how should i tell him

[crazymama78]

My boyfriend and i just broke up and it was bad. I found out i am pregnant with his kid. I tried to get him to come talk to me but he is always to busy with work or mma. I am already a single mom ( divorced) and he is a dead beat. I know my ex boyfriend has a right to know but not sure how to tell him. He also gets angry very easy. Why we ended it. :(

[crazymama78]

He work and then showers and go to the gym for mma almost every night. He has been there all the time lately due to a big fight coming up that he is training for.
Next Friday is that fight. He is the top fighter in this one. I don't want to tell him before that so he is focused on his fight and not me or the baby.
Then that saturday,(after the fight)  my sister said she would go with me. We are going to show up with his stuff. I will have the note, dr letter and pee test with me. I am going to try and see if he will talk to me so I can tell him face to face, if he won't then I will leave all the things for him. There is no way to throw out a prego stick with out knowing what it is. So if he does not read the letter he still will know what I was trying to say.
I am leaving it up to him if he wants to be a part of this childs life or not. But I am having the baby. I think this is the best way for the moment.
I am so upset tho. I still love him, and so much of me wants us back together now more then ever. And these hormones are not helping lol. I cried in the car to a stupid talk show this morning lol.
Thank you all. It's nice to have you all to talk to :) HUGS TO YOU ALL

[trying43]

I think thats a good idea about dropping his stuff off at his place and leave a letter.  If there is no response in a week or two then call or text.  That way there is no angry blowups or anything.  I don't think its disrespectful it just keeps things from getting out of hand.

[clolvsdaz]

In a non stalking way could you not turn up ar his work finishing time depending where he works u only need 5mins of his time. Be clear what you want if you dont want to get back together tell him i mean you dont want to be putting you ur child n unborn in danger. Just dont let him pressure you. Hope everything turns out well

[neek_22]

I would jux tell hym before he say its not hys , after dat jux be lik hell wit hym ...yu an ur kid against da wrld

[buggie216]

Why dont you just go show up at his plsce?? I mean...you know where he lives...right? Then theres his job...maybe just show up there... SUPRISE...IM PREGNANT!!

[mamainmay]

I would do all that I could to try to let him know...call, text, write a letter..but if all else fails wait until baby is born and take his behind to court for child support...that will get his attention..what a jerk!

[Raevicious]

I had the same situation. I told him straight up and then he proceeded to cause a huge scene and now is demanding a blood test. I did some research and turns out he lied to me and already has a kid he has ditched and has been hiding from the state cuz of child support. He's the only one that's going to be surprised when that kid comes out his. Just remember, as hard as it may be, in 9 months he's going to have to face the facts and either own up, or dip out. I hope for your sake he owns up, unlike mine and dip out and insult you the whole way

[stacey10]

the only problem with a letter is that he may just throw it away and not read it, I was going to say txt him, but he maynot read that either, hmm tough one if he being a pain in the arse... well you can only try and if it doesnt work, wait abit to let him calm down  and try in a month or so

[marajean21]

The way he is acting is disrespectful even for him not knowing your pregnant. I kinda like the idea of a letter with the rest of his belongings but in a week if he doesn't contact you, ask him if it's safe to assume he won't ever be in the pic. That way if he didn't read it or threw it out, it'll get him to eithet read it or ask what you're talking about and you can tell him then

[mrscrawford28]

If he keeps blowing you off try posting it on Facebook and telling his family. That's what I had to do with my sons father I told his mom because he wouldn't talk to me.

[mrscrawford28]

If he keeps blowing you off try posting it on Facebook and telling his family. That's what I had to do with my sons father I told his mom because he wouldn't talk to me.

[Mom2amiracle2012]

Tell him on the phone or in a public place.

[crazymama78]

Thank you. Already tried the its very important, trying to talk face to face. I still have some of his things. Thinking about adding a letter and paper from Dr. And drop it off at his place. Then he can take the time he needs before responding to me if needed. I just don't want to be disrespectful. Do you all think that's a ok way

[trying43]

Well if he wont meet you in person call him and say hey look I wanted to tell you in person but your always busy but im pregnant.  And if you can't contact him on the phone, text him and if all else fails send him a letter!  It may be better if you don't tell him in person if he has anger issues.  Good luck

[marajean21]

Tell him it's important you two talk face to face and you're not gonna go crazy ex gf on him, it's just VERY important. If he bliws you off again, you really have no choice other than to throw a text his way which can vary how you want to do it..my ex wouldn't even answer my calls for days so I just texted him I hope he's gonna at least show a lil more interest in his child. That got him calling me. But the only other way without just popping up is sending one of those we're expecting cards to his place. Again in that, it can say anything like this is what I wanted to tell you or get as mean as you want bc he really has no reason to blow you off if you say it's important

[mrsreeder2be]

Just tell him. If you know he's going to take it bad, then oh well. I'm sure he's not going to be happy no matter how you tell him.