Feeling guilty about having second baby...

[LuvinMyBoysJLP]

So my son is 4 years old and I am 34 weeks pregnant with my second boy. Lately I have been feeling so guilty about having another baby. For a long time I thought my oldest son would be an only child so when I got pregnant I was shocked. My son is so excited to have a brother, but its hitting me that I won't be able to spoil him the way Ive done his whole life. When I go baby shopping I feel like I have to get him something too and I can't afford it. And today was the worst. Me and my hubby live with his parents so we can save up for a house but of course this means us and 2 kids in one room, so today I had to take out my sons toddler bed and replace it with baby's bassinet. We r keeping his mattress in the room so at night he can still sleep on it and during the day we just lean it up against the wall. Hopefully we'll be in our own place by may. My kids are both gunna be very loved and they won't ever need anything but reality hit me that I won't always be able to get them everything they want. Now I know how my parents felt. Lol. Anyone else struggling with similar situations???

[masonsmom131]

When I found out I was pregnant for the second time I almost immediately felt like that. I have a son who will be 2 jan 31st an hes my everything. I only work 3 days a wk an my husband works 5-6 day a week 10-14hr days, so me an mason are together a lot just him an I. I feel bad that once this baby is born I wont have
the time for him like I use to if that makes sense. I worrying about how to devide my time between the two of them b/c as of right now I don't think masons that thrilled to share his mom.

[edensinterstate]

I have a 4 1/2 year old boy and 35 weeks with my second boy. I know how you feel. He's my baby so it's going to be an adjustment having two babies. At least if i was.having a girl i could still say he's my baby boy but now I'll have two lol. Just think that they will always be your first born!

[LuvinMyBoysJLP]

Thank God I'm not alone. Lol. I know my kids are taken care of and we may not be rich and have the best things but the have nice things. I bet I'm more upset about not being able to buymy son all his toys then he is lol.

[teregarcalva]

I'm starting to feel guitly about this as well. I have a 4 year old boy and I'm 32 weeks pregnant with a little girl. He's taken it very well and helps me look for stuff when we go shopping for the baby but I've taught him that she needs things because she doesn't have all the clothes, shoes, toys, and all that stuff that he does so he doesn't ask for anything unless I ask if he wants something and he's ok with that. We just moved into a bigger place and got really set back with money due to car problems but I know we'll get past it. What kills me is that it's been me and him this far we do everything together and I know once the baby is born I won't have as much time as I always have with him. My husband is a Marine so he's gone most of the day and is gone for weeks sometimes for training so my son is super attached to me. My son has been my sun and moon for so long it's hard to think that he may feel like he isn't that anymore when the baby comes. I hope I can give him all the attention I do now because I believe that's a lot more valuable than giving him stuff money can buy. We'll all get through this though.

[traytonsmama2010]

I'm also feeling guilty this is my second child we are having a girl and we have a 3 year old boy I'm a stay at home mom so it's me and him all the time he is a major mamas boy every time we buy her something he always wants something to but I wonder how he is gonna feel when she gets here especially because I will be breast feeding her so she is gonna need a lot of my attention but I'm trying to keep him involved so it won't be to bad

[aubsivy]

My daughter is 4 and I am 35w pregnant with my second daughter. I always wanted 4 children, but after having just one for so long I didn't think how it would be to add more. My daughter has taken most of it well and she is excited but she has her moments where I can tell for her it might be hard.. she has been the centre of my world for so long. We own our house so room wise we are ok. But financially it's tight! We both make pretty good money but with me on matleave and going back to school soon after money is beyond tight. I know right now I can't financially provide the world for my daughter. But I know I don't need to! Thus far she has had a life of pricey sports and gymnastics and for the next year all of That will need to stop. But if you provide your children with love and tor basics that is all you need. And my daughter will come to understand love is an ever expanding thing and that my love for her hasn't changed because we added another family member.. it's just expanded because now we have one more.person to love her and for her to set an example for. Hope That helps. I think all moms feel that

[aubsivy]

My daughter is 4 and I am 35w pregnant with my second daughter. I always wanted 4 children, but after having just one for so long I didn't think how it would be to add more. My daughter has taken most of it well and she is excited but she has her moments where I can tell for her it might be hard.. she has been the centre of my world for so long. We own our house so room wise we are ok. But financially it's tight! We both make pretty good money but with me on matleave and going back to school soon after money is beyond tight. I know right now I can't financially provide the world for my daughter. But I know I don't need to! Thus far she has had a life of pricey sports and gymnastics and for the next year all of That will need to stop. But if you provide your children with love and tor basics that is all you need. And my daughter will come to understand love is an ever expanding thing and that my love for her hasn't changed because we added another family member.. it's just expanded because now we have one more.person to love her and for her to set an example for. Hope That helps. I think all moms feel that