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i had my baby at 24 weeks!
well last nite it was a really rough nite we had to make the decison to give birth, the fluid was lower and he was breached so i went in for a c-section at 1140 pm and he was born at 1205 am this morning....he surgery went really good, what im worried is about my baby....he weigthed 1lbs 7 oz, hes been in the NICU ever since and today it was the first time i could see him....i broke down in tears and just codunt stop crying, i feel so bad for him, i cant help him and i really did tried my best on keeping him in my belly, i dont know why this has happend to me, its like in 1 week my whole life just changed up and down, this is my first baby and im just so emotionally drained i dont know how long i can hold, im in pain i hurt everywhere im still in the hospital i finally started using the bathroom on my own and walking around a little, if everything goes well i should be out on sunday, and knowing i will be leaving my baby here its just so sad, my husband has been a really big support for me hes strong for me and the baby hes been taking care of me in everyway and i just feel so sad not being able to be there for both of my mens, when im usually the shoulder to cry now i need someones else shoulder to cry on, i never thought having a baby would be this emotionally and mentally challenged and i wonder why god is doing this to me?? is this a way to test him how strong i really am?? i worked so hard to finally have a family i have always dreamed of having and now that i had finally reached the dream i feel like i have to fight for it........i just really hope my baby will make it im in tears as a write this i just need support from anyone whos been where ive been or even if you havent just knowing that someone is there listening to me is a really big help,
thank you so much and im really trying my best....keep me and the baby in ur prayers his name is GABRIELE GIUSEPPE PIO,
thank you,
-LM
thank you so much and im really trying my best....keep me and the baby in ur prayers his name is GABRIELE GIUSEPPE PIO,
thank you,
-LM
I've never been in your position so I won't even say I know how you feel because I don't.
I will keep you in my thoughts, and hope that your baby stays strong. I do know a woman that had her baby, through c-section as well due to the baby being in distress, 13-14 weeks early (was in NICU till almost her due date) and she is a happy bouncing 2 year old now. I wish I had more experience with this to share with you. As hard as it is right now you have to stay strong and keep hope/faith. As I said I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts.
I will keep you in my thoughts, and hope that your baby stays strong. I do know a woman that had her baby, through c-section as well due to the baby being in distress, 13-14 weeks early (was in NICU till almost her due date) and she is a happy bouncing 2 year old now. I wish I had more experience with this to share with you. As hard as it is right now you have to stay strong and keep hope/faith. As I said I will keep you and your baby in my thoughts.
I really wish all the best for you and lil Gabriele. I will keep your family in my prayers. Please, don't be hard on yourself, it was nothing you did. Let us know how things go for you!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Congratulations to you and your husband! I posted back to you when you asked about odds for an early baby about a week ago...I'm not sure you remember me (you've had a lot on your mind) but I used to babysit for a little girl who was born approx. 4 months early and she turned out fine. It was a long road and a long stay in the hospital but she made it! Stay positive and say your prayers (we will too) and keep us posted. You let your hubby take care of you, you need it.
I can't imagine what you are going thru, but it seems as though you are so strong.....You and baby Gabriele will be on my mind and in my prayers......
I completely know where you are coming from. I had my son at 28 weeks, 15 years ago, when that was the cut off point for any chance of making it. Where you are now... I know how empty you feel, without your baby, and I am not going to lie to you and say going home is any easier. But you have to be strong, you will have a long road of may ups and downs for the next few weeks, to months.. Some days will be sun shine and the next you will be asking the one question, I did so many times, "Will my baby live?" But the doctors are good, and they will do everything they can to get you both threw this. Things happen for a reason, and well maybe your baby will grow up to be something great. Here are a few things you need to get ready for, CPR, monitors coming home with you to tell you if they are breathing, and long nights and days of waiting.. I use to get to that hospital at around 10am for the mid morning feeding and stay till 10pm at night, I even got to take my son hom at only 4.5lbs, because I was there so much. If they have a room to stay over before you take him home, do so.. And just remember the longer the better.. You should also look into early intervention programs in your area for premeeies, some have waiting lists, so when you get home you can get started. My son, I have to say, is above the IQ of other kids his age, but he is on the JV baseball team and was a top swimmer in PA. So they do grow up to be perfect, and the biggest joy in your life. You will never forget, and you will always be scared the next time you are pg. My second son was born at 35 wks, and right now I am holding on each week this time, I am at 30 right now. But things can be alright and you need to be strong, the more you are stressed, the baby will sense it. You will notice his rates will change when he hears your voice and you will have such a bond with that baby you could never have with a full term baby, you both are going threw this, and you both will make it. Pray, and Believe.. If you need anyone to talk to, or just vent I am here and so many others.. You are not alone, and you are now a mom.. So dig down deep, you have that super power all mothers have now.. Good luck, and will keep you in my thoughts..
