deep breath, megan! Hormones and exhaustion at the end of pregnancy can cause you to break down. I had one of those breakdowns at 330AM the other day when my 3-year-old decided to wake up and start making demands for no reason at 3AM. I remember sitting outside of her door and crying and begging her to go to sleep and leave me alone.
LOL...just because it shouldn't happen doesn't mean it doesn't happen! now, the best thing to do would be to take your daughter in your arms today, apologize for what happened, and explain that mommy is tired and having a hard time. say that what she did was wrong - if it's her responsibility to pick up toys, she needs to do what she's supposed to do. my 3-year-old cleans up her own room every night, with a little help from daddy, and there's no excuse for her not to. even my 16-month-old is expected to pick up toys at night...most of what he picks up just gets moved, not cleaned, but it's a start to the process. So I think it's fair of you to ask her to do this.
But I've got to be honest..you need to pick your battles. If you're so overwrought and breaking down because of exhaustion and hormones, perhaps the living room can stay dirty. If you feel like you're going to freak out again, just walk away from whatever is causing the issue. If it's an issue with your daughter (she's not doing something, she's doing something) explain that you are not happy with her behavior, but that you will talk to her about it later. And go sit down!
You're only going to be pregnant for so many more weeks, so do whatever it takes to stay calm and relaxed until then..even if it means letting the living room get messy, or letting your daughter get away with a behavior once in awhile....it won't turn into a permanent habit just because you had to give up on cleaning the living room ONCE or TWICE.
take it easy on yourself, and take it easy on her - i'm positive she senses some of your frustration and exhaustion and with the new baby coming she is GOING to act out...so expect it, prepare, and be ready to walk away before a situation escalates.
It's ok you have nothing to be ashamed of...yeah of course it shouldn't have happened, but I know as a mother of 2 and 23wks with baby #3....you can't be perfect all the time!
what can i say. my daughter never pic her toys. i always clean the living room at neight . you shouldnt have breakdown such a common thing .