i lost my baby :(

[ema1982]

i lost my baby on the 1st june :( could not understand why ? did everything right .i have 2 kids boy 8 and girl 6 . i was 9weeks preg iv lost 2 babys already few years ago and they where bad . and one they missed to see and i had realy bad time :( . this baby iv just lost i had no pain just bleed but a scan showed that there was no baby :( x i did a test today which said i was still preg . how long does it take to come out your body just wont my baby and if that means trying again i will . this is the worst feeling anyone can go thow :( its killing me so much is to why the docter cant give me answers xx hope every last one off you ladies are all ok and lets hope we all have some good news soon xx thank you for reading xx


This discussion is related to Can I be pregnant after I had a miscarriage?.

[claire5522]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I was in the same situation 11 weeks ago and I felt exactly like you do now.  Why???? Its not a nice feeling and the most important thing to remember is that it is not your fault and there was nothing you could have done to change it. I felt that I didnt really have the right to be as upset as I was, its taken for granted that m/c happen the woman takes a day or two and then she is supposed to get on with things. So I kept a lot of feelings to myself and 5 weeks after when I still had teary days and I realised that I wasnt handling it on my own I went to my GP and he sent me for grief counseling. I only went once.  Even to hear that this feeling wasnt unusual calmed me down immensely.

So if you feel you need to sit in the corner and cry do that. The day will come where you dont feel that anymore.  If you need counseling look into where you can get it.  You have gone through a horrible experience and you need to deal with it in the way that is appropriate for you.  A word of reassurance those feeling do go away, you will never forget it and I'm not playing it down but they do go away or to say your at peace with it is probably a better explanation.

Best of luck with the future and take care of yourself over these weeks x

[ema1982]

thank you all for your kind words . iv got go in for a scan tomz and blood tests just to checked over x its is so hard and ya thats all i wont to do is to sit in a corner and cry xx :( xxx

[pregagain28]

Im so sorry for your loss. We all feel for you and everyone else going through the same thing at this time. I had one in dec and am finally pregnant again. Time heals the pain xx

[PriceFamily91611]

I'm sorry and ur in prayers!

[RmberMe69]

I am sorry to see you go through this, I know it kills. I lost a baby in Oct last year. I was crushed. I couldn't see or talk to anyone, stayed in my room for days on end. I didn't have that much pain as I was miscarrying, just felt like bad period pain.

[PetiteWonder]

My first pregnancy ended like this...  I found out at 12 weeks that all I had was an empty sac..  I had no pain, no cramps, etc..  It was really devastating...  Generally it isnt anything you did, it tends to be caused by an abnormal chromosal thing during the conception and implantation stage not afterwards...  I knew looking at the monitor that something was wrong, I couldnt see anything except a small black blob.... Then the lady left the room to speak to the doctor and they came back and told us....    It felt unreal...

At the time, my sac measured 7 weeks 5 days... I ended up getting a d&c because I showed no signs of passing it and it had been in me for so many weeks already...  It can take anywhere from weeks to months to pass. Generally if you dont pass it in a couple weeks, they will recommend the pills or a d&c to avoid infection...

You will most likely continue to test positive until the sac is gone because your HCG isnt dropping at a steady rate right now...  After my d&c, I still was testing positive for a week and a half....