I am so mad!! vent...

[DNP47]

So I was not telling anyone that I was pregnant due to my circumstances. I have a large partial abruption, frequent bleeding, ect. My husband knows very well that I didnt want to tell anyone in case something happens. It will be so hard for me to have to explain it to everyone if we lose this child. I would much rather keep this to ourselves and avoid that heartache if it happens. Im 14 weeks and had an appointment a few days ago saying that baby is measuring a week behind, and my bleed is bigger. Doc says prepare yourself for this not to end in an actual birth.

Here is my vent....My husband went to a get together last night, had a few drinks and told EVERYONE!! Who in turn posted it on fb, which caused my whole family to see and find out the news that way. Now my family is peeved at me for not saying anything, and finding out the news via fb. I am beyond mad. I cant even look at him, I feel he is making this 1000 times harder on me.

[steph_ut]

I am sorry to hear this. Hopefully, a quick note or conversation with your family members who were informed will help. I hope they will be understanding and a support to you as you see where this leads.

As for your husband, has he been to your appointments and heard such frank comments from your doctor? If not, I would suggest you start having him go with you. I know for my husband it was very sobering to hear bad news from the doctor directly instead of through me afterwards. Not only did it "cool his heels" a little, it also made it so that it was more like we were going through it together rather than him supporting me. He is a very supportive spouse regardless - one I am very fortunate to have in my life - but it helped as we have had some scares with this pregnancy.

[DNP47]

I totally get that he is happy, but it is very hard for me to be happy about the pregnancy. Its not like I am unhappy, its that I am utterly terrified. Also I have something wrong with m heart, which makes the abruption senario that much scarier (I have low blood volume as it is, it wouldnt take much of an abruption for my heart to give out).

Jamie: I am so sorry for your loss:( I lost one at 12 weeks and I couldnt imagine being 20 weeks and losing one, my heart just hurts for you. That is exactly why I am upset, I know how hard it is when people say how sorry they are for you, but even more so when people say the dreaded "well it happened for a reason". I had serveral people tell me that. At that time in your grief that is the absolute last thing you ever want to hear. Im like ok, well im so glad there was a reason that my baby died, that is so comforting to me right now...

[jamie4321]

i dont blame u for being mad he should have never told anyone it is harder on u when everone comes up to u and says so sorry for your loss at least it was for me i would brake down everytime someone did that so i understand why u want to keep it to yourself.its hard on us trying to get over the loss and even more so with everyone coming to u and saying that over and over.and by the way who ever post it on fb had no right doing that to u thats something that should be up to u if u wanted it posted r not i think that was very rude of them to post that and i think i would be pistoff at that person allso.god some people i would never had done that to anyone.if u ever need to talk am here i know what its like to loss a baby lost mine at 20 weeks a lil girl so know how it feels.

[mommyoftwosoon2012]

Understandably I see why your upset but he is happy and excited try to put yourself in his shoes I see your fear honestly i myself fear the worst everyday although me n the baby are healthy I always try to prepare for the day they tell me something is wrong but you cant let that defined your pregnancy a friend of mine healthy her baby also healthy and she lost him at 8months pregnant please try to understand he didn't do it to hurt you nor was it intentionally he is just a excited new father....Good luck n Congratulations I hope/pray everything will be perfect for you n your new family