pregnant

[nique318]

So, I just found out I was pregnant recently and I do not know how to tell my mother. I am 24 years of age just shy of being 25. I know she will be disappointed in me.  So how can I break.the news to my mother and family?

[aly_e]

You will be fine. If your with the dad you should focus on yalls relationship.your not 16. Im 24 with number 2 on the way. Forget what your mom thinks bc she no longer supports you.you've done the right thing.when I got pg I told mhy mom y would u be disappointed? Babies are a blessing and nothing else. If you love me as your daughter then choose not to be angry ams bitter but joyous and content and have an open heart full of love for this miracle of life. I told her I needed her support and she mad for 1/2a second and I told her to get ovet herself and she did

[worriedbabe]

I had to tell my dad that i'd fallen pregnant at 18. I'd done well at school and found out i was pregnant the same day i got the grades to do a degree that there were only ten places for in the uk. And yes, his reaction wasn't great...he came round with my aunty and advised me to have an abortion. I did not. What's important is how YOU feel about being pregnant. If it's right for you - then go with it. Sure, it might get your family's back up for a while, but in time they will come to terms with it. You do what's right for you, and give others the time and space to deal with it. By the way, my children are still the only grandchildren my father has. He has never missed a birthday or christmas and wouldn't be without them. He even waited in the corridor whilst i gave birth and has been a good support ever since. Just tell her, and try not to let her reaction hurt you. Good luck x

[deniellejs]

Well said happymommy. sounds to me your mom can be very controlling. TIME to STAND up for yourself hun. you are a woman not a child. your choices in life have to make you happy. NOT the next person. your choices may hurt someone along the way but a true FRIEND (family or not) will stand right behind you regardless of what you decide in life.

[HappyMommy2Be]

I can understand your plight, Nique, BUT you do have to find strength in yourself for you and the baby. They may talk about you and your mom may be disappointed but you're 24. You can't keep trying to cater to her feelings. Think about you for once. This might not have been in your plans or her plans for you, but oh well - it's the reality now!! You'll be fine. My parents had me at 16. You are 24 and a college graduate!! Be proud of yourself, nobody's perfect. Hope for the best, but PREPARE for the worst. Deep breath, then tell her. Good luck!!

[nique318]

Thank u everyone. For your suggestions but my mother is very difficult. I feel like she wont talk to me for a while and my family will talk about me behind my back. My family is a very close knit family and it seems as if they will frown upon me. I feel like I have met there standards. I have a college degree but I just need to work on getting a better job because my job don't pay me alot. They are going to be so mad at because they have high expectations of me.

[deniellejs]

I been there dont that. With this pregnancy my mother did not know when my father passed away. only because I didnt not want to concern her while my father was in ICU. So about a week after my father had passed I realized I must tell her. maybe it will help her cope. I knew she would be disappointed at the same time. But I am 35 2 of my children already graduated high school. she actually took it very well. I dont know you or your mom but its best to be straight forward. if I were you I would just go for it either by phone or face to face.  good luck

[Heatherm4]

I was in the same boat as you only a year older. I didn't know how to tell my dad. I'm not sure what it is that's in us but we always have that part of us that still feels like a child. We are adults but sometimes it doesn't feel that way.
My dads reaction was great....it almost seemed like he was going to cry. And when my son came, he is the love of his life. He called me every day for the first 2 or 3 weeks after he was born.
When he is sick...he calls or texts me and asks me how he's doing. It's very sweet.
Just tell her you have something very exciting to share with her...or include it in a card for Christmas. Love from you and baby!

[BeautifulBrat]

Been there and all I can say at this point is worrieing about you and your baby takes top prority over worrieing what your mom will think but know one thing no matter what happens or how she will fill it will all change once that babys born and she will fall in love the moment he or she enters this world