Vasectomies - how long did/will your partner wait to get one once your family is complete?

[Limonada]

DH and I now have 2 beautiful boys and we feel that our family is complete.  DH intends to get a vasectomy, but says he's going to wait to call for his appointment until our youngest is 4 months old - he just turned 2 months now - and then our GP says it'll take another 2 or so months to get an appointment with the specialist who actually will do it.  

How long did your partner wait/how long will they wait once your family was/is complete?  Just curious about others' experiences.  My DH is nearly 42 years old and knows unequivocally that he is DONE with having babies!  And I'm in 100% agreement - now I just want to enjoy seeing them grow up.....and although I may have the odd twinge of nostalgia for the baby phase once I'm out of it with our youngest, I don't think I'll miss it....at least not enough to want to do it all again ;-)

[Limonada]

Thanks, ladies!  I know that it's a pretty personal thing - I was just curious to see what other people have done/are doing.  

I have heard about vasectomies reversing themselves.  And I was actually watching a show (The Mom Show, for anyone in Canada who knows what that is) where they were talking about vasectomies vs. tubals and the doctor was saying that tubals are actually more easily reversed than vasectomies....which surprised me since I always thought it was the other way around.  He said that a man should be 100% sure that he doesn't want any more children before undertaking a vasectomy.  He says that the success rate for reversals on vasectomies decreases dramatically after the first 5 years.

After DH gets his vasectomy, he's definitely going back to be tested!!

[30something13]

I think it is good to wait at least a year after your last child, you never know waht will happen! I lost my little girl and was devistated and had my tubes burned out. I do agree that for a man is better health wise then for a woman as there are jsut so many things it effects for us woman. I got remarried to the man of my dreams and I got mine reversed and am now pregnant. I really don't think that a permant thing should be done quickly. Also I know that for some men they had prostate problems afterwrds and if there are any things like that in his hsitory he should not do it from what the dr told us. Try taking your BBT and abstaining or using a condom during the fertile days till you know without a doubt it is what is right for you both and your family. Even if you don't want more doing it too son might make your feelings of regret stronger when you do get in that baby mood.

[mom2ariana]

me and dh discussed this already are about to have our first baby but we are going to do it either about a year after the 2nd or immediately after the 2nd. im a little nervous i'll get baby fever and want another baby so i thought maybe we should wait awhile just to be sure 2 was all we wanted.. but then again id feel safer having it done immediately. so i think its a personal decision. we are both planning on having it done to ensure 100% effectiveness.

[Quinns momma]

Gavin is 10 weeks old today and DH had his vasectomy 3 weeks ago.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Men are such babies about vasectomies.   But yet they want us to under surgery to have our tubes tied/burned/stitched etc.  When their procedure can be done right there in the docs office.  My DH was under the impression (i gathered this from things he said) that he was afraid of performance issues afterwards and that having a vasectomy meant he wouldn't ejaculate anymore.  He thought that the sperm and the semen were made together, I had to explain to him that they are made in seperate areas and mix together before being ejaculated and that all a "V" does is cut off the tube to the sperm so it can mix with the semen.  Geez, do men know ANYTHING?  LOL


Brittny27:  I know of several women who have ended up with another unexpected child becuase  their tubal didn't work either.

[Brittny27]

This is our first baby and we have already discussed what were doing after number 3 I would like him to get a vesectamy but he wants me to get my tubes done. We each know people that ended up with a 4th child because a vesectamy reversed itself. Make sure your husband is tested once a year to make sure it's still in effect.

I think it's a personal choice and your husband will know when the right time is.

[Victoria01]

This is our last baby and DH is getting it done right near my 6 week postpartum appointment.

[penswriter]

i've been asking my dh since our twins were 6 months old to get one. he refuses to even entertain the notion of getting "his balls cut off". even though i've explained the testicles are not removed just the semen supply is cut off...he wont. i wish he would though.

[Melka76]

I would not know - it really is a personal decision - I had my tubes tied when I was 27 after two children with my husband - our relationship fell apart quickly (were were together for 12 years) - Now I am 33 remarried and my husband has no children of his own - I thought I was done.. but I realized that I want to have one with him - maybe more - I went through IVF.
Having a vasectomy - from what I read is easily reversible ... so I would say if you are on board with this - when ever it is best for him.....