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Pregnant and extremely worried about STD's
Hi, I'll be 33 weeks pregnant and I've been extremely worried about STDs. Long story short, when I was 5 months pregnant my husband cheated on me (unprotected vag. one time with a woman he met online, apparently tested for full panel including HIV 2 weeks prior, all negative). I got tested for gonorrhea and chalamydia 3 weeks post exposure and for HIV 2 days before the 6 week mark, all came back negative. My husband will be getting tested at 3 month mark within the next two weeks. You see, I'm nervous right now because I have an irriation on my labias. I shaved to see what it was and I didn't see any sores, however, the skin looked and felt very tender in the spots it was irritated. I have some tiny white bumps on the corners of my lips and on my upper lips but from doing research I read that they maynot be anything serious. I had a minor irritation on the left side of my lower lip but one could only see it if I had them look very closely, I have to point to it. It's dissapearing and I figure it was just cracked lips since my lips have been pretty chapped lately and from looking at cold sore pics, and talking to a nurse when I thought my daughter had a cold sore, it would have to be crusty with some pus and my lesion was far from that description. As for the tiny bumps on my lips, I read a post in the dermatology forum that it wasn't serious, according to the doctor there. I posted a question to Dr. HHH last month and he didn't think this was STD related. I had an irritation underneath my labias last month and my OB didn't bother looking at it, he just told me it was a yeast infection and he prescribed me a cream and it went away. I'm just worried because now it's in my inner labias but outside, like on the borders... Ever since my husband admitted to cheating on me, this pregnancy has been extremely difficult emotionally. The only thing that puts my mind at ease is the fact that my OB is not too worried. He's been practicing medicine for over 20 years and I'm sure I haven't been the only one who's talked to him about thse issues. Well, I'd appreciate any input here because between now and the time my husband will get tested for HIV I feel like I'm going to be more of a nervous wreck. Thanks
my in laws live 6 hours away but my mother in law is going to stay as long as I need her. my parents live out of state so they'll come later.
TWINS???? Oh my!!! Congrats? LOL May the force be with you sweetie!! I hope you have family nearby to come help you out :) Stop in now and then and keep us posted :)
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my husband just called, the test results were negative! i think tonight i'll have the first good night sleep in 3 months. With HIV ruled out, I think I'm fine but if the other issues mentioned continue, I'll talk to my OB again once he starts seeing me once a week. At that point he'll be checking my cervix andthat would be a good opportunity for him to look at that. Next week that's when the once a week visits start.
i'm having twins. I already have a 16 month old. In just a few hours my husband is going to get tested and this has been very nerve racking. From doing research, some infected people have no initial symptoms however, the majority do, and there's almost always a fever involved. Neither of us have had fevers so I hope that's a good sign. Once he tells me the results are negative, I'll request a full STD panel at my OB's office to rule out anything else. Please pray for me if you believe in God and prayer.
LOL Not a problem!!! Hang in there honey - you'll get this all figured out soon and then can get back to strengthening your relationship and getting ready for your baby :)
Do you know if you are having a girl or a boy yet? ( I just love babies - other people's babies that is - done having them myself...he he he )
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Do you know if you are having a girl or a boy yet? ( I just love babies - other people's babies that is - done having them myself...he he he )
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I'm looking them both up. I'm trying to find a place where they do same day testing.
do either healthcheckusa.com or tstd.org have participating labs near you? Sometimes they even have people who will come to your house early morning, work during lunch or later evening appointments to draw the blood too. Each lab differs. Same with his regular doctor - chances are good he can get blood drawn early a.m. or later in the evening thru them too. All he needs to do is pee in a cup and get some blood drawn.
You must be much, much nicer than I am that's all I can say.
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You must be much, much nicer than I am that's all I can say.
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well, my husband is getting tested in 2 days for HIV, the clinic I found, is a free HIV clinic where they do rapid testing. I'm hoping and praying for the best cause like I said, these have been very rough 3 months.
oops I meant to cut and paste your name and I forgot I cut and pasted that site to look up that site myself
He works a full time job, it's complicated. I'm thinking of getting an std panel next week until then just so I can have peace of mind. For me it'll be one week early from the 3 month mark of my initial exposure, hopefully that won't make a difference. These past 3 months have been absolute torture and I just can't go on like this. The way I look at it, though I've had multiple exposures in the past 3 months I should already have clear results by now
wait - your husband is too busy to go get himself tested for std's to protect you? And he still has his balls why????
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yes it has, I feel like my life and my dreams are on hold! I even feel stupid that I put myself at risk and that's what's killing me! Like I said, I tested negative for chlamydia and gonorrhea and a week is early enough to detect those. I just might request an std panel cause since my husband is busy, he asked me to arrange it.
For future reference - don't shave over an area that is irritated just so you can see it better. You risk spreading whatever it is to more parts of your body thru contaminating the razor ( plus you can cause nicks in the skin that can allow bacteria into your body ).
Has your husband had a full std panel yet? I'd be worried about other std's far more than hiv at this point. Only about 1% of adults in the US have hiv so it's a potential risk but not your first concern. I personally never believe that folks were tested for std's without ever seeing the results for myself. You have no idea if this gal was really tested or not so you need to have your husband go get the whole shebang ( I'm appalled at how many women think a yearly pap covers all the bases for std testing !!! ) . It's been a few weeks now so he can get all the bacterial std's covered. Unfortunately he won't be able to cover herpes or hpv - the herpes because it might take up to 3 months for a newly acquired infection to show up on the blood tests and hpv because there isn't a commercially available hpv test for males :(
Also shame on your OB doc for not taking your concerns seriously!!! that's completely irresponsible. Since you still have symptoms I'd try to see a different doctor in that practice if at all possible and go back and get a full work up this week. 1 you need the peace of mind and 2 to me you can't be too careful when it comes to pregnancy. Even something as common ( and not a std ) like bv can trigger premature labor so when a woman says she's irritated or has something going on - it's worth a few minutes of their time and some extra effort!
Big hugs honey - I"m sure this has been a very stressful couple of weeks for you.
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Has your husband had a full std panel yet? I'd be worried about other std's far more than hiv at this point. Only about 1% of adults in the US have hiv so it's a potential risk but not your first concern. I personally never believe that folks were tested for std's without ever seeing the results for myself. You have no idea if this gal was really tested or not so you need to have your husband go get the whole shebang ( I'm appalled at how many women think a yearly pap covers all the bases for std testing !!! ) . It's been a few weeks now so he can get all the bacterial std's covered. Unfortunately he won't be able to cover herpes or hpv - the herpes because it might take up to 3 months for a newly acquired infection to show up on the blood tests and hpv because there isn't a commercially available hpv test for males :(
Also shame on your OB doc for not taking your concerns seriously!!! that's completely irresponsible. Since you still have symptoms I'd try to see a different doctor in that practice if at all possible and go back and get a full work up this week. 1 you need the peace of mind and 2 to me you can't be too careful when it comes to pregnancy. Even something as common ( and not a std ) like bv can trigger premature labor so when a woman says she's irritated or has something going on - it's worth a few minutes of their time and some extra effort!
Big hugs honey - I"m sure this has been a very stressful couple of weeks for you.
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I once had a yeast infection where my labia major was infected and i had to put cream on there as well (not just insert the cream vaginally). If you still have some of the cream, try that, or purchase some over the counter yeast infection cream and attempt that. It could also be a physical reaction to the stress you're under.
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