Wow... Um just because everything is in his name does not mean that you will be left with nothing. Maybe you guys can try couples therapy and see if there is anyway that you guys can work it out... If not then you will def need a lawyer if he is going to play it tough. I am sorry that you are going through all of this right now. HUGS!
See the base chaplain and ask about any services available through the Army for someone in your position. Also get a lawyer, Legal Aid groups might be available.