what to do!!

[hippiemommy]

So my boyfriends grandmother just passed away last night and they were super close since she raised him she was basically his mother since his mother left him in the hospital the day he was born and he never knew his father.  So  he is super hurt  upset...  And i dont know what to do im to emotional myself since im pregnant and im not good in these situations.. all he does is hug me and cry and i dont know what to say i just sit there stuffing my face with food becuase this is really  stressing me out. I hate to see him sad because whatever he feels i feel too and i want to be strong for him but i dont know how... Ever since i met him he always told me his worst fear was his grandmother passing and now his worst fear has happened i feel so bad how can i make him feel better

[smybax]

I'm sorry honey.
maybe try and use her name somewhere and that might make him feel like shes still a part of hus childs life.
My Grandma passed a yr ago this month n my bf just sat n hugged me n did whatever i wanted, he quickly learnt not to talk much as people trying to sympathise just made me anyry because nobody can ever know what your going through.

[rachb11]

I agree with shirano when my grandpa passed my fiance just sat and listened to all my old stories about him and we talked about the memories we both had with him it was even harder because he was murdered. I cried A LOT but basically there is no making him feel better....he just needs you to be there for him its extremely hard to lose a grandparent your so close with. He'll get through it and cope on his own. Just keep being there for him....its what he needs most.

[lpewitt44]

Like the others said...just be there for him..hold him tight and let him cry.....do you know what youre having yet? Maybe try to use her name in some way as the babys name

[Shirano]

No problem at all.

[hippiemommy]

Thats a great idea ...thank you so much

[Shirano]

It's better to remain quiet. Maybe if he feels up to it have him tell you his favorite memories. That helped me a LOT when my grandma passed away.

[hippiemommy]

Thank you ! This really helped.. thats what ive been doing so far but i thought since i didn't say anything he would think i didnt care ..and i do i just didnt want to say the wrong thing

[Shirano]

Just being there for him is all you can do. if you don't know what to say or are afraid you will say the wrong thing just don't say anything and hold him. Let him know you are with him my holding him while he crystal, give him your full attention. It's hard losing a loved one and will take time but he needs to grieve you are his support and no one said Iftar you had to be strong you can cry with him. Hope this helps