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[scillacts]

Ladies I just want some opinions. How would you feel if your husband/boyfriend calls you & tell you oh my parents called me & told me something that is bad news & Sunday he wants to talk to his son (my husband) & his sisters. But they tell me I can't tell you nothing & so on & this is not the 1st he has done this it's like why even call me & tell me but then tell oh they me not to tell you.?! & yes I got mad & told why I thought I was part of the family & this is why I don't even bother even talking to them. They only speaks Spanish & I only know a few but it's like who the hell am it's gonna tell.? All his family speaks only Spanish so we don't communicate wats so ever. Which I don't care. But it just upsets me that I hate that I don't feel as part of the family :(

[smallbby]

I can see why you would feel frustrated.. as his partner you feel like you are a team and should be involved in major issues in his life. Thats natural for a woman also especially a soon to be mother with protective and caring tendencies. But think of it this way... its nothing for you to stress about stay in your own world and pick up a hobby. I know it feels like he's being a jerk but life is so stressful if anything appreciate that you dont have to pick up theres just worry about whats important you and your baby.

[PeaceANDLove11]

Well he needs to break that silence tradition. I know this sounds messed up, but he's supposed to make you happy honey! He's not married to his family. But, if it's to the point where when it comes up that it starts an argument then don't even bother love. But, keep Ya head up and stay positive. Don't let it continue to get you worked up.

[scillacts]

It just upset me that they say I'm family & this & that but if I am then why they continued to tell him not to tell me nothing. I told him how I felt but he just says if they don't want me to then I'm not. So I told him how would you like it if I found out I had cancer & only told my parents & didn't even tell you & he ignores me & says babe im not telling you to start an arguement I'm just telling you because Sunday were all talking & they just don't want me to tell you nothing. But as his wife I think I should know too. But we'll see if he does :/ & yes his family are like that they are very old school mexican.

[PeaceANDLove11]

But it shouldn't be about race, you know? They should make you feel comfortable instead of feeling like you can be apart of somethings and can't be apart of somethings.

[miri167]

I know because I am part of a Hispanic family

[miri167]

Some Hispanic families dont like to share everything especially if u are not married.  The reason he might have mentioned it is so 1 you know wherer he is whats taking so long and 2 he wants to talk about it but is not certain if he should share since his parents said not too dont take it personal .. you can always ask him if something is wrong or if it has to do with u

[PeaceANDLove11]

I think you should definitely tell him how you feel. Your husband, as your husband, & his family, should make you feel apart of things instead of in the dark about it. Don't blow things out proportion and make it an argument, but definitely express yourself. It's a big difference from being just in a relationship and being married. You become one in marriage. I totally agree with you 100% Peace sister.

[Roo1029]

I now how u feel my bfs mom was  like it is even yours and don't think I'm gonna start talking to her now I didn't before like wow some people