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can arguing send you into preterm labor?
I'm 25w1d and me and my fiance fight constantly. Today we have had 2 major fights with lots of little fights. But last couple fights I been getting back pain and bh after the fight and I'm worried all this fighting is going to send me into labor
Well I have been tryin to make him mow the lawn and he refuses pretty much. Do a couple hours then come in and play games. I'm calling my dr soon bc everything is stressing me and I'm having the back pain at least twice a day. Not only is he ever in the wrong he has always got to be in control.
Wow this situation sounds awful. The past two weeks i've had explosive fights with my husband, my hormones have been all over the place and he wasnt helping around the house enough so when i asked him to do something he'd would go mental and start a fight, i would ask him to leave me alone but he wouldnt and then i'd loose my temper and starting screaming like a crazy peroson.and like you had back pain afterwards and felt guilty that i hurt my baby. I kicked my husband into the other bedroom after the last one a few days ago. I told him that i'm carrying a baby and that he needs to leave me alone and walk away when i tell him to and not argue with me as i cannot seem to control my hormones and temper since pregnant and i'm getting over stressed. It took him a day to cop on but he apologized and said he wouldnt do it again as he would never want to hurt me or the baby and he understands that he needs to do more and that the arguments were his fault and not mine.
It sounds like your boyfriend has never admitted fault in his life. He seems to think he is always right. My husband was out of work last year for a couple of months and let me to tell you he didnt get one minute to sit and play video games, i had a list of chores for him everyday. He found a job quick enough then
It sounds like your boyfriend has never admitted fault in his life. He seems to think he is always right. My husband was out of work last year for a couple of months and let me to tell you he didnt get one minute to sit and play video games, i had a list of chores for him everyday. He found a job quick enough then
I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide. No one deserves to be treated that way. Take care.
I'm not sayin I will put up with it, just sayin help is nice but I have my parents who will always be here for me. Ill have a talk with him tonight about getting back on his meds.
I hope things get better. I'm just trying to help. I was in an emotional abusive and physical abusive relationship for only a year at the age of fifteen. Five years on and I'm still suffering from effects of the emotional abuse. Don't think that words etc don't hurt. Because the effects of emotional abuse are seen as just as bad if not worse than the physical abuse. Xxx
I agree with Rachyou, that's emotional abuse, and you can't just live waiting for him to change.. if medication is what he needs, he needs it, he can't be normal without it, so he needs to. You can't just think ohh the help would be nice, because that baby is going to grow up thinking that a normal relationship is calling mommy a ***** or other names, if you don't want your child doing it to his future spouse, you don't do it, and don't put the baby through that, it's not about you anymore, it's about the baby.
I hope he does to but if he doesn't he's going to have to leave. Until he can prove he's man'd up. I have raised 2 kids on my own while going to college I know I can do it again it would just be nice to have help. But I totally understand what you arte saying it effects kids a lot.
Him blaming everything on you is also a sign of an emotionally abusive man. Just think what does he actually do for you? It's not good for kids to ve brought up in that environment. I'm sure they'd rather see mummy happy and alone than with daddy and miserable. The choice is yours but speaking from experience I don't think hell change. However for your and your babies sake I hope he wises up and treats you with respect.xx
He hasn't been the best boyfriend, I will admit that he's cheated on me once and I have caught him talking to other women but since feb I haven't had any problem with the talking to other girls. I love him don't get me wrong. If he takes his depression pills he's good we don't fight oranything but he refuses to take them bc he says he feels numb taking them. I want things to work but he blames his attitude on me bc b4 he cheated on me I was really clingy and wanted sex all the time was just happy go lucky bc he seemed like the perfect guy but he tells me he don't like clingy or sex so I quit doing both now he complains I'm not clingy and I never want sex and he wants me to go back. Idk if him cheating on me just hurt me to the point I don't want to do these things with him or if its the hormones.
He sounds emotionally abusive and things will get worse not better when baby is here. Babies out a strain on even the best relationships. I'd consider leaving ASAP. Your baby will see him as a role model and will hear the things he calls you. Your child will grow up thinkin this behavior is ok. And trust me its not. Google the symptoms of emotional abuse and see if you feel it sounds like what is happening to you. Ive been there before. It was violent too. But you can be in an abusive relationships without violence. The stress isn't good for you or your baby.
He has he has some mental disorder that's why he got discharged. And if I leave he follows me no matter where I go.
We currentrly live with my mom on her land in our own house she hears everything she does allow us to take care of the lawn and she gets us the necessities. I also have 2 other children, I have my college degree in accounting/bookkeeping and people are sayin after the baby is born I should reapply. My mom has told him if he doesntt get a job soon she's kiccmkin him out or if he gets a job and looses it shes kicking him out. My parents are rich and said they don't mind helpin me out bc I always get a job and keep it. My last job I was medicall ordered to stay home for a month when I came back they had hired someone else. Since have had several interrviews but all don't want to train all for me to leave. I don't like living offf my mom and this baby was a surprise. Had taken hpts all positive but had mirana in ccalled the dr they said no I can't b preg. Found out at 12 weeks I was and my mirana had fallen out. I guess its rare but can happen.
Sounds like he may have some PTSD. Has he been checked for that? Im sorry you are going thru this. Are you able to leave when a fight starts?
Wow, that's awful, I would NOT deal with someone calling me that, either. I understand why you want him to get a job, a baby is expensive, and it would be luck to get a job at 6 months, NOT common for someone to hire a pregnant woman, unfortunately. You really need to have a serious talk with him, and he needs to change it before the baby comes!
We have tried to just talk, but he blames him being deployed twice on his anger issues. He got discharged from the army in feb. Since has has 5 jobs and is currently jobless. And me being 6 months no one will hire me. He plays video games all day long and when he gets off that if I'm still on my phone reading he gets mad. The other day he called me a coniving little b**ch abd a c**t all bc we got into a disagreement about me not being nice enough to him. Ugh somedays he can be so sweet tho.
I agree, if this is happening now, it's going to happen when the baby comes, more so. You need to make sure if things are escalating, to say can we just talk about this and why we're upset instead of screaming, yes fighting can send you into preterm labor, and you don't need to fight around a baby, so I would make sure you resolve this before the baby comes, if not it's best to not be together, good luck!!
You have big decision to make. He sounds like a child, wat kind of man follows his pregnant partner around yelling at her and argueing. He needs to grow up this is no good for yr baby. Yr baby wont be content after birth if this continues.
That don't even work. I could cry my eyes out and until he's done yelling and have calmed down that's when he kinda feels bad and will come in saying I'm sorry but if you hadn't done this this and this the fight wouldn't have even started. Blaming me for the whole fight. I know some was my fault but not every single fight.
I am the same way. I try to avoid the arguments bt he follows me. The only way I stop him is wen I cry he feels bad and he stops. For my baby I try to avoid any kind, of stress
I try not to stress and ask him to leave me. Alone so I can calm down but he wont he keeps following me around making me more angry to the point I yell and loose my temper.
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