Glad things are back to normal. And sounds like both of you need to have a nice talk and a good nights sleep! Good luck :)
U have. Mommy blues n ur **** of a husband isnt helping n if any man calls u a degrading name...u show urself no respect by allowing it . ..its simple let it slide one time with ur husband ..n ur looking into a deeper depression n him name calling your child next..n divorce is in the 80% rate ..stand up for urself tell him if he calls u that again its over..but b prepared to mean it bcuz most men will test u on that
I agree, thank you for the advice :) I will talk to.him. This evening everything is back to.normal I'm so glad :)
it by no way excuses his reaction, and what he's done, but the two of you as you have said, could have done things differently, but stress can make a sane man go insane, and until your situation is sorted I can see this happening again, if you have a really good relationship, you dont want this ruining it, so something will have to be done, your home is ment to be your castle, and for him it should be a place of relative peace, a place he wants to come home to after work, not get bombarded with stuff that has happened during the day, its not fair on him, and its by no way fair on you having to go through with it and put up with it either.... I would try and mend those cracks in your relationship now before they get any bigger .
I agree with what stacey10 said but would like to add if he is that stressed he needs to find a better outlet than taking it out on you. Maybe you can both sit down and make some type of plan about how to handle stress instead of it getting like it did. I hope y'all can sit down and talk it out. Good luck. :)
I completely agree. I just didn't think of it til I read your comment. Thank you :)
what happened wasnt good, on both of your sides, he should have had way more self control than that as well, but your living situation is far from ideal and I think that he is feeling alot of pressure from that, he has his mother and brother who are by no means pulling their weight around the house,, and you telling him (which is within your right) so I think he is being pulled in every direction and the stress is just getting to him and he's probably bottled it up and then last night it all came exploding out, people can only take so much before they loose it and unfortunatley he lost it with you instead of his mother/brother...Until you get your living situation sorted out and all the other stuff going on as well (the food, way his brother speaks to you etc) you may end up by finding yourself in another situation like this again, you need to sit down with him appologise for the way you acted (men arnt good at saying sorry first!!) then you need to be a united front and get everything else sorted with his mother etc, where it benefits the two of you the most
I'm sorry he's so crazy. My relationship is like this. I threatened to leave when I was maybe 8 or so weeks along and he told me I wouldn't leave pregnant. That's uncalled for. He's even thrown a clothes basket at me. The damn thing had holes in it and the way he grabbed it when he slung it scraped skin off his fingers so it hurt him and completely missed me. We don't fight so much, atleast not as bad anymore. I think it takes them time to adjust to the way we are with our pregnancy hormones. Hopefully he will come around. Just know you can't change him, he has to want to be different for you and the children. Goodluck.
We talked for a little bit this morning. Its been a "walk on eggshells" kinda day but it hasn't been horrible. When he gets paid I'm gonna ask that we go out.
I think you two need some time together at least for a day. Let your mother in law babysit your son and go out with your hubby. Then you two can talk.
I'd go to granny's for a few days. You need sleep and u wont get that if you are scared of what hubby will do. I don't care who started it. He shouldn't have thrown anything at you.
Thank you :) hopefully today is OK, I slept like two.hours last night so IDK how this day will be
just wait for him to say sorry to u ur pregnant for gods sake and he threw a washing basket at u. if my fiance every made me feel scared of him i would never be able to look at him in the same way or argue with him coz id be to scared that this time he could hit me. i think once uv both started talkin again u need to tell him how much this scared u and if he EVER dus it again u wont stand for it he will lose u and his children. i hope things work out for the best for u. x
I agree its 50/50 but that was outta no where. I mean I expected to.be cussed but that was crazy
Every relationship is 50/50...I think. ye should just sit and talk. things are always worse at night. Ye will be fine.
I know I shouldn't have throwen my phone at home even though I didn't mean to hit him but he just went way over board with it all. He just text me and asked if *I'm* done because he can't sleep on the couch. I haven't replied because I don't feel I was really in the wrong.
That's crazy I'd be scared too!! Unless he did some serious I'm sorry I would leave also bc that's uncalled for!
He just came in and knocked on the door sonic opened it, he kinda pushed passed me got his pillows and went to the living room. Didn't say one word. I can't sleep without him in here so its gonna be a long night....
Sorry youre going through such a rough time in your pregnancy.. Just know you are not alone.. my husband and I have almost gotten divorced a few times since I've been pregnant. Try talking about whats bothering him and try to explain your feelings. If that doesnt help and you still fear for your safety get away and give him time to think and miss you..hopefully things well get better
Just try to breathe and stay calm. You are both probably under a lot of stress and sleep deprived... Hormones are high too. Both of you probably could have handled the situation a little better, but now you've both had time to cool off... Good luck, see if you can talk to him in the morning after you both get some sleep
Well he came home he's sitting in the drive way now...
I really hate that I feel this way towards him right now its breaking my heart, my husband is an amazing.man I just don't know what came over him (he is also a black belt in Okinawa Kata if anyone knows what that is, so he's got some serious strength behind him, granted also.a lot of self control but still) I just keep thinking about him coming at me like that and him throwing that at me (I'm 5'2" and that basket is only about a foot shorter then me, its not really a basket for.clothes I don't know what its original purpose is but its huge) and thinking about it all I can do is cry and my heart keeps sinking. I don't wanna go to.my granny's but it seems like it'd be the best thing.