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mother in laws!!!
I love my fiance more than anything amd we are expecting our first child in january. Were blessed to have a healthy baby girl. He is 24 & I'm 21. We have both lived very different lifestyles. I grew up with out a dad & have nothing to do with my mom. He still lives with his mom. Actually we live with his mom. The house is in his name but she has a life estate meaning she can live here til she dies. Now to the difficult part. Its our house. I do all the cooking & cleaning amdhe works and pays the bills. Yet she tries to control everything. Like tell me what to do and when to do it. Its aggravating. And she will jump in front of me amd do something then make it look like she's done evrything simply because it wasnt done the second she wanted it done. Its so stressful amd I don't know what to do. I wamt us to live on our own seeing how were starting a family but she's not going amywhere. This is here babys first baby so she wants control. Just like I amted just me amd my fiance in the room whe I have the baby but she's pushed her way into.being in there. Our daughter is getting his moms middle name too because none of her other 12 grandchildren have been nammed after her. I'm so aggravated because she's stuck in her ways and trys to parent my fiance when he is grown! She also says all the time she's gonna give the baby her first bath I'm like no! Its my baby. I just don't know what to do. I loce and care about her but can only take her in doses!
I've tried that also lol. She just talks over me. She gets hyper and tries to come across as intimidating though it doesn't work
Im in the same situation so i know how you feel. I told my fiances mother to back off and let us do this. At the end of the day, it isnt right for jer to try and take control over you and your baby, sit down quietly with a cup of tea with both of them amd tell them whats on your mind. It might or might not work but its worth a try if she's stressing you out that much.
I have! And my fiance freaks out on both of us lol. He doesn't want to come home to us arguing after working hard all week. Amd I see his point amd that's why I try to keep the peace but hell my hormones can only take so much!
I wish it was as easy as it sounds! Oh amd another thing we all smoke ciggaretes. But I've stated we are not smoking in the house when the baby comes! My fiance amd I both have agreed to go outside amd she says she osnt going in the cold that all her kids are fine when she smoked! I just feel like I'm not gonna be able to parent my own child she's already trying to make all the decisions!
You need to express how u feel to him and let him know you dont know if living with her can be a long term thing.. cause when the baby gets here shes gonna try to take control and instead of you snapping at her out of nowhere you need to put her in her place.. otherwise start making arrangements and think about whrre you can go from here.. and if uou dont want her in the delivery room kick her out now because you dont need the stress
tell her how u feel u r the mother so u have to the to give ur baby the first bath. and about the controlling tell her how u feel or just get ur own place yall are startin ur family she dont need to be there with yall everyday like that
I've tried but there isn't anything solved. The whole house gets chaotic. My finaceloves me and tells her she needs to go. She always says she's waiting on an apartment to open uo but truth is she isn't going anywhere. She says all the time she's gonna take the baby while I'm sleeping. And calls our daughter her baby. I'm just so tressed out. I wamt us to start a family on our own not with his mother in the middle of everything!
You need to tell your fiance to talk to her or you need to tell her to back off seriously. Its your baby and your gonna be stressed and miserable if she doesn't back off
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