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not something to wake up to

I am already worried about hpw I am gping to get housing assistance and how soon I will get an apartment. I am already worried about how to deal with my family constantly telling me I ruined my life by getting pregnant. And now the only person who has ever been there to support me doesnt want to be there for me anymore. Being called at 4 30 in the morning to be told "i dont know if i want to be with you anymore but i love the fu ck outta you" is not cool. For the past week one minute everything is fine and the next everything starts getting bad. He keeps asking me what is wrong with him abd gets mad when I say I dont know. After waking up to what he said I dont even know if I want him around for the rest of my ptegnancy or even there when i have our son. I am so hurt right now. I feel like I habe just waisted 3 years on the only person I habe ever loved.
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Been crying for almost 2 hours. Really dont know anymore
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I am 19 and our son is both our first. I just dont know how to take it.
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Thanks hun. I feel like part of the problem is tje women from his past hVe treated him so poorly that je doesnt know if i will do the same. But for almost 3 years i have treated him like a king. idk if hes been taking his meds or not but he has always been the only person there for me for the 3 1/2 yearse ive known him.
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You aren't being selfish at all, he may be scared and its hitting him now. I would see how things go. Maybe when your son comes out and he sees him he'll actually wanna be there. I would give it time! Please don't stress. You definitely didn't ruin your life at all. I'm 18, and its my first. I think its the best thing.(: just don't stress out its not good for you or your child. There is two people you needs to worry about  you and your child(:
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Listen mama for alot of men pregnancy is overwhelming. Theyr nervous about everything from losing private time w u to how r they guna support baby. Im willing to bet he`ll come around just give him time. That being said do not revolve ur life around him. U said ur family isnt supportive so as hard as it is u have to put it in ur mind ur going to have to woman up and go at this somewhat alone( ur not all alone bcuz baby is counting on u) there are support groups, churches that help. Even some local fire dept. And goverment offices will definatley help u. I will pray for u. Please keep ur head up. U got this lil mama. Oh and in case he doesnt grow up a bit . Put him on child support. Dont hesitate lol. Goodluck
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Am I being selfish because I dont know if I want him around anymore even though he said he does want to still be there for me just doesnt want to be with me?.
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