I am so very sorry you are going through this. My son (my first baby) was put into intensive care just about 6 hours after he was born. I was barely 18 and scared. Everyone had already gone home. The nurse said she was going to get him ready to bring him to me and then when she finally came back, she said he had stopped breathing. She said he turned blue and they had to recessitate (sp??) him. I so scared. And he was full term. But everytime I went in there to see him, I cried. It just broke my heart to see him there. I felt very helpless. I know how you feel. He wasn't tiny like your lil guy, but I was afraid I was going to lose him. I did leave without him also. But luckily his stay wasn't very long. He just had to be sent home on a monitor. I was told that he would/could have a higher risk for SIDS. So, I was afraid for a long time. But he is just fine now.
I know your heart feels like it might break, but God will give you the strength to get through this. Stay strong and lean on your husband as much as you need to. That's what he's there for. May God be w/ you and your baby and family. I will keep you all in my prayers. *HUGS*
I know your heart feels like it might break, but God will give you the strength to get through this. Stay strong and lean on your husband as much as you need to. That's what he's there for. May God be w/ you and your baby and family. I will keep you all in my prayers. *HUGS*
Im so sorry you have to go through this. I will keep you and Gabriele as well as your husband in my prayers. Agian I am so sorry and Im sure everything will work out we are all here for you if you need anything please dont hesitate to ask.
My cousins baby was born at 24 wks as well (in January) He read this at the hospital and I thought you could use it as well I am so sorry for what you are going through..... Pray and dont give up your baby can tell you love him and are fighting for him!!! I have faith because I know that my cousins baby has been through hell but she is a surviver and so is your baby! Dont lose hope no matter what the doctors tell you!
The Smell of Rain
A cold March wind danced around the dead of night in Dallas as the Doctor walked into the small hospital room of Diana Blessing. Still groggy from surgery, her husband David held her hand as they braced themselves for the latest news. That afternoon of March 10,1991, complications had forced Diana, only 24 weeks pregnant, to Danae Lu Blessing.
At 12 inches long and weighing only one pound and nine ounces, they already knew she was perilously premature. Still, the doctor's soft words dropped like bombs. I don't think she's going to make it, he said, as kindly as he could. "There's only a 10 percent chance she will live through the night, and even then, if by some slim chance she does make it, her future could be a very cruel one." Numb with disbelief, David and Diana listened as the doctor described the devastating problems Danae would likely face if she survived. She would never walk, she would never talk, she would probably be blind, and she would certainly be prone to other catastrophic conditions from cerebral palsy to complete mental retardation, and on and on. "No! No!" was all Diana could say. She and David, with their 5-year-old son Dustin, had long dreamed of the day they would have a daughter to become a family of four. Now, within a matter of hours, that dream was slipping away.
Through the dark hours of morning as Danae held onto life by the thinnest thread, Diana slipped in and out of sleep, growing more and more determined that their tiny daughter would live, and live to be a healthy, happy young girl. But David, fully awake and listening to additional dire details of their daughter's chances of ever leaving the hospital alive, much less healthy, knew he must confront his wife with the inevitable. David walked in and said that we needed to talk about making funeral arrangements. Diana remembers, 'I felt so bad for him because he was doing everything, trying to include me in what was going on, but I just wouldn't listen, I couldn't listen.
I said, "No, that is not going to happen, no way! I don't care what the doctors say; Danae is not going to die! One day she will be just fine, and she will be coming home with us!"
As if willed to live by Diana's determination, Danae clung to life hour after hour, with the help of every medical machine and marvel her miniature body could endure. But as those first days passed, a new agony set in for David and Diana. Because Danae's under-developed nervous system was essentially raw, the lightest kiss or caress only intensified her discomfort, so they couldn't even cradle their tiny baby girl against their chests to offer the strength of their love. All they could do, as Danae struggled alone beneath the ultraviolet light in the tangle of tubes and wires, was to pray that God would stay close to their precious little girl. There was never a moment when Danae suddenly grew stronger.
But as the weeks went by, she did slowly gain an ounce of weight here and an ounce of strength there. At last, when Danae turned two months old, her parents were able to hold her in their arms for the very first time. And two months later-though doctors continued to gently but grimly warn that her chances of surviving, much less living any kind of normal life, were next to zero. Danae went home from the hospital, just as her mother had predicted.
Today, five years later, Danae is a petite but feisty young girl with glittering gray eyes and an unquenchable zest for life. She shows no signs, what so ever, of any mental or physical impairment. Simply, she is everything a little girl can be and more-but that happy ending is far from the end of her story.
William read this at the hospital and asked that it be passed on....
