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Defending the Men
Well... most of them. Some of what Ive read dont deserve ****, but anyway...
There's A LOT of childish posts Ive seen about women complaining about how their men are being "childish". Here's the deal ladies: YOU are not helping matters! Surprisingly hard to believe but in some men it is etched into their DNA somewhere that THEY take care of US. Now some go to the extreme insisting we dont work. However others dont mind that we work but they HATE having any part of their attempt to provide for us tampered by whatever reason be it a medical condition, whatever. My husband for example is having unexplainable seizures so he cant drive. He has to depend on me to get to work and pick him up. This stresses him out because I get off work at 6a. The thing to remember those of us that have men be they a boyfriend, fiancee, or husband that is the Father of the munchkin we carry he is likely going through his own stress. Providing for another mouth to feed or perhaps the idea of being a Father is finally kicking in and yes some actually DO fear the concept for the SAME reasons WE do - am I going to be a good parent? Or I remember how I was as a kid will he or she be the same?! And if its a baby girl? Oh boy - its usually Oh ****, I know how I was like with girls! So I suggest we try to cut them some slack here. If you KNOW they are testy about certain jokes - keep your mouth shut. I cant imagine, for example, the hell my hubby goes through at work not being able to drive any equipment or do heavy labor. I wouldnt dream of being a smartass and saying something about it. And believe me, my hubby and I pick on each other A LOT. So much so his Mom has sometimes thought we were fighting. Its out of good fun and its why we get along so well. My sister says we are the new "sickeningly cute" because of it lol. So can we try cutting these men some slack? Unless theyve done something really stupid... such as getting **** faced while taking seizure meds.
There's A LOT of childish posts Ive seen about women complaining about how their men are being "childish". Here's the deal ladies: YOU are not helping matters! Surprisingly hard to believe but in some men it is etched into their DNA somewhere that THEY take care of US. Now some go to the extreme insisting we dont work. However others dont mind that we work but they HATE having any part of their attempt to provide for us tampered by whatever reason be it a medical condition, whatever. My husband for example is having unexplainable seizures so he cant drive. He has to depend on me to get to work and pick him up. This stresses him out because I get off work at 6a. The thing to remember those of us that have men be they a boyfriend, fiancee, or husband that is the Father of the munchkin we carry he is likely going through his own stress. Providing for another mouth to feed or perhaps the idea of being a Father is finally kicking in and yes some actually DO fear the concept for the SAME reasons WE do - am I going to be a good parent? Or I remember how I was as a kid will he or she be the same?! And if its a baby girl? Oh boy - its usually Oh ****, I know how I was like with girls! So I suggest we try to cut them some slack here. If you KNOW they are testy about certain jokes - keep your mouth shut. I cant imagine, for example, the hell my hubby goes through at work not being able to drive any equipment or do heavy labor. I wouldnt dream of being a smartass and saying something about it. And believe me, my hubby and I pick on each other A LOT. So much so his Mom has sometimes thought we were fighting. Its out of good fun and its why we get along so well. My sister says we are the new "sickeningly cute" because of it lol. So can we try cutting these men some slack? Unless theyve done something really stupid... such as getting **** faced while taking seizure meds.
Im so happy im not the only one!!! Some of the posts about the guys are driving me nuts....my bd left me and my 20 month old and im sue in a few weeks bur you know what we are trying to work on things and im trying to understand hes as nervous as me for thi second baby being so young....but ladies please if you have a GOOD man tell him thank you because he could just walk away from you like mine did and leave you to deal with everything alone so juat appriciate him for being there and doing what he does!!!
I have to agree. My husband has constantly voicedhis concerns about not feeling as though he is doing a good enough job of providing. (He was out of work from july 20- september 15 and we fell really far behind on bills and are just now starting to get caught up) i have to reassure him we didnt lose our house, we didnt have any utilities turned off (except cable) and we made it through that tough time we can and will make it. It hurts him worse when i start talking about going to work so i can help. He will actually cry..and do everything he can to make more $. (I only brought it up when he was out of work) but he still has the mindset that he is the provider and he is supposed to be.
I dont think most women understand the stress they have is almost equivalent to ours!
I dont think most women understand the stress they have is almost equivalent to ours!
I couldn't agree more! My husband is honestly my best friend and he supports me in anything I want to do...i agree with pregnancy being a stressful time for them as well because my husband has already told me that he is stressed out because we will be responsible for another human being. I couldn't imagine talking about my husband the way I have seen some ladies on here because he does so much to make sure that i have what I need...even while he is deployed to Afghanistan he is still takin care of me and our soon to be baby
I had been thinking about it for sometime actually lol. And then saw a post late last night that just sent me over the edge. I couldnt reply because if I had I would not of been nice lol So I vented instead lol It's like "Really?! You're gonna complain that he left without telling you but he's sitting right there?! You have any idea how some women would kill for a guy that can just go calm himself down like that?"
