need to vent to ppl who will understand.

[khs1019]

Hey, so im a ftm. Over due (41 weeks). My bf has a 13yr old son who now lives with us. My bf has 2 jobs so hes usually busy durring the day and doesnt regularly come home until after his son's bedtime. It was brought up to our attention earlier in the year that his son was slipping academically. Needless to say, his report card came andd it was mostly all F's. So, we have a system going and now his HW and agenda gets checked. Who checks it? I do. Why? Because im home alone with him while his dad is at work. I go over his HW everyday. Make sure he has the right answers and make him study and actually read his assignments. He has improved so much! But, now that im over due i can go to the hosp. Any time now. We dont have anyone to stay with him and supervise him. So, my bf will be coming home to change his uniform and check upon him. (hes old enough to stay home for long periods plus has a cel) but i know, he wont crack down on HW like hes supposed to. So i asked my bf "who is gonna make sure he does his HW right. Not just do it, but actually do it right instead of writting something just for the sake of writting and being done" my bf said "Im not stupid, i know how to check his HW" and i told him "ok, what about if he has to fix things in his HW, u come home around 12 or 1am, what are ypu gonna do? Wake him up to fix it?" and his brilliant response was "he has a cel. Its not like he cant call you" (O.O) i tried explaining to him that i wont be able to deal with a newborn and the frustrating process of doing HW with a reluctant teen who takes around 4 hours to do a math HW. Plus, ill be tired and trying to figure out a scheadule and rhythm on how to do this "new mom" thing. And needless to say, he said "the baby is gonna be sleeping most of the time anyway" him assuming im still gonna have time amd energy to do it. Ugh!! Why doesnt he get it!! So, i ended the converaation with "whatever, ill just let you figure it out." before it turned into an argument. But honestly im upset at how blind he is to this. And i left it alone because im looking forward to get laid in hopes of inducing labor.

[khs1019]

Just got home from visiting the hospital. The baby wasn't moving as much, but everything is alright.  Unfortunately I'm getting induced friday. Being over 42 weeks can pose a danger to the both of us.

[Jadabug55]

Any luck???

[khs1019]

Thanks. :) i do care. I love that lil guy a lot even if he doesnt see it or understand it. I was him when i was his age. I had a stepmom just like myself who for years i didnt get along with because i didnt understand and thought i knew everything. Lol, now a day i call her and thanked her for being how she was with me because its because of her i know how to do things with him. Thank you all for the feedback, opinions and encouragement. It does help to relax when venting to girls who not only listen but  write back as well. It makes my day to not feel so alone when i can come into this community.

Girls, i wish you all nothing but the very best, whether its your first or not. As i am learning, being a parent is no joke and most definitely not an easy task especially if you are "mom, the go-to for absolutely everything" parent.

Hugs -Kay.

[Jadabug55]

Well you can slowly lose your mucus plug. So I wouldn't doubt it. And you haven't had any unusual pains or anything?  Hmm and as for your bfs son I think you are really considerate for helping out with him. I hope everything goes well until he goes to his moms. It seems like you really care about him and his education and not many women are lile that when guys have other kids before them. I give you props.
as for labor I wish you luck I hope it comes for ya soon I'll bet your ready to pop. :)

[khs1019]

Needless to say, hes the only straight arrow left, hes a good kid, just lazy and easily distracted. At 13 i understand u wanting to do everything else besides school.  But, school is whats important then if he fails to see that and understand. We try to motivate him just as much as we reprimand him for not doing what hes supposed to.

My bf plans on being at home with him until he has to leave for the next job, which is only an hour and a half at best. But, i honestly just think i should let dad figure it out. He doesn't get it.

Lol, and as far as getting laid for inducing, nothing. Ugh! I think ive been slowly loosing my plug because i bleed afterwards a lil. Tissue turns pink and some discharge with blood comes out.. But its been like that for 3 days. I'm 1 week over due...

[khs1019]

Lol. Im a hardass at school too. Hes planningto live nxt yr with him mom. (i believe its bcus we're so hard on him on school.) he says its because he misses her.. Idk. But, letting him fail isnt an option. Hes the youngest out of 4 (half bros n sis, my bfs only biological kid) and his mom n oldest dropped out. His sis dropped out for a yr n then enrolled herself in an alternative school after and his 2 older bro. Had to be given custody to 1 of his moms friend bcus he wasnt going to school n started gang bsnging

[Jadabug55]

I think after school is a good idea. Leaving him bw to let him fail isnt I know that cause my parents said oh well just fail and I did and got badly behind. Butmaybe just find a way to motivate him but I say you shouldn't be worried about it right now a few days when you are in the hospital shouldn't hurt. Hopefully your bf will check on him at least a little that should be good until you can figure something else out. Guys dont get certain things lol. And haha getting laid to help labor is a good idea...sometimes it makes me have Braxton hicks so who knows. Good luck and congrats.:)

[Bishopsbaby13015]

Me being the hard *** I am would just tell the teenager if he wants to repeat the grade then hell repeat the grade. That it doesn't hurt your feelings if he fails. Just makes the schooling process longer and harder on him. Maybe he'll turn it around? Sometimes reverse psychology Will work..good luck!

[khs1019]

He's in chess club mon and wed and im not sure if school provides tutoring. I feel his teacher would of said something about it, since she signs his agenda to make sure he wrote all his hw down and i sign it once it's all done.

[Zhy_is_Expecting]

Men will never understand the sacrifices women make by being pregnant & dealing with a new born. It can be really stressful. He doesn't have an after school program he can go to to help with hw? That would really help him & take some time off of your hands

[wizzy23]

Lol the getting laid part is funny.....bt i think you guys should have him stay after school for tutoring...they actually make sure that the work is right....it does not seem like you guys have time at all so making some time for him would be nice...hes a teen so he would like that n at dat age you need a little attention if not from ur mother then frm your father...