One blistering afternoon in the summer of 1996 near her home in Irving, Texas, Danae was sitting in her mother's lap in the bleachers of a local ballpark where her brother Dustin's baseball team was practicing. As always, Danae was chattering non-stop with her mother and several other adults sitting nearby when she suddenly fell silent. Hugging her arms across her chest, Danae asked, "Do you smell that?" Smelling the air and detecting the approach of a thunderstorm, Diana replied, "Yes, it smells like rain." Danae closed her eyes and again asked, "Do you smell that?" Once again, her mother replied, "Yes, I think we're about to get wet, it smells like rain. Still caught in the moment, Danae shook her head, patted her thin shoulders with her small hands and loudly announced, "No, it smells like Him. It smells like God when you lay your head on His chest." Tears blurred Diana's eyes as Danae then happily hopped down to play with the other children.
Before the rains came, her daughter's words confirmed what Diana and all the members of the extended Blessing family had known, at least in their hearts, all along. During those long days and nights of her first two months of her life, when her nerves were too sensitive for them to touch her, God was holding Danae on His chest and it is His loving scent that she remembers so well.
The Smell of Rain
A cold March wind danced around the dead of night in Dallas as the Doctor walked into the small hospital room of Diana Blessing. Still groggy from surgery, her husband David held her hand as they braced themselves for the latest news. That afternoon of March 10,1991, complications had forced Diana, only 24 weeks pregnant, to Danae Lu Blessing.
At 12 inches long and weighing only one pound and nine ounces, they already knew she was perilously premature. Still, the doctor's soft words dropped like bombs. I don't think she's going to make it, he said, as kindly as he could. "There's only a 10 percent chance she will live through the night, and even then, if by some slim chance she does make it, her future could be a very cruel one." Numb with disbelief, David and Diana listened as the doctor described the devastating problems Danae would likely face if she survived. She would never walk, she would never talk, she would probably be blind, and she would certainly be prone to other catastrophic conditions from cerebral palsy to complete mental retardation, and on and on. "No! No!" was all Diana could say. She and David, with their 5-year-old son Dustin, had long dreamed of the day they would have a daughter to become a family of four. Now, within a matter of hours, that dream was slipping away.
Through the dark hours of morning as Danae held onto life by the thinnest thread, Diana slipped in and out of sleep, growing more and more determined that their tiny daughter would live, and live to be a healthy, happy young girl. But David, fully awake and listening to additional dire details of their daughter's chances of ever leaving the hospital alive, much less healthy, knew he must confront his wife with the inevitable. David walked in and said that we needed to talk about making funeral arrangements. Diana remembers, 'I felt so bad for him because he was doing everything, trying to include me in what was going on, but I just wouldn't listen, I couldn't listen.
I said, "No, that is not going to happen, no way! I don't care what the doctors say; Danae is not going to die! One day she will be just fine, and she will be coming home with us!"
As if willed to live by Diana's determination, Danae clung to life hour after hour, with the help of every medical machine and marvel her miniature body could endure. But as those first days passed, a new agony set in for David and Diana. Because Danae's under-developed nervous system was essentially raw, the lightest kiss or caress only intensified her discomfort, so they couldn't even cradle their tiny baby girl against their chests to offer the strength of their love. All they could do, as Danae struggled alone beneath the ultraviolet light in the tangle of tubes and wires, was to pray that God would stay close to their precious little girl. There was never a moment when Danae suddenly grew stronger.
But as the weeks went by, she did slowly gain an ounce of weight here and an ounce of strength there. At last, when Danae turned two months old, her parents were able to hold her in their arms for the very first time. And two months later-though doctors continued to gently but grimly warn that her chances of surviving, much less living any kind of normal life, were next to zero. Danae went home from the hospital, just as her mother had predicted.
Today, five years later, Danae is a petite but feisty young girl with glittering gray eyes and an unquenchable zest for life. She shows no signs, what so ever, of any mental or physical impairment. Simply, she is everything a little girl can be and more-but that happy ending is far from the end of her story.
William read this at the hospital and asked that it be passed on....
One blistering afternoon in the summer of 1996 near her home in Irving, Texas, Danae was sitting in her mother's lap in the bleachers of a local ballpark where her brother Dustin's baseball team was practicing. As always, Danae was chattering non-stop with her mother and several other adults sitting nearby when she suddenly fell silent. Hugging her arms across her chest, Danae asked, "Do you smell that?" Smelling the air and detecting the approach of a thunderstorm, Diana replied, "Yes, it smells like rain." Danae closed her eyes and again asked, "Do you smell that?" Once again, her mother replied, "Yes, I think we're about to get wet, it smells like rain. Still caught in the moment, Danae shook her head, patted her thin shoulders with her small hands and loudly announced, "No, it smells like Him. It smells like God when you lay your head on His chest." Tears blurred Diana's eyes as Danae then happily hopped down to play with the other children.
