lost the baby

[Anna-maria74]

I had some spotting today and some cramping - long story short I had a scan and the baby died 5 weeks ago. I am yet to miscarry but I am letting nature take its course - for now anyway!

This sounds very matter of fact but the truth is I feel like I am dying. If anyone has been through this and can offer me some encourage meant I would really aprreciate it. Good luck to everyone else have a happy pregnancy

Anna XXX

[silver82]

You are not alone sweety last August i went for a scan at 7 weeks to be told my twins had died around 6 weeks. I know how you feel and believe me you will go on to have a beautiful baby just stay positive sweety. I know its hard but try to be strong its nothing you have done. Ive just got pregnant since my miscarriage and im now 5 weeks.  I will be thinking of you and praying xxxx

[MOM23ANGELS25F]

I am so sorry for your loss..... I went through that right before I got pregnant with my oldest..... I will be thinking of you.

[davidswife102007]

Hey Anna I know what you are going through. I am going through the same thing. I lost mine at 6 w5d.I have to have a d&c done.I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you and yours in my prayers.

[deana232]

hey,
    Look everything will be fine i was int he same boat!! i was 11 weeks along my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks...there was no heatbeat!! i know what you are going though the dr suggested i have a dnc done(the best way) less scarring tissue. keep your chin up i know what it's like i just went though my opereation yesterday!! sorry for the spelling. if you need me just email me like i said i KNOW i just went through it and alot of ppl are here to help and they are great. the dr told me it could be a month or more before nature would decide to take it's course that's why i had a dnc done yesterday. keep your had up it will get better

[chitten]

Hey Girl,

Really sorry to hear about your loss. The only comfort i can give is that your little one is playing with the angels.

I too am really scared at the moment, as we discussed last post we should be at the same stage but i have been having cramping and dont have my scan until next week.

Praying everything is ok.

I wish you all the best and am thinking of you xxx

[adawning4]

I am so sorry for your loss! I wish I could take away your pain. I had a miscarriage in 2003 my first pregnancy. I never in my life felt so much loss and pain. I was angry and wanted to blame someone anyone. Myself, my husband, the doctors, I even questioned God. I was going to cosmotology school and quit after I lost the baby. That was about 1 1/2 months after the D&C. I couldnt stand everyone looking at me like they were so sorry, wondering if I did something. I had to be away from it all.... It does get easier. Still to this day I think about that baby. However I got pregnant exactally 3 months after the D&C. I told my husband I had to have a baby and I wasnt going to stop until he gave me what I wanted and needed! I now have a beautiful little girl that will be 4 in April... and my gorgeous son who will be 2 in June! I am also 7wks 6days now with my hopefully 3rd baby..... Dont give up. You can pull through, I know its hard but if you have faith, you will be just fine, when the time is right God will give you your bundle of joy! Best wishes to you and remember you will make it it gets easier every day.

[sfritz]

I'm sorry for your loss. My last pregnancy ended at 6 weeks but I didn't find out until I went in for a scan at eight weeks and there was no heartbeat. I opted for a D&C because I didn't think that I could emotionally handle it happening naturally. I ended up taking two full weeks off work because I just couldn't seem to get over it. Don't lose hope though. It took me a while but I did get pregnant again. Very nervous and worry about every little thing. My doctor said sometimes your body just knows that something would not be right if it were to continue and, I know it doesn't seem like it now, was probably best in the long run for the baby. Good luck to you and stay strong.

[lmrsoldier]

I have never been through what you're going through right now, but I just want to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.  I'm sure it's hard to accept, but I believe the Lord works in mysterious ways, and when you are meant to have your bundle of joy, you will be blessed. Good luck to you, my heart goes out....

[KellyA74]

So sorry for what you're going thru.....I had a missed M/C in Dec. and all I can say is that it DOES get easier with each passing day.....You'll NEVER forget and you'll always wonder what happened but it does get more bearable.......I know that doesn't help any now though... Take time off to heal!  I'll be thinking of you.....

