update again mom threatened me

[kimisup]

So today my mon begs me to stay with them and live in the basement to pay rent. 250 a month. That's the entire basement however they can walk up and down as they please. So my problem is my boyfriend doesn't exactly wanna live with them after how I have been treated. He is concerned about our baby. But if I move out my parents lose welfare: food stamps and medical. So they kinda need me. But when I told them the father of my child had concerns they got angry. My mother told.me she was gonna take me off the car insurance plan and etc. So that's where I stand there. Am I in the wrong or dumb for wanting to live there in order to make everyone happy?

[spoiledpreggo_lol]

If I may... I'd say these ladies are right. Your parents are GROWN! Using you for welfare is wrong to you, your kid && people who really NEED it! Don't succumb to blackmail. If she takes you off the car insurance, get your own cart insurance! They'll let you have the basement but everybody can come and go as they please and you have to pay? Where's your privacy? if you can make other plans, DO IT! There are a million programs out there that will help with housing, clothes, food, counseling, etc. all you have to do is reach out and these programs will be glad to help if you need it! If your parents see you as a food stamp check and medi-cal then you've gotta get outta there! There are other programs that can help them also but your main concern now is your daughter and new family! Sorry, I feel very strongly about this because I see stuff like this happen first hand and it's wrong. You shouldn't feel trapped! Get out! Breathe! Relax! Enjoy your family!

[kimisup]

Kimejo I wanna thank you for being blunt and honest with me. I have a little girl that I love and she loves me I gotta stop worrying about what I can't control. I am my own person and I need support not bashing. I appreciate each and everyone of you thank you so much for telling me.how it is

[Kimejo_81]

I just gotta add my two cents. For whatnots worth if your mom is threatening you or the life of your unborn baby and trying to blackmail u so she can get welfare and medical that is NOT love. I'm sorry but its not! That's a typical abusive relationship. Example: husband beats the tar out of his wife, then when she threatens to leave he cries and told her he never ment to hurt her,he wasn't thinking, blah blah. Bottom line is it will happen again and again until you leave. You now have that little baby to think abt. Who gives a rip if you mom tries to write u off. Sounds like u have a better head on your shoulders than she does. Sorry if i sound mean I have been where u are right now. You need to get out!

[kimisup]

Thank you every one. I am trying to keep from going crazy it just hurts because this is my mom

[kimisup]

Thank you you guys are truly my support system :) I think I'm gonna post a ultrasound of my daughter because I love her and I want to show her off :)

[nichole75315]

This sounds like total bs. Your father should be eligible for SSI. You're mother would be eligible for some programs if she was willing to follow state guidelines. That situation is not healthy for your child. Mom must be used to working the system... Which is rather sad. Ask yourself where you want to be in a year .... Five years. And start making changes towards that now. Personally, I'd see the baby as #1. I would leave. You don't need these issues on your plate right now, and especially once baby comes. Tell your mother she can rent her basement to a stranger and see if she gets close to $250 + food stamps + the cost of health insurance. Period. That is sad... And I'm sorry your dealing with it. As hard as leaving sounds... It's easier then this battle.!