Condom s and STD’s truly concerned.

[scaredstraight000]

Let me start as many have before that I have made a very stupid mistake. I am a devoted family man and have never strayed. Yes I have had the occasional strip bar experience but that was it never went beyond that until recently. On a business trip I had too much to drink and my decision making was hindered because of it. I totally own my actions but I could have made better desions without the alcohol. My client decided pay for a sex worker for us. She looked very thin and I am afraid she was but unconfirmed a drug user. When we went back to our hotel room I was so nervous I could not get erect we used a condom at all times. Before she placed her mouth on my penis I placed a condom. We proceeded to have vaginal sex but again I was not fully erect and very flaccid. One of us at all times held the condom in place.  My nerves have begun to get the best of me and I am imagining every illness under the sun.  My thighs and genitals have a burning sensation. I am sure this sensation is mostly from nerves as I do not want to destroy a 17 year marriage for one night of my stupidity. Could please help me become more at ease? What is my risk factor here for HIV or other STD’s? I have read many posts saying no problem when condom is used but I could not get fully erect and fear I may have missed something. I am waiting for 3 weeks after the incident to get tested to hopefully help me on my piece of mind. If I develop something I will be sad but if I give something to my spouse I will hate myself. I am avoiding all sex with her until I get some of these results but I am unsure how long I can keep that up. Please help me and provide some insight I feel very alone, scared and stupid. Regards,

[scaredstraight000]

I have had low appetite and upset stomach since this incident which I am relating to nerves but it is causing direah. I think my nerves are getting the best of me.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and just take it easy. you are at low risk for STD as the head of your penis was covered and thats all it takes.
Symptoms appear 5 days after contact with GONO and chylmydia and would be urethera itching or burning and white discharge. You would not doubt that you had either for sure.
You did not give her oral sex and she did not give you unprotected oral either so rule out herpes ans syphilis.
If the burning is coming from your testicles and thighs, your probably so nervous that your crossing your legs alot or pulling and checking your penis and have irritated it.
I would do the testing now for the 5 day stds for Gono and chlym.
Your ok for sure

[scaredstraight000]

Life 360 Thank You,
I would say 99 percent of any symptoms I have now are due to anxiety. upset stomach, skin on pins and needles, and even dizzyness. This of course sounds much more like panic attacks. I went to my doctor today complaining of a UTI. I have had this for a long time and relate it to over stimulation of my Penis. My doctor wants to be safe and has ordered STD testing but I explained it seemed to be to soon from my last sexual encounter which i described above. She disagreed and said it would be beneficial. After your comment above I believe I may have been wrong and will schedule labs for Monday morning. She also provided my yearly prostate exam ugh! I must say that while I am frightened of HIV and Hep ABC these seemed low risk during my interaction but I am deadly afraid of Herpies and HPV as i have read that these can be contracted even with a condom. Any one of these would be a reason for my wife to know what I did and again I cannot expose her to my mistake. Can you way in a bit on these concerns? If I am not in the right forum to ask this I am sorry but I did not want to multi-post.       Regards,

[Life360_Dave]

As man to  man, i would not say anything till the test results are back. That all you need!!!!!!!! I would obstain with sex with her for a while, just tell her your not feeling ok, at least till the monday test is back. It is a urine test and she might have  the answer same day. I really really dont believe you have anything but better safe than sorry. Forget about HIV as you did not meet the contact requirement for transmission. Herpes and HPV as well. Im sure even with a alcohol high you would have noticed any open sore on her lips as you already mentioned you checked her body out when you met her.
your just fine but if you still worried continue to post or maybe post on the anxiety forum.
Please have a happy thanksgiving and be thankful you do not have any of the 5 day symptoms as without those your ok. Symptoms mean a sign, no symptoms no infection.

[scaredstraight000]

Life 360 you are very reassuring Thank you for that.
Thank you for what you guys do here!
I have read many other posters and they have many of the same questions I have. I can totally relate with many who are complaining about body aches and other seemingly similar symptoms that I am having. since I have had these before, right before a big test or speech I know what it is but its still very scary because many of the symptoms are similar upset stomach flu like symptoms. etc. You are right on I am fighting every cell in my body not tell my wife. The best thing to do is to wait until I really have something to say. I will absolutely have no sex with her. I am sure you guys a right on 90% of the time with your posts. I will try to relax and have a good holiday. You guys have a good one too. I may post over the weekend if i am feeling a little weird and just need someone to talk too. take care!  

[scaredstraight000]

Ok maybe its mostly in my head but maybe not I am feeling flu like symptoms. My family has had the flu here recently but of course you can imagine how this would be alarming. Feeling crappy maybe its all the stress I am going to drink a couple of benedril tonight to have a good nights sleep to see if this changes anything tomorrow. UGH I hate this anxiaty feeling.

[Life360_Dave]

You were a good boy for many years and had a moment of weakness partying with your friend. Nothing wrong with that, as everyone needs to cut loose once in a while. Thats life! but the good thing about all of this is that next time this comes up partying, i know you will be strong and say no.

[scaredstraight000]

I hope quoting a DR. from another forum on this site is ok.
(If so please delete this comment and sorry)

This was advice to someone else but I bet is applies to me somewhat. I bet I am totally focusing hard on what I did and my emotions are running crazy.

"Your symptoms are typical for genitally focused anxiety -- i.e. an emotional reaction to the sexual exposure, which you obviously regret.  My advice is to try to stop worrying about it, and I see no need for testing.  Of course if you develop more typical symptoms -- visible open sores or discharge of pus or mucus from your penis -- you'll need to be examined and tested. But I don't expect it to happen."

