too attached child!!

[searra]

I love my kidos I really do but my youngest one is sooo attached. Hes nineteen months  old and wants me 24/7. My husband calls him my tail. If I go to the restroom hes crying underneath the door and waits loyally til I come out and then hes right back beung my tail. I feed all my childern at once and he'll pick at his food and wait til im eating and want me to give him mine. He will only go to sleep nestled under my arm and ill take him to his bed and by one in the morning hes right next to me sleep. He gets me so uncomfortable and wants to sleep sideways so im constantly changing postions trying yo find a peace of the bed for me. I usually wind up sleeping at the foot of the bed in the most uncomfortable ways. Ive tried taking him to his bed over and over and he protests and flips out of his crib over and over til I give in. anyone else in this boat or am I floating alone?

[missymay34]

I know how you feel. If it were not for my parents my daughter would not have been born alive. I am extremely high risk and my parents made sure I could carry. This pregnancy has been way more stressful without my mom here. She passed away feb. 22nd last year from a silent heart attack

[searra]

Yeah we wish we had family to trust as well neither my mother or father have seen them my husbands dad seen them a couple of times and the only one we would of trusted is my husbands mom but she also past years ago of breast cancer. So its been extremly dificult finding a sitter.

[missymay34]

That's how I am with my daughter. She has never been babysat except by my parents when my mom was alive. I am hoping this will curb the attachment issue. My dad lives 5 hours away. But its the best I can do right now as we have no one we can trust here.

[searra]

o my thats going to be soo hard for both of you ill pray for you because I cant go a couple hours without freaking out without my babies. When I had my son I cried like a baby because I couldnt put my other children to sleep. My youngest has never been babysat before. Most of my family has ever seen him yet lol.

[missymay34]

I am in the same exact boat. My dad is coming to get her for a month so we can prepare for the new baby. I know she is going to have severe seperation anxiety too

[searra]

o my goodness missymay I no it will be hard. My son makes it very hard for me to get housework done hes constantly with me hes not acting bad or anything but he plays trying to fold the clothes he wants to help but makes twice the mess in doing so lol.

[missymay34]

My daughter is the same way and she will be 2 in a week and a half. Our son will ne here in a month as well.

[searra]

Yeah me and my husband talked about it and we said no matter what were going to keep taking him to bed because were both waking up constantly and having back and neck aches trying to get comfortable. He was never attached like he is now. We bought a new house and ever sense we moved in he doesnt want to leave my sight. Hes a sweetheart and very loving he just constanly wants me.

[dancerz82]

Has he always done this or just since you got pregnant? You might have to be mean mummy and start to try to un hook from you. When you wake up and he's there take him back to his own bed. Also have u tried putting him in day Care? Even just half a day a week to give you some space and to teach him you aren't going anywhere. Or maybe just ask one of the grandparents to have him a few hours a week.

[searra]

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