Is it normal to feel like this????

[OurBabyDerp]

Since me and my childs father have broken up i've been very low and felt on occasions that i can't do this, that i can't cope with a baby on my own, that i can't bring up a child and have to tell it one day that it's father didn't want it in the end. I know i could never give up my child when it's born but i just feel like i won't be able to cope. Whenever the baby kicks i cry, knowing that it's a part of a man i've given my whole life to and he's just deserted us. Is it normal to feel this way? I'm scared and feel so alone :'( I'm doing everything i can to keep myself okay for the health of my baby but i constantly feel it isn't enough.

[experienced_33]

You can do it! I was 16 and pregnant w my first son. His bio dad took off the day we found out I was pregnant, about an hr after we told my family and he told my parents how he would be there for the baby and we were getting married after high school... I was absolutely devasted and could hardly eat or sleep. Just cried most of the time. I had my family 100% behind me but I was miserable. Until my son was born. You have no idea how much you are going to love that little person! There is nothing else in the world to describe such intense emotion. Once your lil one is here, it really won't matter in your heart anymore that his/her father isn't!
My son is 16 yrs now and only met his bio dad this past yr... when my son repeatedly reached out to him. And the sad part is he hasn't changed at all!
Your child will know that you love him. And that's all that matters!!!

[GordonBaby]

I have been alone since I was 10 weeks pregnant. I know have an almost four month old son and I am happier now than have ever been in my life. You can do it, and you can always take him for child support, regardless of the circumstances, it takes two to make a baby. Only way he can try to get out of that is to sign over his perental rights. Or, just leave him out of it the whole way around, doesn't seem like a stand up guy anyway. I am single, live on my own, no child support and my child gives me all of the strength and motivation in the world. Mind over matter sweetie. Visit the FB page Single Mothers All Lending Loving Support.

[OurBabyDerp]

Thank you for all the kind words, I just feel less excited to have this baby knowing I'll be doing it all alone, almost like I don't deserve it anymore because I don't feel like I can be both parents at once :(

[texxasbby13]

You can def. Do it. I was 17 with two kids! Now I'm 24 and we have made it this far :)

[mellbell0306]

i totally know how you feel love. i am 21 and pregnant with my first child 22 weeks and since the moment i found out the father pretty much took off. has no interest in being a father and since that he wasnt helping so i had to move forever away to be with my mom for help cause i was in a ruff spot. men are assholes but you can do this. don't think of it as apart of him. that baby is yours and when your little one is born you wont have time to think about anything but that baby and how much you love them. when it comes time for them to know your child will know how much you love them because you didn't give up. so hold your head high and think of that little miracle in your tummy

[jsulliva15]

With my daughter I went through same thing we planned her and when I got pregnant he just up and left never went to an appointment or nothing. Missedthe the birth and all. It was tough cried all the time kept apologizing to my stomach because I felt itwas unfair she wwouldn't know her father. But I'll tell u the moment I held her and looked into her big brown eyes I have never loved anyone so much in my life. I was actually grateful for her dad Givin me such a wonderful gift even to this day he has nothing to do with her. She is four now and my absolute best friend. She looks just like him but none of it matters any more. Being a single mom is hard but so worth it and one day I know she'll understand.

[OurBabyDerp]

Thank you so much for the responses ladies! I'm petrified of doing it all alone at 20 (will be 21 when i give birth though) without any help from him. I have my gender scan next wednesday but he's said he doesn't want to know anything about the baby or have any updates so i guess he'll never find out until he sees me walking round with the baby next year or he wakes up and realises what he's giving up. Worst thing is that the baby was planned but he's saying i lied to him about being on contraception so i've ended up telling everyone the truth because i don't want my baby to grow up thinking it was never wanted :(

[texxasbby13]

yes it is completely normal. itll be hard too noone said itll be easy. when i had my first child i got pregnant when he was 6 months old. the dad and i split up because all he cared about was partying and not being around. he never saw my son or wanted to be apart of my second pregnancy. it devestated me in the beginning until i woke up and said eff him im doing this on my own and have been since day one! i had the support of my friends and family and didnt even want him around . and we had been together for 5 years! imagine that lol so yes it was very hard but i raised those two babies on my own until 3 years ago i met my husband =]]] you wiill be ok momma

[ChelleLovesYou]

You need to stay strong for your baby. He/she can feel when your upset and causes them distress. Its not good.... my baby's father hasn't been around much at all. He came back for about two weeks, but I think only to find out the sex n of course me being me trusted and told him. But a week has passed with no word. I get through my days just thinking about all the love my baby will have. No matter if the man is there or not, you can do it..... this world would be a totally different place if men had to take care of children.