sick of the depression

[babymama1985]

So ive posted on here before with the problems of my babydaddy but it seems to just get worse. It hurts still being in love with the man but now hes dating the woman he cheated on me with. Im 23 weeks for it seems that no matter what i do...how happy i try to be its just one blpw after another. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression a long time ago and was on prozac before i got pregnant but went off them abruptly when i found out i was pregnant. Hes pretty much nonexistent but the times we would talk or when he would come to the 3appts that he was actually at i would ask if he was seeing, dating, talking to anyone else .....it was always no no no....so i foubd he has been lying to me for who knows how long and i am just so torn up about how he doesn't care how he efdects me and in turn effects the baby. I dont understand men like that. How can u say u care about your son when all u do is prove everyday that

[momabear86]

Then leave him at that. Everything you do now should be for you and the baby and no one else.

[momabear86]

Then leave him at that. Everything you do now should be for you and the baby and no one else.

[babymama1985]

I realize that's life. I havr been thru other unfair things but no one will tell me that what he is doing is the right thing to do. Sorey but i just dont think thats true. I realize i cant control him and that's perfectly fine but i dont havr to give him anything either. What goes around comes around. No one gets away with anything like that...cuz look u have unprotected sex and the consequences are a baby. So u act like an uncaring selfish butt and there's things that happen in turn with that. I dont know the actions i should take after thw baby is born but i did leave the door open by telling him that he knows when the due date is and my number. Im sure by that time i will let him.know when i go to the hospital but as of right now (seeing as this just happened last week witg him ) i cant see anything good about him.or even give him.the benefit of the doubt at this point. Never said that couldnt change tho. Alot things can change by then and im only talking about myself in that too. Hes a hopeless cause to me.

[momabear86]

You keep going on how unfair it is well that's life! We carry, care and go through pain of labour. If you didn't want to do that then don't get pregnant! The fact is he may not care and may not be a dad but like others have said he won't be the first and Defo not the last. Give him the opportunity to be there but for all intensive purposes your on your own.

[babymama1985]

Oh and ladies dont defend him...do i mention.the fact thay we got into a fight and the next night he went out and found this ho at a bar? Our relationship is over...and it pisses me off that i get treated like i am.not carrying his child inside me? How can the mom.not be important?  We bring this life in the world while the father sits back and gets to just reap rewards. And honestly annie...um.the men find appts boring? So what?  It is such a little thing compared to what we do as in pushing a baby out a hole the size of a grape. But yes lets just make excuses foe the men because pregnancy is so hard for them. Now u sound like thw father....its all on me and he has no contributions. Well i will tell u this in a perfect world i would ignore his dumb self but when u havw a child with someone u can nevee forget them. U will always have a connection. Oh and did i forget to mention that he doesn't think this is his kid or hes not sure it is. Even tho i was livibg at his house and on the phone with him 24/7. And never once even thought about cheating on him. I have to be accountable for my own.actions but no one is going to tell me that how he has actes and is acting is ok in any way shape or form.

[babymama1985]

Maybe he didnt wanna upset me but maybe hes just a lying sack of poo. Theres all sorts of other things thay have happened. The fact that he says hr loves me but just cant be with me right now...but maybe in the future. I think the fact is that he kust wants to do what he wants at this point and doesnt wanna deal with the inconvenience of the pregnancy. I honestly dont see how anyone can say this is ok...donating sperm does a father make. Maybe he will step up but unfortunately i will not be rolling over and making it easy. He will have to makw the effort to call if he wants to see his son...je will havr to deal with supervised visits until i feel i can trust him.in anything. He has not shown any interest besides doing as little as he can and then turning around and saying he cares. Now im not trying to be mean but annie think of this. U just had your little boy and the father who has been nothing bit a piece of poo the entirw time and who as treated u as if u have done nothing important by creating this life thinks hes gonna come around and demand time with his son and oh yeah hes a newborn and he thinks hes gonna take him for the day when thats the time he is supposed to be havong to bond with his primary care giver oh amd to top it all off hes going to have ur baby around the girl he screwed around on u with...and playing house with ur little one....now tell me how you would react...true i still love him but i could get over that. Its the lying and deceit that really burns me. And just xuz youre not witj someone does not mean u should treat them like that. Especially when u still talk to tjat person and she is the mother of your child. I just think this situation was complicated enough witjout adding another person into it. It was going to be hard enough to let my baby go for a couple hours with just him.but now im gonna have to deal with some woman.thinking shes gonna play mommy with my baby.