shower rules

[rainbowbb]

I'm 18wks and need to know if I should try and throw my own showe?cause I was always under the impression someone threw one for the expectant mother. I ask mainly because my husband's military and we are moving away from my family right as I enter the 3rd trimester and we'll be in a state with no one around to celebrate with. We can't have it in the new state with future friends cause he'll be busy with work/school training and are only there for 6 months. We'll also be to far away for any family to come to it. With all that being said my family knows when we leave and no one's offered to throw one and I can't justify spending money right now on food and decorations and invites when we leave in a month and a half. This is my 3rd pregnancy but FIRST child and everyone knows this so I feel kinda hurt I'm expected to throw myself one when they all know how little time and money we'll have do to moving. I'm torn. What should I do and what's the proper etticate to who throws the shower??

[crisfigg]

I live in Ohio all my family and friends live in California and my mom is set on a "Skype shower" which is actually popular for moms who are pregnant in the army. When you register at babies r us or target people have the option to get it delivered to your home on that date. So you pretty much have all your friends family meet somewhere whether it be a friends house or your parents home. Have the Skype ready so when all your gifts arrive they'll be able to see you open them. I think it's an awesome idea but to be honest I don't speak to most of my friends due to me being pregnant so I'm not doing any kind of baby shower I just posted something on Facebook that if anyone did want to send something to message me and I'll send my address and that it was greatly appreciated I just don't want to be disappointed if it didn't go as planned.

[rainbowbb]

They're not planning a surprise shower because we don't live in the same town as them. There has to be some involvement on my part so they know we'll be able to make it down

[K_Madrid]

What if they're planning a surprise shower for you? If you don't have the money and time to do it yourself don't do it. You might end up spending more money on decorations and food than on things you need for the baby. If it happens it happens, if not then don't stress over it.

[Cindy0624]

Dey say someone is suppose to throw the shower for u , I went my whole pregnancy thinkin my sis was gonna do it for me. When she finally said she wasn't goin to cuz of money issues I decided fine I'll throw my own, sum thing small only family a few friends n I'm actually goin to do it at a park dats how last minute it is. But anyways I set my date n now all the family is askin how dey can help n dey have said they'll cook for the shower , my sister is actually the one who is ending paying for decorations n everything, I haven't wasted any money yet on it. So maybe u can throw something small n family will den say they wanna help out .