not sure what to do..

[baysmama24]

My ex & I were together for 5 years. we have a 3 yr old together & I am having a c section w our second daughter 6 wks from Friday. He & I were doing great until I got pregnant in November. at first he was happy but a few weeks into it he started going out A LOT. staying out all night. not answering my calls. he would stay gone until the next morning. Went on a vacation & told me about it just a few days before he left. so I moved my daughter & I out. we have been gone for 3 weeks. he didn't try to say sorry or work things out so I went ahead & got a apartment. He doesn't ask if we need anything. barely ask about the baby at all. I doubt he even knows when I'm due. my question is should I let him in the delivery room when I have her? I feel like he doesn't deserve to be there. he hasn't bought one outfit or one box of diapers. Hes given me $40 in three weeks. I'm so disgusted w him after everything he's put us through he's the last person I want to be around ESPECIALLY during a c section. what should I do? I am so nervous for the surgery I want someone there to comfort me & someone I am comfortable w. I think he is just going to stress me out or make me even more upset then I already have been for 33 weeks. such a hard choice. Any advice would help.

[baysmama24]

I'm sorry you are going through it as well. Guys are such jerks! My brother is helping me financially thank God bc it was my exs idea for me to quit working a year and half ago & nobody is going to hire someone so pregnant. my mom has been here for me but I know her seeing me so upset hurts her just as bad. on one hand I want him to be there bc its the birth of his daughter & I feel selfish taking that from him. but then I think of how he left me & our three year old alone all those nights while he did whatever he was doing & let his family go like no big deal.

[storyofjesi]

I'm sorry for what you're having to go through. It's a hard decision to make. I've been weighing out the same decision and still have yet to decide but I think what it comes down to is what you're comfortable with. I think I will just have my mom there with me. I couldn't live without her and she's been there for me through everything. The fact that the father hasn't makes it a little easier. I hope you have someone you can rely on for support too.