how to tell everyone about my pregnancy and the father?

[mommyanddaddyd]

I'm having such a hard time telling people because the father left me at three months. I'm starting to really show and am going to need to tell my Co workers and family and friends asap... I was thinking after my appointment that makes sure baby is growing properly on Monday. Ill be 19 Weeks 3 days. I'm not embarrassed by my girl but I am of the situation I am in. my family doesn't want me to day anything either. Why are people embarrassed of this? I can't help that he left me. All this just hurts. what am I suppose to say to people when they ask about him? I work for a very prestigious job and I'm so nervous. I was thinking of saying it like this if anyone asks "well I would just rather not talk about him. He's unfortunately out of the picture at this moment. I have cared for him for 15 years and at this point all I can do is pray he comes around" how does that sound? How do I tell my bosses I'm pregnant? You think its okay to just to post a cute fb post for my family and friends?

[horsegirl1204]

I made my brother tell all my family with both my babies. I wasnt to good at telling work lol i waited til they came to me i would recomend doing that. Lol

[aclark42001]

I'm not in your situation but I admire you ladies so much! I know it has to be rough going through all of these situations. Also congrats on your bundle!!!! :) it is so exciting! Keep your head up! :) we're always here for you

[babymama1985]

Girl you and your angel are going to thrive. I am in the same.boat as you...the father has necome nothing but a liar and actually my last straw was last week with speaking to him and i wont be until my son is born. Its sad that a man would so easily give up his family for anything. I would fight to the death. Honestly everyone says oh maybe he will change maybe he will be a good dad but if hes already lying now...it only gets worse. Him changing and being a good dad is not my concern. He wont have to answer to me...only to God and his son. You are not the only one who has disappointed her family...i have too. My life is not what i thought it would be. I never ever thought i would be pregnant and alone. There is a higher purpose for us....while other women have the support of husbands and boyfriends we do not but we are also growing stronger on a daily basis and learning hard but valuable leasons. Lessons we learn from and grow much much stronger and better mothers for it. These guys will be accountable for what theyre doing and it may seem that they are getting away with it now but i know it will all catch up with them innthe end. No one is above it. And everyone has to pay. I dont wish bad on my BD. Lol but i wouldnt mind if he got a taste of his own medicine.

[mommyanddaddyd]

Oh my apologies I worded my subject wrong. It should have put how to tell everyone about my pregnancy and that I'm doing this alone. Lol so scatter brained. The father has known since I have 3 days before I would've missed my period two Weeks after conception.  

[mommyanddaddyd]

Thank you so much ladies I'm feeling more confident in releasing my exciting news that I'm expecting my beautiful baby girl!

[mommyanddaddyd]

I am so proud of her. Every time she moves around I tear up with happiness. I'm just so embarrassed and so sad that I'm the only one that wants her in this world. My family that does know has pretty much had only negative things to say. My life hasn't turned into what they wanted. Its ok though because this little girl is going to have the best life even with these awful circumstances I've put her in. I thank God everyday for her. Six months ago I had fear I would never even be able to have a child. I never would have guessed I would be pregnant now. I know I need to keep my faith in God more that he'll take care of us.

[mommyanddaddyd]

Well I'm high risk so I've actually had to leave work every other Monday since I've been pregnant. Boy have I felt so unreliable bc I haven't told them but I couldn't ESP bc I had no clue up til a few Weeks ago if my girl had a fighting chance. They do know I'm going to the doctors though. I almost think how have they not caught on : P I'm nervous to say anything because they did just let go of another female that is due in September as well without a care in the world. Their exact words were well we've let go of a lot of people with with health problems They can always get Cobra health insurance. Yes because insurance is the only reason we had the job for. Ugh sorry venting lol

[mommyanddaddyd]

Yea I think today was my last straw of talking to him on the phone. I talk to him maybe once a week and I end up so upset after. All he does is lie now. He knows he's in the wrong but he doesn't care. Not the man I fell in love with at all. This whole thing is one big joke to him now. You are right nobody wants that pity party. I'm happy to have this site bc I have no one to talk to bc I don't want to burden them and I want to avoid looking weak in front of everyone that already think I've failed.

[wifenmomto6]

Hi. I want u to be proud of Ur blessing. Rather or not the dad comes back u have been given a blessing from God. No matter what happens u find strength in God and everything will work out.

[babymama1985]

Sorry didnt finish that thought. I just try to be positive and act like it doesn't bother me. At least to outside ppl....on.here i can voice thw truth. No one wants anyones pity.

[babymama1985]

Being single.and pregnant is really tough. Im right there with you. Lol tho i have the privilege of him.calling randomly (up til last Tuesday )i and acting like hw cares and then finsing ways to tell me how horrible i am. So having evwryone ask about the father feels like a knife in the heart. The less u say about him the better...especially people at work....cuz the more details u give the more they talk. I already hate answering questions about him to ppl who are acquaintances. I just

[kaalaharvey]

I was left by my daughters 'father' at 3 months as well. It's a hard thing. What u have to do though is stand your ground with what's going to happen if he comes around or doesn't come around. I would tell your boss that you will need certain days off or be in late or leave early because u have doctor appointments. That should open the door if u want to elaborate more. People shouldn't look at you bad as he left you but u are not required to give an answer to anyone if they cannot just accept that u guys are not together anymore

[MamaBear0612]

We'll be okay. :)  Just focus on the baby, it's a beautiful thing we're doing, and it's a miracle we've been given. The fact that their fathers are sometimes dummies doesn't make that any less true.

[mommyanddaddyd]

Ok the less the better. Just talk about baby. I don't know why I'm afraid of judgment. I know when they ask about him its gonna make me cry lol I'm hoping that's avoided. Goodness this is tough. Never imagined I would be in this situation ever. Thank you

[mommyanddaddyd]

He knows I'm pregnant. This baby was planned by him... He had just completely flaked out.

[MamaBear0612]

Oh and btw I have a prestigious job too, so I know what you mean, but the people who matter will always be happy for you. Just keep that in your mind and don't let negative sorts of thoughts bother you. I felt a lot better after I announced the news, it can be very isolating at the beginning of pregnancy if you and the father don't work out and you're alone in the pregnancy.

[MamaBear0612]

I'd probably say even less...just announce the baby and focus on that. If they ask about him, tell them he's out of the picture for now and leave it at that. If they're still nosy, deliberately change the subject. It's nobody's business but your own, and your real friends and family will be supportive and focus on the blessing that is your child. My child's father and I broke up at 5 weeks and though he's around and supportive now, he wasn't until I was over 3 months along, so I had to spread the news in your circumstances. The less said about him the better, if things change you'll have time to tell them later...believe me, they'll ask repeatedly. If I had told them early on about the negative stuff going on with us, they would have stressed me out when he came back by just being mad at him, when I'm finally good with him.

[Nola18852]

In this society we live in it has almost become a norm for BD to leave the mother whilst she is pregnant, but i think firstly you have to tell the father, before he hears it from someone else and denies the baby because u ddn't tell him.
After you have told him, then you can tell everyone when you are ready to..
I only started telling ppl including my mother when i was 4months i'm 5mnths now.
I took my time to deal with the situation in my head before telling ppl, because i had to prepare myself for all sorts of questions i might b faced with, especially ppl asking me when am i getting married. But i always mention we have decided to take a break from each and blame my "hormones" because at the same time the world doesn't have to know your life story, because ppl r not the same, some might judge you for not being with BD whilst u r preggers.. Your happiness comes first you don't have to lay out your life story to everyone especially if it makes you uncomfortable, but BD has to know.

Good luck!