Before the rains came, her daughter's words confirmed what Diana and all the members of the extended Blessing family had known, at least in their hearts, all along. During those long days and nights of her first two months of her life, when her nerves were too sensitive for them to touch her, God was holding Danae on His chest and it is His loving scent that she remembers so well.
OMG that's so sweet. And Want2bemamma, i'm sorry about your early baby, but congradulations on making it this far. I'll be praying that your baby is safe.
Cindie
Cindie
I am sorry about ur suffering...but God made u and ur baby boy to be strong to make it up to this point...although he is delivered this early dont worry too much..God will give him the strength and hands to hold him..dont worry he will be everything that any boy can be...so just pray and cry to God he always answers our prayers...
u will be in my thought and prayer
u will be in my thought and prayer
I know what your going through. I'm sure my baby is with yours telling him to be strong. My baby didn't make it when he came that early. I am so sorry you have to go thru this. Now is the time to be strong, later you can be weak. I know how hard you tried to keep your baby in there, bc I went thru the same thing. It is a good sign that he is still alive!! Go Gabriele! I think he's going to make it. I am with you too, in thoughts and prayers. Keep positive and pray. Lots of love and Angel Kisses....
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Gabriele Guiseppe Pio, be strong for not only yourself but for you family too!!! Your mommy needs you to be strong!!!
Want2BMama, like the others said, there is later to be weak, you have to be strong for your boys! God is not punishing you, but he is letting you know that things do not come as easy as you think. I will pray my heart out for you and your family. I can't say I know what you are going through but I can always offer and shoulder to cry on. God bless you and your family! Never lose faith!!!
Want2BMama, like the others said, there is later to be weak, you have to be strong for your boys! God is not punishing you, but he is letting you know that things do not come as easy as you think. I will pray my heart out for you and your family. I can't say I know what you are going through but I can always offer and shoulder to cry on. God bless you and your family! Never lose faith!!!
I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry that he came so early....I will be praying for you and Gabriele...I can't imagine what you are going through...If you need to talk I am here for you always!! God Bless!
I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now. I have a friend who works in the NICU and she said that the most important thing you can do right now is be with your baby any chance that you can get. You'll be the most comforting thing to him because he remembers your smell and your voice. I know that it is very hard on you but I know that you'll do great. I'm sure I can speak for everyone on this forum when I say that we all love and care for you both very deeply and that we will keep you both in our prayers. Please keep us informed on both of your progress.
i don't know how you are feeling but can only imgine the fear and wonder you are experiencing. All i can say are the doctors are so wonderfull these days and the technology they have is amazing. Try very hard to keep positive but don't forget to talk about how you are feeling with your family and friends. Don't feel you have to hold on to your emotions, let them out and remember a helthy mummy is a good mummy, so do your best to eat well, sleep and take care of yourself. I will keep your family in my thoughts.
I am so so so sorry to hear about this! All of these girls have said everything so right. So I wont repeat it all..but I will tell you this...God doesnt give you more than you can handle. Stay strong! This is when you really need to be strong for that baby! You and your family and baby will be in my prayers. *hugs*
Let me be the first to say Congratulations, the birth of a baby is a maricle, your little guy may just need a few more. Be Strong! After you get over the inital shock and are home but going to the hospital everyday remember to take care of yourself--if there is a day that you are just too drained to go, stay home for a little bit...take care of the relationship with your partner (husband?) and remember that men deal with things a lot different then women.
You WILL get through this, You WILL bring your little boy home, You will be that family you worked so hard for
You WILL get through this, You WILL bring your little boy home, You will be that family you worked so hard for
im sorry ur baby boy came so soon but he will make it hun and u will to!! your in my prayers!!!!
OMG well congrats on your new baby and I'm sure God will watch over him and he'll be a happy healthy baby....good luck
Keeping your family and Gabriele in my thaughts and prayers. God will watch over him and keep him safe. Sorry you had to go through this.
You and your family are in my thoughts.. be positive!!
God is making you fight because your family is strong!
we're all here for you.
God is making you fight because your family is strong!
we're all here for you.
i didn't read the other posts... but i know that they are all supportive and loving towards you and your family! i truely wish all the best for your baby and pray that he will be ok! just know that he is in the best hands possible and God IS taking care of him, too!
my last dd wasn't born early... but she was taken from me at 2 days old and transported to another hospital to the nicu. i know its hard not having your baby beside you. just please trust in the Lord that everything will be ok!!!
and i know its way easier said than done, but please take care of yourself, too so you can be there in every way for him!
GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my last dd wasn't born early... but she was taken from me at 2 days old and transported to another hospital to the nicu. i know its hard not having your baby beside you. just please trust in the Lord that everything will be ok!!!
and i know its way easier said than done, but please take care of yourself, too so you can be there in every way for him!
GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry you are having to go through this. May the Lord be with you and your little one and may He make you faith only stonger.
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