I hope this helps.  Best wishes and happy new year--  HHH, MD

[scaredstraight000]

Ok, new symptom, my right testicle hurts low throbing pain. Could it be I am just hyper aware of my body and self right now. every little pain or pinch seems like something.  
I forgot to tell you that I also used my unprotected hands and placed them inside her virgina and also later touched my face.
Gosh I am freaking a little now. Am I ok?

[Aelly]

You really do not have anything to worry about from your exposure. You were using protection even if you were flaccid. You were covered during oral sex and still covered when an attempt of vaginal sex occurred. Most people wish that they shouldn't have done what they done and they often let their anxiety get the best of them. The mind is a powerful thing and it can cause a lot of psychosomatic symptoms to occur when in fact nothing is really wrong.

[scaredstraight000]

I have developed rally sensitive skin almost like hives. I am sure this is related to my emotions and fear. Do you think I should pay a DR. on this site to review my information? I was thinking about getting tested on Monday but I am unsure my mind can wait that long. Friday is the closest time I can go. I am getting pretty nervous. Here is why, because I have read many tests cant pick up if you have caught anything for 30- 60- even 90 days this has me paranoid. Yes I used a condom this gave me protection and my posibility to direct exposure is low but the what if's? are killing me.

[Aelly]

You can go ahead and pay for an expert here on medhelp for thorough and definite peace of mind, even though you really have nothing to worry about. I am most certain that either Dr. Handsfield or Dr. Hook will discuss your problem in the utmost and intelligible manner. I can understand what you are going through and I can see it is causing you great strife but you just need to understand that you can get past this without any more worry.

[scaredstraight000]

I have paid for a Dr. opinion as well just for more peace of mind. I thank you for your help and I will continue to need it if something happens to scarfe me further as I am sure it may happen. You and 360 have been very kind. I will keep updating here for your support but At some point when this ordeal comes to a close in my mind or body I would like to donate to your team as you are volunteers. Is there a paypal or some account I can provide some cash to buy you all some coffee or something?

[Life360_Dave]

Dont worry be happy!!!! Its thanksgiving and again be thankful your STD symptom free.

[Aelly]

You're too kind but, we are just merely individuals just trying to help. There is no need for a fee or favors, just live your life and be happy just as Life 360 had put it.

[scaredstraight000]

I saw what the doctor posted and it was very encouraging. You have also encouraged me thank you for that. I have had a hard time to sleep tonight because I am beginning to feel ill. My throat has a low pain like I am developing a cold and stomach has been very upset. The doctor said this could be all mental but I did notice that these are also symptoms of either syphilus or gono. as you can imagine I am getting concerned. When you mention symptomless what specific symptoms should I look for? Soars, discharges, I have none of these but I also need to wait for 14 days or more for possible symptoms of Herpies. I was calm until I stated to feel this cold coming on.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, symptoms of gono are real burning and alot of white discharge 5 days after contact. if you dont have these then you dont have gono or chlymydia absolutly for sure. Whe you get these there is no doubt as you cannot pee without big time pain. As for syphilus and herpes you need sore to sore contact which neither of you had. You have a common cold as you said you felt the cold coming on and if  you look back at other colds you had, the feeling was the same, a cold comes on.
Also i thing that your over judgeing the girl because what she does. These people are not disease dripping people with all kinds of plagues, they are ordinary people with families and feelings and most likely take care of their bodies for protection more than most.
I think your judgeing her is causing part of your anxiety. Did you talk to her as a person? Im sure she was nice to you and needed the money. Have you talked to your friend who was with you in the room?
Just take it easy and think of nice things, you just made a mistake and your afraid, but fear is good as will keep you in line if this comes up again.
dave

[scaredstraight000]

Life, yes your right my anxiety is because I am concentrated on what she did for a living.  As you said she was very nice and I even remember asking her about STD's she said she was clean and got tested all the time. Thinking back she did her best to be careful too. So my anxiety after reading this has calm down. Can't wait to get tested on Monday to help the anxiety. Ok so now my anxiety is on HPV. I keep reading that condoms can't stop the spread of this virus. What is the likely hood of contracting this virus as I have heard it is easier to catch than even herpes?

[scaredstraight000]

Life and others here have been doing a great job but I would also like your advice on my risk for herpes and HPV as every where I read it says that there is risk of catching this even with condom use. With the more I read the more it scares me.

[scaredstraight000]

Hey anyone out there? I am really frightened right now. I have a rash on my inner thighs. It's really red and somewhat painful. (Fire /Indian burn painfull) OMG do I have an STD? What should I look for to tell if its an STD or not. It will be 2weeks since my encounter this would fit the some of what I have read. Also my stomach is upset and I have loss of appetite. I am really scared right now please let me know something?

[gracefromHHP]

this sounds like a fungal infection going on, not a std.

[scaredstraight000]

Grace! You were correct I was in a dry climate city and wore tight pants the rash went away started to disappear as fast as it came. Bu just applying cream and loose clothing. Sorry for the overreaction on that one. My doctor also decided to do a STD test for Gono, , Syph, Hep A thru C, HIV, . Pretty early for from the day of my interaction. The test was done a little over one week.  I want to wait for a full 30 to 60 days for another test. I just want to be safe and have done a good job of not having intercourse with my wife. Only symptoms I have are itchy, or hives on the skin and upset stomach. I relate this all to nerves right now. Please let me know your thoughts on this and thanks to all of you so far you have been very supportive!

[scaredstraight000]

Also note that the test was chlymida and goneria amp probe test (what ever that means) they took urine and blood. HIV Elisa and Hep and Herpies tests All negative. I know it's to soon for these viral ones but it helps a little bit. Are these good tests?

[vincyng862]

According to all knowledge that we have, protected sex and using condom properly and consistently throughout the sexual intercourse process should have no worry in any STDs. Even there is, the chance to get should be extremely small that we can neglect it. Indeed I think unless symptoms do occur if not any tests are not required!