soon to be war???

[teala91]

Im 10+3 n i got a feeling that there is gonna be a war between my mom n bf, because i want my mom in the delivery room with me along with my bf, but... my bf doesn't want my mom in there, he said it would be too weird. I want her in there cuz it'll make me comfortable knowing she's beside me n plus this is her first grand baby. Also the bf thinks that if my mom is in there, then his mom can be in the delivery room as well, but i don't want her in there.

Any opinions????

[MexicanMommy]

You know what you shouldn't worry about this, because is your moment and if  you want your mom & Bf there is up to you, your mother-law could wait a few mins when you come out of delivery room, and she could be the first one to see the baby from your Bf side!! Is just embarrassing having your mother-law in the room. that's what I did with my 1st daughter and I'm doing it again with my 2nd one. :) good luck! ;)

[lanestonsmommy]

Well the baby isn't coming out of your bf's penis..if that were the case I'd say sure his mom could be there..I'm sorry but my husband and my mom will be the only people to see me laid up in a bed with my legs spread pushing a baby out.i understand its his mama but he's not the one giving birth therefore it's no place for his mama to be all up in your private area.him and YOUR mama have seen your private,not his mama.i can fully understand why you would be uncomfortable.do what YOU want and what makes YOU feel comfy.dont let anyone make you feel bad bc you want your privacy.i don't feel it's a place for other people except the doctors,the man that helped you make the baby,and your mom(bc she birthed YOU!)it's completely your choice!

[teala91]

Well i still have a ways to go (August 24) so hopefully things might change, not getting my hopes up, but thanks to everyone

[taylormae1228]

Ok. Umm your mother is there to support YOU!!!! You are the one pushing a baby out of YOUR body. YOU are the onethat need the support and comfort. ITS all about you when YOUR in labor. When the baby gets there then its about YOU, BABY AND DADDY. But untill that baby leaves your body. Its about making YOU comfortable. And having someone in the room your not comfortable with could just cause problems and stress To you and baby.

[teala91]

Ladybeeley: i didn't think of that, but i could do it that way, n still let them be the first of the family to see baby

[teala91]

I get along with his mom, but im in the same boat as he is with my mom, he would feel weird, as of i would feel weird with his mom in the room, i understand that we're all women n we all have the same thing, but still i don't want her staring at my cooch

[LadyBeeley]

Did you consider having your mom in to coach you right up to delivery? Then the docs will tell her baby is coming time to leave and both of you share the birth moment just the two of you. That way neither mother is left out. Your mother can coach and comfort you, and you both get privacy during the special birth moment.

[joyitapreciosa]

I had to have my mom there,i felt so good jst by looking @ her,i wanted to show her how strong i was also jst like she was and has been for me..ofcourse my bf wanted to be there and he said if my mom was going to be there his mom was to..i dnt get along wit her,so on my birth plan i had that no one but my mother and bf cld b there.. his mom nd sister went but they didnt let them in :)p...i kno perhaps rude nd mean butt hey who is pushing a bby wit lots of pain,nd fr ppl u dnt get along wit to make that special day wit anger...nope nope :) goodluck

[teala91]

Well i did think that neither one of our moms would be in the room but they could be the first ones to see the baby, n if i get to the point that i really want my mom in the room at the last second then id have her come in

[rainfamily16]

I think its weird to have a mother in law in the room!! Your mom n bf of course since its his child and has seen you naked and all that stuff already and your mom is your mom! She knows you better then even him! Its a mother daughter thing I totally understand! He should try to also!!!

[LadyBeeley]

You have a CHILD together. It is fair of him to want his mother in there especially if youre allowing yours in there for the birth.  That sounds like youre saying your mother has every right and his none at all. Compromise. None or both. You think you will always get your way with baby in the picture? No. So learn to deal with compromise, and be happy for what you have.

[kennimae]

You are the one giving birth and the one that needs to be comfortable not him. Ultimately its up to you but be prepared if he does get mad.

[anna2424]

try to explain to him that this is your first baby and your nervous that having your mom there will make you feel more at ease, also tell him his mom is really not needed as you are the one giving birth. sometimes you have ot explain exactly how you feel. men tend to be a little less sensitive.