we aren't always around each other and hubby and I have our own time together. It works out great because she doesn't try to get in our relationship or anything. She helps me and I help her. My mother was bipolar and manic depressive when I was growing up and didn't get help until I was almost 18, so we never had a good relationship until recently and I was physically and mentally abused by her growing up. When I met my mother in law I was amazed at what a wonderful Mother she was, it was like I finally got to experience what a real Mom was. Maybe that's why I love her so much and we get along so well? Any