[leighanne143]

you will get through it, keep your head up and use the support of this forum.  I miscarried in oct with my very first pregnancy.  I was 11 weeks along but they said the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks.  I opted for the d and c to clear out my uterus so i could start ASAP because sometimes when nature takes its course, it can take another month and i refused to wait that long.  I thought my world had fallen apart.  I stayed in the house and did nothing but cry and sleep for a week.  But with the help of other women who went through the same thing, i got through it.  Now after my first real period in Nov. i am pregnant again.  SO it can happen quickly.  make sure you give yourself time to grieve and cry and take care of yourself.  You can email if you would like anytime.  Best of Luck to you.

[swade]

I know this time is going to be hard for you, when I lost my baby in May the same thing happened to me, I thought all was fine, and went in for an u/s and the baby did not get passed 7.5wks, and at that time I was 12wks.  I tried to wait for the miscarriage to happen, but my HCG levels went up and had three more u/s, and finally decided on a D/C which was probably one of the most emotional hard things I have done.  I didnt go out for days, and didnt want to hear how sorry everyone was for me.  I threw everything away, and anything I got in the mail went in a drawer.   I cried, I still think about it everyday, and think about where I would be right now.  
But once I stopped living for the loss, which took alot of time, I went out bought new cloths, lost weight, and found out I was pg again.  Now I am 21 wks, and doing fine.  I still worry about it all, and miss that baby.  But I remember that I am not alone, and I can get threw this.  So can you, and we are all here for you.. Good Luck..

[alicia216]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very difficult to lose something so close to us. Like a lot of women here I too loss a baby. Try to remain positive and focus on all the wonderful things we still have in life. Allow your body and heart to heal and when the time is right you will be blessed again. If you need anyone to talk to I am here for you.

God Bless
Alicia

[babydreams9]

Anna - I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how painful and heart-breaking it is; we lost our first baby last fall due to mc and I thought I'd never heal from the emotional devestation. The truth is, it will hurt for a long time... and though the pain will subside, it will never truly go away completely. A peice of your heart will always belong to the baby you never got to hold. Cry out your pain and worries; talk about it frequently with people you trust. Allow yourself a lot of time to mourn and cope. Also allow yourself to feel any emotion & don't apologize for it - I remember feeling angry, bitter, sad, hopeless, jealous, mad, depressed... everything. In due time you will find it easier to live, to smile, and to hope. Best wishes to you; you're in my prayers.

[sameerab]

sorry for your loss Anna and dont worry you will be blessed with a baby when the time and baby is right..dont give up hope you're in my prayers!!

[Gina209]

Oh Anna I am sooo truly sorry. I got Pregnant Sept 5th with my first and Miscarried on Thanksgiving...I should have been 13 weeks. I was completely heart broken....I thought I couldn't go on living, I was sooo depressed. I didn't do anything for weeks...I just stayed in bed or on the couch...I cried and cried for days...sometimes I still cry about it.

The only thing I can say is everything happens for a reason...I know nothing is really going to make you feel better right now but usually Miscarriages happen because something was wrong with the baby...that could have hurt you or something could have been wrong wth the baby...I blamed myself for weeks and than I suddenly realized it was nothing I did..this just happens to some women. Just know that we're here for you if you need anything, to talk, to listen. It does get easier..the pain will always be there..but it does get easier....again I'm so sorry.

Please feel free to message me anytime....hang in there girl. XOXO

[Leanna26]

Anna I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I had the same thing happen to me 3 times. Sometimes our bodies just understand something is wrong and the need to take care of it itself.

It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. I have had 3 losses, no children. I am on my 4th pregnancy now and finally made it to 15 weeks and the baby is fine. This is the first pregnancy to go well for me. I hope everything works out for you hon. Hugz

[cindy82]

im so sorry for your loss, i know how it feels, i lost one in nov and ttc again. it still hurts me to know i lost it. lots of prayers for ya!!