Haha I was JUST thinking this, I think this in some posts and everyone is defending the woman and I'm like okay, better just keep my mouth shut because I'll start world war three if I defend the husband. It IS a lot of pressure for a man to add another person to the family, planned or not.. and they feel very inadequate if they aren't doing a GREAT job of it. I'm very lucky to have a very supportive husband, we have whatever we need, and if he comes home cranky after working a 14+ hour day, that's something I deal with because he's doing it for US. My husband knows he's a great provider and we appreciate him!
Lol its called sympathy pains. But I understand what you're talking about. I actually try to not complain so much to my hubby because I know he's in pain from whatever is making him have problems. I just let him tell me about his pain which are usually massive headaches and ringing in his ears. And my mood swings are from the pregnancy he has that too but its a side effect of his meds so we have our monents but once we've calmed down we're always apologizing to each other. About the only thing I complain about is how tired I always am and he just looks at me with all the sympathy one could fine and just says he knows. Which just how he says it thats all I need :)
Yeah I agree I have a good hubby but he can get on my nerves sometimes. I do love him very much but most of the time he is the last person I want to deal with. Does any of ur men whine and complain like they have more symptoms than u...or anytime u say my back or head hurts there's does as well? Haha that is annoying sometimes I want attention and compassion. Got to love our men though.
Yeah, when I told my hubby about wanting a girl this time around I saw the look on his face and I went "Oh c'mon honey you know you would love hearing 'Daddy' in that cute angelic voice!" and all he could do was try to hide a grin from me lol. So Im still praying for a baby girl :)
A positive post abt man FINALLYYYY LOOL. Every couple has their moments an sometimes as women like to vent. However its true we are the womens carrying the baby an we go through all the changes our hubbuea dont feel any different. Well mine doest. He is a hard worker an does everything for me. I love that man soo much. Coz I truelly believe no one else would put up with me. He is scared abt the birth an always worried abt our baby girl. He says he wil get excited when she is in his arms. He doesnt even like puttin his hand over my tommy an everytime he does he askes me"am I squashin anything" loool it makes me laugh. viva to our great partners.
Really the only thing my hubby's done to send me into a ***** mode was when he got drunk while he's taking seizure meds.
It's great someone is pointing this out.. my partner is fantastic with me a true credit to fathers out there. I Hate seeing women moaning about there mean without good reason
Agree with this. There are too many petty complaints. We are hormonal but have no right to not apologize when we do wrong. I thought about posting a complaint about my wonderful husband when A was upset but then I can to my senses. He is the best man I know, he does stupid stuff but don't we all. I don't want other people thinking he is an idiot because he isn't. He works so hard, full time job, part time school, and full time ministry. He gets stressed out because he wants the best for me and our little girl. Men are wonderful.
Well so far I havent seen any real annoying posts about mothers and mils but that might be my lack of being on too. But yes, I agree with you
I read this and it's so true :) but not only the men but the mother's \ mothers in law. My mum has been a godsend my entire pregnancy she really is my best friend and my mil is just as supportive she actually just got me a brand new rocker recliner purely for feeding times. I think sometimes we get tunnel vision and don't focus on the bigger picture and how lucky we truly are to have certain people in our llives.
Lol! That was still sweet though! Defintely deserving of a snuggle xD My hubby said that to me one night when I was really low and I was a lil cling on all day to him xD
I completely agree! I've been super stressed lately, and since ive been off my antianxiety/depression meds, I'll admit I've been more then a handful. I just told my fiance how much I appreciate all hes done, and that I know how stressful it is for the both of us. I told him so far he's being a pretty good daddy :) He just told me I was everything and went back to sleep :P oh well, I'll take what I can get haha
Lol Well just you wait you'll have one too :) The best ones are the ones that happen when you least expect it
Yeah when he and I first met both of us were assholes xD but we started dating like six yrs later and realized that not only were the both of us sarcastic, blunt assholes but that we were very loving and protective of those around us. So we were engaged 6 months later and married 2 months after that :)
My kitten can be my baby's dad, even though IT is a SHE. I'll never be hormonal at her lol
So true! This pregnancy is just as rough on me as it is on my husband and he tries being strong for the both of us while Im a hormonal cocktail of mood swings lol. But I never forget to apologize to him - even though he says not to worry about it - and I say "I love you" to him a trillion times a day. Lol he used to be tired of hearing it so much but now with everything going on for him he actually misses t if I dont say it enough
Amen to that as well. WE as women have to accept that WE are bringing a child into this world. Women are cruel to their man. when you think about it It took two of you to make this happen, I am sure they wouldnt appreciate their man stating things like that. and another thing pregnant women might now realize, MEN can have pregnancy symptoms too. My husband gets them every once in a while. Hope your doing well! and I am happy you got out of the situation you were in with the babies daddy. I know you are going to be a great mom!
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