my husband..need vent

[gugzii]

We got married in march n i got prego in april..we'd been together fr 5 years before that..after marriage i moved to Dubai with him cuz of hid job..he told me in the begining that we wud have babies after 1 or 2 years as he thought he being 26 is not ready tto be a father.on the other hand he never used condom n used the pull out method n didnt let me use a pill.when i got prego he acted normal not happy not sad .. Since then i have been suffering.all he has done this time is go to office n after coming home religiously log in to facebook n youtube stalking other profles n listening to dumb music till he goes to sleep.i wasnt insured for my pregnancy so in my 6th month he sent me back to my home country to my mom's house. My mom livss with my brother n his pregnant wife..i ceel unwelcomed n pregnancy competition is going on 24/7 here..and my husband back in dubai is enjoying his bachelor life..not bothered abt me..his mom keeps on calling me asking me if he sends me money etc...i m now 34weeks n i m sooo depressed.. Sorry abt my story but i hv no one to talk to.

[gugzii]

Thankyou so much for ur support.. And yes i m allowed by my religion to give him divorce.i loved him n wanted to be with him till i got prego n saw his behaviour..its just that according to my religion i cant divorce till my delivery so that he cannot deny from his obligations towards the baby..
I know if there wud be any other issue he wud react the same way.there r other things said by him which made me realize he regrets marrying me n not ready for risponsibility

[ashleyfife]

I agree with all the ladies above... id be upset too. and if he thinks that he is too young for a baby he should've let you take the pill or used a condom.I've learned that pregnant women are strong ladies. and even stronger when they do it by themselves. my husband told me that 20 yearr old for hin was too young. I know it is but when you don't use anything to prevent it I told him to suck it up and be a man cause we were having this baby and I sure in the heck didn't make this baby alone!!! I hope the best for you. and I hope you stay strong!

[honeydew21]

Honestly, I'd divorce him and then move away from everyone. I don't know if you have that option or not, but he doesn't deserve to have you or the baby in his life. He's being selfish and immature. 26 if plenty old enough to man up to his responsibilities and be a father.

[gugzii]

N ty for the support ladies.. God bless u all n ur families.. Xoxo

[gugzii]

I have got gastational diabities n irregular heartbeat due to the depression i have faced..i belong to a muslim family n we dont make physical relationship or start living with our partners without getting married...we used to date n talk on phone.n cudnt realise how wud he turn out to be a living partner..i regret

[gugzii]

I m a chartered accountant myself n as i mobed to dubai n got pregnant, i cudnt start my job
His mom wanted to give gifts to her sisters n hold for her daughter she took the honeymoon amount frm us n i compromised as i thought mobving to dubai wud itself be a honeymoon.
Ever since our marital life he started saying "i m too young to b a father at the age of 26".. Although i was taken aback but i still compromised as he is also a chartred accountant n wanted to study further which id quite expensive..
But after my pregnancy i used to be home all the time waiting for him.after coming from office he used to be on facebook .. I have seen him checking out my female frnds n his female frnds pics all the time.. I saw him watching wierd videos on net n thn mastrbting..i felt so humiliated as if i m not enuff for him
n now all he talks abt is how n wen wud i start working asap after my delivery n that i look like a fat aunty due to my pregnancy.. My heart aches n i m really planning to leave him after i deliver.

[lisa1905]

i am sorry about these things happening to u. if u look at the good side u have only few more weeks to go  and have ur baby in  ur arms . dont listen to his mom , who cares what she is saying , dont tell her what is happening in ur life any time that she call , try to change the conversation to her , and dont report any news to her. about ur husband, he can not stay for life time in dubai , he is coming back soon enought to get the pay back. about extra weight , as Ashelen said ur gorgeous , eat as much as u can eat , after u have the baby u can get indiet and loss it  all is good to be pragnant and eat what ever u want. be strong, u can do it . in my openion womans are more stronger then guys , guys just have a  big mouth take care ur self :)

[Haylin2012]

Ashelen is right.

I would file for divorce. open up your doors for someone who actually deserves you.

[Ashelen]

your mom should pay for your first pregnancy? how on earth does THAT logic work???

I'd personally save up that money and file for divorce. You're already going this alone anyway, how awful.

No one should say you look ugly when you're pregnant. Even if you gained 200lbs.

You are gorgeous, and strong, and capable...you do NOT need this guy dragging you down. He is still obligated to support the baby even if you get a divorce, and since he's already 100% absent anyway...what do you have to lose?

I'm so sorry hon. No one should deal with this, EVER, but especially while pregnant.

[gugzii]

Coffeebuzzedliz...he is sending me money cuz that expence is not even quarter of wat he wud pay had i been delivering in dubai.thats wat pisses off his mom since she thinks that my mom should pay for my 1st pregnancy

On the other hand my husband thinks sending money is the only obligation he has..i need a husband to support me .even if he is not there for me he should support me by talking to me n atleast encouraging me.but wen i say all this to him he either doesnt say anything or just say that "i m sending u money every month"...

Keeps on telling me how ugly i look after gaining all this weight..i feel i m gonna colaspe :'(

[coffeebuzzedliz]

You husband if you can call him that is being incredibly selfish and does NOT deserve you! You are right, if he did not want you to get pregnant then he should have used a condom/pill and prevented it. I am sorry that you are going through all of this, espcailly since a baby is suppose to be an amazingly happy time in your life. Try to focus on taking care of yourself and your baby because that is the most important thing. Ensure that your husband is sending you money, you deserve that and he needs to take some responsibility even if it is just monitary. You can not make him be a good person or step up and be a good father. Just be the best mom that you can be a realize that you will get through this and everything will be OK. When you see your new baby all the BS will fade. Good Luck and take care of yourself.

[gugzii]

I m having a boy.. U know it hurts so much that i have to face my current condition alone. Be it me being in pain or me having contractions or me just being alone..all i see is his status updates abt he having fun or just a call where he is like "hi wassup?hows my baby doing?ok i gottogo gym"

[Proudmommie2012]

Omg what is wrong with men these days?!?! They're just so selfish!!! Don't be too worried because the child u r about to bring in the world will be with u forever! Btw what r u having?